Male and Female — The Male in Search of Masculinity.

Theun Marez Male and female: in search of masculinity

If you were asked what it means to be a man, how would you answer that question?

A few years ago, I myself would not have imagined how to answer this question. I would say that in our time it is not easy ... and that there are many definitions of masculinity — perhaps as many as men. So no one's gonna know. This issue is increasingly occupying men all over the world. Here and there there are more and more men’s groups — men meet to spend time in the men’s company and find new friends. But can beating drums and songs by a fire make you real men?

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to say,

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This,

What

As a child, when I got acquainted with the world around me, I was so disappointed in the actions of men that I felt uncomfortable because of the fact that the man himself. As a rule, the demonstration of "courage" that I have seen was reduced to an empty bravado, which apparently had nothing at all. It seemed that all men are completely insensitive to the world, and their actions bring only destruction. In the school locker rooms, the guys exchanged cynical jokes about women. Later, they were hired in large companies, where there was complete indifference to the impact that the fruits of their activities have on the environment, or went to work in an office where the situation was immediately drying them up. These were people who understood more than others in life, men who did not lose their taste for adventure. I saw their eyes light up when they were talking about their dreams. Sadly, these dreams have almost never come true.

Soulless, what,

How is it that the world has become so cruel or so weak that even the noblest dreams are not destined to come true? Where does the world go when the heroes give up? As a student of Theun, I realized that in order for things to happen differently, it is not at all necessary to save humanity or plunge the country into war. The greatest role here is played by the little things that happen in the life of each of us - those drops that, having overflowed the bowl, cause the effect of divergent circles. You and I can change the world! If each one of us stands tall and tries to restore honor, the power of true masculinity potential, the world will be different! If you regain your personal power, you will see what changes will happen around. But how can a person do such a thing? This is what this book is about. In simple, accessible language, this software work by Teun answers the question of what it means to be a man. Claiming that each of us has everything we need here and now, Theun proves that the seeds of truth lie at the heart of common myths about masculinity. He explains how we can find this potential in everyday life and how to stimulate it. True development is never easy, and yet it is possible.

Beauty and

Working with the material contained in this book, I got a completely new idea of male awareness. In these pages I was inspired by beauty, hope and sincerity, warmth and strength.

May you have the courage to go on this journey to experience the same joy that I experienced.

Neil Mason-Jones

Introduction

(Written in support of men in Hopefield, 28–30 May 1999)

Looking at the modern world, I always feel pain. In my ears still sound the words of one of my friends: "Where did all these heroes go?"

Who

Capable

proud

Those men,

Alas, this, unfortunately, seems to be true. What happened to all of them? Where is their masculinity? Where are the bards making songs about heroes-rescuers? The bards were gone, and there were no heroes. Their songs were gone, because the honor personified in the heroes disappeared with them. But the most acute pain comes from the realization that with the departure of the bards, beauty has disappeared. When the last knight died, so did hope. What happens when beauty and hope go away? Nothing! There remains only a cold sterile world of crime and violence, a world of hopelessness in which infirmity and apathy flourish.

Despair and peace

Nausea

ugliness and

Are there any heroes left on this earth? Is there no one in the world who can take a step to save humanity from the greatest of disasters? Is it true that all modern men are deprived of the masculine principle to such an extent that they have no choice but to be sperm donors? Injecting chemicals into their veins to numb their brains and try to numb the pain they feel because they have lost their masculinity? Are there any men who want to try?

I don’t know any heroes who are now walking on this earth, I haven’t heard of any saviors. But I ask myself, if I don’t like it, who am I? Yeah, maybe I don't feel like a real hero-savior, but at least I want to try to be!

Because I know I don't know where to go, I don't know who to learn from. But I also understand that if I don't know where to go, then "here" is a good place, and if I don't know when to start, then

“Now” is a good time; if I don’t know who to learn from, I must start teaching myself.

So what can I offer you here and now is *. On a scale of the universe, perhaps not so much. To be honest, not much! But I want to share with you all what I learned during my journey in search of a male beginning. And if I can awaken in you the consciousness of what it means to be a real man, that will be my reward. If I manage to share with you the feeling of beauty that I have learned during the journey, I will rejoice with you. If I succeed in inspiring you with any hope I have gained during this journey, I shall consider it a supreme honor. And if I can share with you my faith in the spirit of a man, I'll assume that our weekend hasn't gone by without a trace.

But, gentlemen, I want to warn you right away: not about fanfares, fluttering coats, white horse and swords I'm going to tell you! No, I went in search of perfect honor, quiet dignity, unshakable hope and selfless fearlessness - all that is the essence of a real man. And if I manage to share with you at least a part of my knowledge, I will believe in my heart that I am a real man, a hero, a savior, because every man is only as good as other men allow him to be! For example, a general can lead his army into battle if soldiers agree to follow him, otherwise he, being in the heart of his hero, will remain in the eyes of the enemy - and of his own army - a lonely fool who has taken a senseless death!

If you want leadership, I will show you the way. But if all that I'm telling you about doesn't arouse any interest in you, well, Monday will come and I'll ride my horse alone. By the way, I want to inform you that, although there is nothing more sublime than the friendship of men who went on a search, I realized that to go on a journey alone is better than to stay in a world full of outrage and despair, and death, oddly enough, has more attraction than life, where only apathy and hopelessness reign.

That's why, friends, let's make a stop here, and I'll tell you what I learned during my trip. But remember, a person who missed the sunset will not see the dawn. After telling you what I found, I will continue my journey - with or without you! Deep down, I know what I'm looking for. If you join me, you'll make me very happy. If you go your own way, I'll go mine!

That's the last thing a man wants me to teach you. I made this decision to honor your human spirit. You see, gentlemen, I believe that you, like all other men, are capable of finding a way to present yourself as real men. But in teaching you goals, I will speak as if all men, including you, are not yet ready for this, and therefore have to learn something else.

And yet I believe that you are ready and able to cope with this on your own! This faith is a pledge of my loyalty to you and to all other men.

Part One The mystery of male and female

Chapter one. Acquaintance with the world of man

No one can explain how to become a man, because they are all so different!

Any man can tell what masculinity means to him personally, but this is unlikely to help others, because there are no two people in the world.

Women can describe what they think men should be, but should a bird be taught to swim?

If you want to enter the world of a real man, you first need to know what this world is like, and then learn to live in it, make it your own.

This advice may seem like a strange mystery, but it’s actually very simple.

Why not? The secret is to understand that you don’t need to go somewhere and look for something. The reason is simple: you are already “where” you need to be, and you have everything you need with you — whatever that “necessary” means to you.

What

So,

Borders

Here’s what I’m saying: Finding masculinity doesn’t mean the physical journey you take to find something “out there.” No, it is rather a magical journey that we take deep into our being to explore emptiness. But the very approach to these boundaries is one of the most frightening experiences I know, because at first glance it may seem that approaching the boundaries of this supposedly “alien” space is like jumping into a bottomless abyss. But the boundaries of emptiness are not yet a chasm and they can not be called “bottomless”. Overcoming your first fear, you discover that these boundaries are as firm as the material world. The true emptiness opens up beyond these boundaries, and, as we know it from the depths of these boundaries, it is a truly spectacular sight!

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I used the term “knowing” specially — I can’t imagine how else you can define the feeling that surrounds you when you meet the highest magic!

I can't say "see" - how can a person see absolute darkness?

I can't say "touch" - how can a person touch an empty space?

I can't say "hear" - how can a person hear a vacuum?

Nor can I say “taste” or “hear the smell” because even these two feelings are powerless in the face of absolute emptiness.

Yet, in some strange and inexplicable way, something in the depths of our being begins to register the presence of this emptiness. And this realization becomes possible only because something holds in the inner depths of our soul.

She knows everything about her. That "knowledge" is "retention" and gives me the right to talk about "knowledge."

So what is this emptiness? It's just nothing! No, don't think I'm explaining myself with riddles, symbols, or metaphors! To know emptiness is to see with absolute clarity that this emptiness is much more real than what we usually consider “reality.” To know emptiness is to know what constitutes the very core of human existence. But after telling about the incredible power emanating from its depths, how else can you describe anything? How do we find words for what everyone is afraid of?

where he is

value

can know

The only thing I can say about emptiness is that it exists. And because She Is, She calls every man to Himself - beckoning him with his own depth, manhood in full. But sadly, it must be admitted that the cowardice of the men of our day does not follow the call of emptiness, trying to drown it out with the noise of everyday fuss. I’m not trying to give a deeper explanation. The only thing I can do is to tell you about the incredible fruits that visiting this void can bring. But first you should know that if you look at things from a certain angle, it becomes clear that the concepts of “female” and “male” refer to special states of awareness. Therefore, before you try to understand the meaning of emptiness, you should understand the mystery of the sexes and its relationship to awareness. This is the key to emptiness! Without this key, you will never discover the meaning of emptiness, let alone break through to it!

First, try to understand that awareness is in ourselves. The latter is especially important when it comes to our sexual identity. Since you were born a man, you have a certain gender, you are not just an “it”. In a practical sense, this means that you are the opposite pole to the woman, not a strange, asexual being lost somewhere between these poles.

At the most basic level, you can say that there is your body - the body of a man, and you yourself, living in this body and having awareness built around the male pole. Of course.

Awareness is unlimited — at any rate, it should not be. It can be developed in any degree and in any direction. In this book, we will describe the possible ways of developing awareness of our potential.

Everyone knows that the word “potential” comes from the Latin potentia and means “ability” or “strength”. So, when we talk about potential, we are talking about inner abilities and strength that you may not even have guessed about — and therefore never tried to study them. In the name of clarity (not prejudice) men call masculinity, and the potential of women - femininity.

capacity

We will

THE WORLD OF MEN = THE STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS, which you must learn to comprehend and make your own man = gender = Your physical body Male beginning = Your awareness of Courage = So, the male principle comes from emptiness, while the female one comes from the uterus. But emptiness and the uterus complement each other in some strange way - one lies in the depths of the male psyche, the other is hidden in the depths of the female body. Moreover, the void radiates incredible power, where the inner force hits up and out. On the other hand, the uterus is still, but waiting, ready to always receive and accumulate.

impression of a whirlpool,

creating

The void is always active, while the uterus is mostly passive before conception. But all this will become clear as soon as we advance in our understanding of masculinity.

So, we come to the fact that you live in a body that is physically related to the male sex, have awareness, which is also called male, and a potential called masculinity, which originates from emptiness. It follows that to strive to develop any potential, except your own, means to renounce your own potential, and what is good about it?

But it’s amazing that so many men are trying to become women, and so many women are trying to become men — all in the name of gender equality. If nature wanted to be single, everyone would be born a hermaphrodite! Attempts to become genderless are simply meaningless — after all, everyone already has their own potential for femininity or masculinity. How stupid it is that many modern men are in search of a uterus, not a void, and women abandon the uterus for the sake of a void.

The purpose of this book is to offer you real means of reconnecting with the sense of your own masculinity and, in addition, to provide you with information that will allow you to use this feeling to develop your potential. Neither I nor anyone else can do more, no matter how hard he tries to convince you otherwise. No one can give you an understanding of what it means to be a man - each of us must master this knowledge on our own. However, there are certain tools and information that will be invaluable in understanding the true nature of the world of men and will make it their home.

Life is not an intellectual process. Life is a feeling.

Wait! If you’ve missed this aphorism, stop to understand what an intellectual fool you are! Have you become such a boring male stereotype that you need a complex intellectual process before you think about how to achieve a physical erection? If so, it is no surprise that you are completely impotent before life!

Every act that is inspired by feeling is genuine creativity, whether it is a musical creation, a work of art, a new invention, a miracle of architecture, or simply the birth of a child, requires us to use a single type of energy, namely sexual energy.

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Be

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So if the only way to connect with your own penis is an intellectual process, then you have not just lost

contact with your feelings, but you are also impotent before intentions and goals!

I think a lot of men will be able to confirm how boring and unsatisfying can be sexual intercourse on a joyless Sunday evening. It would seem that time was chosen successfully, but an erection is given to such men with difficulty, and it takes a lot of time to achieve orgasm. All this reflects the life of most modern men. How bad is it to have a career? But why does this process require constant effort? Their bonds and marriages also seem like a worthwhile thing, but why in these bonds and these marriages men never reach the highest point they dreamed of?

Chapter two. Reaching its potential

When faced with a mystery, you do not encounter the unknown.

should

Forgetting that you

Only fools are so ignorant that they make a clever appearance in the face of the unknown. The wise are humble enough to surrender to the power of their senses.

Let me begin this chapter by warning that the volume of this book does not allow us to delve into technical details that may not be up to the teeth of even the most inquisitive reader. And yet, if we are going to grasp our potential, which is inextricably linked to the mystery of being, we cannot afford to completely ignore an intriguing mystery called the “evolution of awareness.” That is why, intending to make this book extremely simple, I advise everyone to familiarize themselves with this section of the doctrine, to read my previous works on the subject, which we will only briefly touch on in the pages of this book.

NB. The concept of "social being" here means the totality of the material body, emotional apparatus and mind.

When it comes to awareness, or dreaming, it should be remembered that the “female” and “male” principles indicate the opposite poles of its existence. When we speak of the male principle, we mean a certain pole of the dreamer’s awareness, and not the physical differences of the man. The material body is only a manifestation of the male potential, and it is this manifestation that we call “man.” Obviously, this means that you, the spiritual entity, have already embodied one pole of your awareness on the physical plane, settling in the physical body of a man. Moreover, this pole of awareness is not only what we call the “male principle,” as it also has the potential to be masculine. It follows from all this that the common goal of embodiment is to unlock this potential — that is, to fully develop an awareness of what it means to be a man.

You can also say that to be a real man means to fully reveal on the physical plane your potential - masculinity. If this statement seems too obvious to you, look around. How many of the thousands of men you know can be called real men? Do you consider yourself a real man?

A REAL MAN

You are like a man who fully realizes his potential = Masculinity

Chapter three. Origin of male and female

The secret of the male and female principle is the key to understanding evolution. The one who has mastered this secret receives unlimited power.

In the previous chapter we have concluded that the concepts of male and female indicate two poles of awareness and through the act of incarnation we manifest one of these polarities. From this it follows that in every man there is an inner woman, and in every woman there is an inner man - as two polar parts of our awareness.

Given the nature of these two polarities, the male personifies the human spirit, and the female - the physical essence, that is, these polarities are the embodiment of man. Toltecs are called respectively nagual and tonal. It is the interaction of the two polarities that determines the evolution of awareness. Thus,

MEN'S = NAGVAL (human spirit) WOMEN'S = TONALS (material entity) In case you have already begun to suspect that I am preaching gender inequality, let me explain everything in more detail. First, do not forget that we are all spiritual beings in physical embodiment and therefore, regardless of gender, have nagual and tonal. Secondly, it should be remembered that when we speak of male and female principles, we mean states of awareness, and awareness as a whole is relative compared to other states of awareness - regardless of the form of its physical manifestation, male or female. In the book "Oh, that's happiness!" (Teun Marez. "Oh, that's happiness!" "Sofia", Kiev, 1999 I have explained the relative nature of consciousness, and now we will have to focus on the consequences of this relativity and the scheme of phenomena

Considering life in its entirety, sooner or later we come to the eternal question "Who am I?". Although the answer to this question has already been given, we still do not understand what it means. Obviously, such a question can be answered only partially, since we are able to speak about ourselves with confidence only from a material point of view. Let’s not try to find an answer to a question that is beyond our capabilities. We should rephrase it so that it allows at least a partial answer. Let us ask ourselves, "What is that self called the tonal?" or, "What is that self called the physical being?"

As we already know, the self, which is a material being, a tonal, has a physical body that not only has sensory perception, but is also able to perceive from the point of view of emotional reactions and emotional impulses. This is our manifestation on the physical plane. But is that all there is to me? Although many materialists and atheists tend to answer this question in the affirmative, no sane person would agree with such a simplistic definition. Just think a little and we will quickly realize that somewhere “inside” us there is an entity that controls not only the material body, but also emotions and thoughts. What is this essence? We have called this embodied dreamer particle awareness. I said “particle” because the dreamer is fully aware of the spiritual essence, and we have already said that in the material world there is only one pole, male or female.

There are many possible definitions of tonal, but in this book we will use only one of them. The tonal is all that we know about ourselves, for even that part of our awareness that governs the material body, emotions, and thoughts also refers to the tonal, that is, the embodied entity. We know nothing about the other pole of our awareness and the spiritual essence itself. Therefore, for the sake of clarity, we call the tonal everything, and the spiritual essence, the nagual, nothing, since from the point of view of physical beings the spirit is something of which we know nothing. So,

NAGUAL = NO-THING TONAL = EVERYTHING. The implications are quite clear: the tonal is life in manifestation, while the nagual is unmanifested life.

The interaction of spirit and tone, male and female, leads to the evolution of awareness.

This reasoning brings us back to the concept of potential, since the only purpose of embodiment is obviously the unfolding of potential: spirit is embodied as a result of the desire to study.

own potential. Thus, the spirit is not only the source of any manifested life, but also permeates all this life. In simple words, the spirit manifests itself in order to know the still unknown facets of itself - its potential. But first he must separate what he knows from what he does not know, what he already knows about himself, and what he does not yet know.

knowledge,

means

Permissible

Known practical use. It can be compared to money in a bank (that is, a positive account balance). By unknown is meant our potential knowledge, which cannot be applied until they are materialized in any way (so to speak, deposited into a current account in a bank). The process can be compared to a profitable transaction: until it pays itself off in the form of cash, the income from the transaction will remain extremely potential. So, if the known can be compared with a positive account in the bank, then the unknown remains something negative, these are funds that have not yet been received by the account. The scheme arises:

KNOWN = POSITIVE UNKNOWN = NEGATIVE

Like any intelligent entrepreneur, the spirit seeks to expand its business (to carry out the evolution of awareness), to reveal its full potential, to expand the sphere of the known at the expense of the unknown. Do not forget, however, that the physical essence, or tonal, is essentially everything and includes all facets of manifested life. Thus, it is by definition chaos and order, light and darkness, positive and negative, male and female. But if the evolution of awareness is moving in a reasonable way, then even on this

becomes the beginning

At the level of the spirit, one pole must be separated from another. It is this process of what the Toltecs call gender division. Remember that so far it is only about existence at the level of pure awareness - awareness of the spiritual essence.

SELECTION OF THE SEX

The spirit manifests itself to know the different facets of itself, to reveal its potential.

It separates the known from the unknown = division of the sexes (male and female awareness)

He makes the unknown part of the known, embodies what was potential So, you can not say that some facet can be more important than others. The question is that one pole should be separated from the other — it is necessary for the smooth flow of the evolution of awareness. It is also obvious that in this process to determine the course of evolution should only know. Could it be otherwise? If the spiritual entity does not separate the known from the unknown, but tries to apply the known to expand awareness, is evolution possible? Is it possible to manage money without having money? By saying that what is known is positive in comparison with what is unknown, we mean at the same time that the tonal is dependent on the spiritual essence, not only from the point of view of the incarnation itself, but also from the point of view of the direction of the evolution process. To make the analogy clear again to businesses.

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The question,

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If you have your own business, it exists because of you. Without you, it wouldn't have happened. Your business depends entirely on the time, effort and resources invested in it. You are doing this because the enterprise has great potential, but if you do not direct your knowledge to its development, the matter is simple.

will fall apart. In this comparison, the matter should be considered a tonal, and you yourself a nagual. As the driving force of your business, you take a positive side to it. From this analogy, it is clear that by virtue of the structure of life itself, the tonal is a negative and feminine element in relation to the nagual. Why female? Just as a man produces and stores fertilizing sperm, so the spirit “isolates” and carries a vital purpose. Without purpose, without such “sperm”, neither conception, nor birth, nor, accordingly, manifestation, incarnation, is possible. These considerations apply to you as a businessman: in relation to your business, you play the role of a man. And if you manage your business in accordance with your creative power - and then it thrives.

By your purpose, you fertilize.

his

Of course, you can argue: why the carrier of the purpose is not able to be a female principle? But think about how illogical this argument is. Have you ever heard of a man who was created by a business, a man whose existence would be determined only by that business? Such an argument is absurd and is a sure sign of a perverse mind advocating gender inequality.

Being a prisoner of the idea that a man is higher than a woman (or vice versa), such people constantly try to do everything differently than representatives of the opposite sex - even try to think differently, if this, of course, can be called the word "think"!

Thanks to the above, it is easy to understand that since the female is negative in relation to the spirit, it is by definition unknown to the spirit, that is, its potential. Of course, this potential is manifested life, a tonal. Since the tonal is everything (light and darkness, male and female), it is absolutely necessary for the spirit to separate one polarity from another.

Result

becomes the final physical being, male or female. This creature has male or female awareness, as well as the potential of masculinity or femininity.

Separation

this

If we look at how this manifests itself in the material world, it becomes clear that the physical entity called “woman” also occupies a negative position in relation to the physical entity called “man.” This is due to the fact that a woman is connected with a man in the same way that the female consciousness of negativity unites all women are (in the truest sense) a mixture of chaos and order, light and darkness, male and female principles - this is the mystery of the female principle. It is based on the fact that, being the personification of the tonal, a woman, in fact, is everything. This is the main difference between female and male, which, being a manifestation of the nagual, is nothing, that is, emptiness!

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Power

Naturally, the hidden meaning of all this is huge, but it will be forward.

Movements

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NAGUAL = UNMANIFESTED LIFE; NO-THING; VOID

TONAL = LIFE IN MANIFESTATION; ALL; However, all this does not mean that a man is nothing, and a woman is some kind of monster. Just female has a completely different configuration, different from the male, as it includes two pronounced sides. This dual aspect of female nature is unknown to the spirit. Thus, from the point of view of the male principle, the personification of the spirit, there is a lot of mystery in a woman. In fact, the female principle is a big mystery to itself, although women rarely admit it even to themselves.

MAGIC OF THE WOMEN'S BEGINNING (INSPECTION) TONALS = ALL = All manifested life This and That: Chaos and Order Light and Darkness Positive and Negative

To sum up, we can all be said to be spiritual beings with the awareness that we call the dreamer. This awareness has two polarities: male and female. Thus, at this level of existence, we are all hermaphrodites.

However, in order to reach our full potential, we need to develop awareness and, therefore, to separate the known from the unknown. This, in turn, leads to the division into two sexes. Depending on our approach to unlocking our potential, we embody either the masculine or the feminine side of our awareness.

If this is the male side, then we get the male body and approach life from the point of view of the spirit, that is, the known, if the female - we find the body of a woman and perceive life from the position of the pala, the unknown. However, when meeting the unknown, it is important to remember that it remains a potential until it turns into the known. Being a potential, it by its nature contains everything: positive and negative, light and darkness, male and female - just as any business venture can potentially bring both success and failure. Therefore, although we, as spiritual beings, have no physical sex and are both male and female, we need to manifest it first, that is, incarnate on the physical plane, in order to fully realize our potential. Such embodiment leads to the separation of the sexes, that is, to birth in the form of a man or woman - positive and negative, known and unknown.

If you are a man, it is simply a division into the known and the unknown, but the embodiment in the form of a woman in a certain sense means maintaining the inseparability, the unknown. This is also reflected in the structure of chromosomes. If we denote the unknown with the symbol X and the known with the symbol Y, then in the separation of the sexes, a man is determined by the combination of XY and a woman by XX.

As I mentioned earlier, the description of the practical side of all these processes is beyond the scope of this book, but even thanks to such a simplified understanding of the concept of the sexes, we can already speak with some knowledge of the mystery surrounding the void and the uterus.

This fact has many consequences, which are based on one important statement: without the correct interaction between the male and female principles, the evolution of awareness cannot become reasonable and eventually comes to a mess similar to that prevailing in the modern world. Since the unknown is always a mystery, the mystery of the woman cannot be solved to the end, but thanks to the cooperation between the male and female principles, the unknown can be consistently included in the known. Only in this way can men reach their full potential of womanhood.

and women -

Masculinity,

In a practical sense, this means that the mystery of a woman remains insoluble, and the potential of the female principle cannot be fully revealed if it is not combined with the purpose and, consequently, with the life of the male principle. This is due to the fact that it is the man who personifies the known, that is, orderliness. It follows that the male represents the spirit, and the man must materialize the purpose of the spirit and include the unknown known. But it is the same as saying: a man must understand his polar opposite, a woman.

In order for this to happen, a man and a woman cooperate with each other in this way: first, a woman balances a man, secondly, complements him in everything and, thirdly, supports him when he claims his right to strength. In order to understand all this to the end, in the next chapter we will return to what the dual nature of the female principle means.

Chapter four. The dual nature of the female principle

We already know that the female principle is both order and chaos, light and darkness, positive and negative, male and female. Toltecs define this duality as a pair of "mother-woman". Due to the relative factor of awareness, the mother acts in relation to children (regardless of their sex) in the role of

Men's Beginning. Therefore, the Toltecs call the male principle in a woman a mother, and the female one simply a female one.

In any relationship, including relationships with men, a woman can play the role of either a mother or a true woman. A woman who directs her own business, in business matters, manifests as a mother, that is, the male principle. Similarly, a married woman who makes all the most important family decisions herself also manifests herself mainly as a mother. You should understand what this means (especially in marriage). In simple words, in such cases, the spouse becomes not a husband, but a son. From the point of view of the husband himself, the wife is not his wife, but his mother, while he himself feels like a little boy!

The above state of affairs is the main cause of problems and lack of happiness in most marriages, since a woman sooner or later gets tired of the role of a mother in relation to her husband and having sex with a “son”, and a man, in turn, gets bored when he is constantly told what and how to do, including how to make love with his “own mother”!

The number of possible outcomes of such a situation is almost infinite. For example, a husband may become acquainted with younger women who are less likely to begin to relate to

He is like a son, and his wife is interested in a man who does not need maternal care. As a result, the spouses move away from each other or divorce. In attempts to establish his masculinity, a husband can become aggressive and even reach physical cruelty towards his wife, and a woman can show even greater power in trying to force her husband to become a real man. This can lead to a complete breakdown of marriage, an outbreak of violence or simply withdrawal (turning into an eternal “little boy”) from the husband. As a rule, such problems arise because the husband does not fulfill his true function as a man, and the wife is forced to assume the role of a mother.

Chapter five. Myths and reality

Although myths are born of ignorance, we must not forget that all reality is veiled by myths. You need to take care not to throw the baby out with the water.

By looking at yourself and then at all the men around you, you will quickly realize that you can rightly consider even those precious crumbs of knowledge about true masculinity that you possess as valuable knowledge that you have gained from your own experience. Generally speaking, if you are honest with yourself, you will have to admit that most of our knowledge about ourselves is based on two sources: the first is related to the material existence itself, and the second is related to information that is imposed by social conditioning.

Think for a moment: who are you? Understand that you are not a name. The name is intended only for identification, its necessity is caused solely by the existence of a material body. Without him, you wouldn't have a name. Besides, without a body, you wouldn't be a man, a husband, a father, an engineer, or anything else. You are not your body! As we have already found out, you are not your feelings and thoughts, because you are able to manage all this. As for the second source, the information imposed on us by social conditioning also does not tell us anything about who we really are. This information is based solely on the opinions and beliefs of others, which in turn are based on

False and preconceived notions. Moreover, the only purpose of imposing this information is to limit us to other people’s conventions, prejudice and, secondly, to join the distorted activities of the majority. The underlying belief is that the truth is determined by the majority, and the person who dares to go against the will of the majority is mistaken.

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Therefore, if we want to understand the mystery of the sexes and, in particular, the secret of a true man, we need to carefully sift through everything we seem to know and think in order to separate myths from reality. It must be remembered that any, even the most daring fantasies are somehow based on reality. Therefore, we cannot afford to simply discard the already known in an angry impulse to get rid of imposed false conventions, prejudices and delusions - because the roots of the truth sought are buried somewhere under this disorderly pile.

However, I must warn you that in trying to separate myths from the reality of you, even if you are a male chauvinist, you will repeatedly visit the desire to resist the ideas outlined in this book. The reason lies in the long centuries of oppression, inequality, injustice, suffering and struggle of women all over the world trying to free themselves from the humiliation. You might get the impression that I want to put women back in prison, where they're just getting out of. Of course, I have no such intention.

I hope that by thinking about the contents of this book, you will understand that I am not going to suppress women at all. On the contrary, I am doing everything possible to free them, to restore them the dignity and respect that they have been denied for so long.

But at the same time, I want to help men achieve the clarity of understanding they need to assert their right to power.

But before I understand what is myth and what is reality, I must note that I do not set myself the task of considering all existing myths and problems in the pages of this book. I

I chose only the nine most common myths, but their detailed analysis will allow us to understand what they essentially give delusions. By talking about the nine beginnings of all the other fundamental myths, we learn enough to reveal the meaning of any other myth.

Part Two. Nine Myths and Their Hidden Meaning. Chapter Six. Myth One: Men Do Not Cry

As we advance in the study of these myths, we find that the first and last myths are two sides of the same coin, while all the other myths are layers of the material from which this coin is made.

Of all the myths, this is probably the worst understood - because its true meaning is that a man cannot be helpless.

The reason why a man cannot be helpless is that the female principle occupies a negative position in relation to the male. This does not mean that a woman is inferior to a man in something. But, being the polar opposite of a man, a woman seeks to preserve, not to progress.

In other words, while the spirit seeks the evolution of awareness, the tonal aims at preserving the fruits of evolution. But preservation always implies a certain stagnation for the simple reason that "you can't climb a Christmas tree and not break your pants"! We either stand still or we go forward.

Let me briefly remind you that the spirit is the unmanifested life, and it wants to know its full potential. In order to achieve this, the spirit, or if you will, the archetypal Adam, must first separate the known from the unknown. The Spirit does this by manifesting on the physical plane, and this manifestation is nothing but a poplar, that is, all that we perceive as a manifestation of life, or cosmic Eve. But as you can see,

Life in all its manifestations seeks to preserve, and therefore to triumph of inertia.

Moreover, since the poplar is everything — light and darkness, male and female, positive and negative — the spirit must again distinguish these two poles of its manifested awareness, which consequently leads to the separation of the sexes. Thus we get a man — Adam — representing the male, the known, and a woman — Eve — representing the indivisible, and therefore female, the unknown.

However, since the masculine represents the spirit of the man and the feminine represents the tonal (and hence the physical essence of the man), the evolution of awareness occurs only in the polar due to the opposites.

Interaction

these

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Thus, in order to develop his awareness, the spirit must enclose the unknown, or feminine, in the known - only in this way can he realize his full potential.

This means that somewhere in the depths of the soul every man passionately wants to know his inner female “half”, or tonal, which is life in manifestation. It is a perfectly natural instinct inherent in every real man to draw closer to himself a woman who will not only be his wife and mirror for his inner woman, but also one in whom he will also read reflections of the secrets and mysteries of life in manifestation.

All this is beautiful, but if we remember that the tonal is everything, that is: order and chaos, light and darkness, positive and negative, and besides the fact that the aspiration of a woman is aimed at preservation, it becomes clear to us that a man cannot afford to be helpless. If a man becomes indulgar in his helplessness, he will only be able to awaken the “mother” in a woman, and the “mother”, as we have already agreed, is the masculine aspect of femininity. But understand, a mother can never separate polarities — that is not her function, and that instinct is absent. That is why the final result of waking up in a mother’s woman is bound to be that she will preserve everything that can be preserved, and in this process she subconsciously feels the sense of helplessness that has arisen in her man!

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This is exactly what is happening in the modern world. As men behave like helpless babies, maternal instincts are becoming more prevalent in women — to the point that the world is being ruled by women who are becoming increasingly aggressive. As a result, men become even weaker. And such men like to be outraged when their "moms" tell them what can be done and what can not be done, and as a result they begin to look more and more like capricious boys protesting against everyone and everything, but immediately run into the bushes, feeling that they can even kick their ears for pranks!

Now, looking at the world, we see that humanity has become an almost genderless race, whose members do not know what to call themselves: Arthur or Martha. So now, in order to determine which sex a particular individual belongs to, you have to consider his body. But, given the incredible development of medicine, even this method is no longer a one hundred percent guarantee! Many men, formally belonging to the male sex, show emotional reactions and mental impulses that can only be called asexual! The same applies to most modern women. But, as this book shows — and from what the modern world is about — this is no good.

The only way to achieve true cooperation and understanding is for men to be fully men and women to be fully women. In other words, progress is possible only if men try to show all the best male that is inherent in them, and women will try to show all the best female that they possess. Only in this way can we avoid stagnation or the battle of the sexes.

However, let us be fair to the end: men have a reason to indulge their weaknesses and helplessness. Without forgetting that the male comes from emptiness, we will not be surprised that every man sooner or later begins to wonder how he can fulfill his destiny and realize his full potential. What first appears as a vague and unformulated question in the process of life turns into a completely real fear of failure.

Starting to gradually realize that he is responsible for everything, including his wife and family, and not having a reliable guide to life at hand, the man comes to a frightening conclusion: he is left alone in the world! In other words, he understands that it is up to him to decide what his life will be - happy, successful and full or nightmare, shameful and failed! He is destined to show the way, lead and take responsibility not only for his life, but also for the lives of his loved ones.

And now, when a man looks deep into his being to find what he needs, he sees only the open gap of emptiness. At some deep level, he may feel that this emptiness is not so full. But here’s the trouble: he doesn’t know how to get to her, let alone how to use the power contained in it. Don’t forget that each of us has absorbed the social conventions that dictate what a man should be, but none of us has been taught how to use our male potential to the fullest. We’ve all been taught to think rationally — but what good is rational thinking when we need to break through to the void? We were taught that a man should not cry, but what good is

Are you big, brave, and strong when you feel like you're a failure?

Men have never been taught to be real men. And no man has entered this world armed with a guide to finding the strength that is right for a man. In personifying the spirit of the man, each man must look for his own way, and in this search he begins to write his own guide. But where is the path we are looking for? Good question! But at the same time, there is nothing good about it. Why not? Because when you ask this question, you are helpless again!

A real man knows that all he has is himself and that he is not going anywhere. He knows in his heart that he has no place to go. If he has to go somewhere, it is only in search of the unknown, in search of answers to eternal questions. And if he needs anyone, it is only his inner female half, symbolizing the unknown for him.

That is why a real man will never depict the drawing up of a map of a helpless baby, but an unknown one.

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This work he does inside his being, as well as inside the world. Using his inner woman as a mirror, reflecting his own inner unknown, the man makes a map of the unknown that is inside, and using the world around him as a mirror (the great female, which is called life manifested), he makes a map of his fate and his potential. At the same time, a man gradually paves the way to the emptiness enclosed in him, and over time he begins to draw strength” from this inexhaustible source of life and creativity.

Knowing his female partner, a man not only draws a map of the unknown, but also brings the unknown to a clear light, making it part of conscious knowledge. Through this process, a man gets the opportunity to compare what he has long known about himself with what he recently learned about his unknown potential. In this way, he can make any necessary adjustments to his knowledge. In other words, a woman gives a man that

outside

which is located

However, instead of rejoicing at the knowledge that gives it a female origin (be it an ordinary woman or a great female, which is called the "outer world"), men often react negatively to such information if it is beyond their logic.

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So, if a woman says something to a man that seems illogical to him, the latter is inclined to doubt the truthfulness of her words, or even to say that she “went to the roof”. Thus, a man refuses the opportunity to clarify his knowledge, because the only reason why the message from a woman seems irrational to a man is that a woman shows him something that is outside the coordinate system that he is guided by at this time.

Therefore, it seems much more reasonable to try to transfer the information received from a woman (whether she was a real woman or the world around her) to the existing coordinate system, adapting a new point of view to it and thereby clarifying her knowledge. Yes, in fact, this is the inclusion of the unknown in the known and the disclosure of the secret of women through its inclusion in the world and the destiny of men. To make this more clear, I advise you to refer to one of my previous books - "Eagle Scream".

One day, Bill returns home from work and tells his wife Cindy that he is concerned that he has not heard from his friend Peter for a long time. Cindy listens to her husband, but, in passing, stating that Peter is obviously too busy to call Bill every day, immediately begins to tell him in detail how their glorious dog would surely drown in the pool today, if she did not feel, Cindy, something is wrong and did not go in time to find him. At first glance, it may seem that Cindy is not very worried about the fate of Peter and that her story about the dog has nothing to do with Bill's concern about the fate of Peter. But Bill, who knows his wife well, realizes that she is no less worried about Peter than he is, and feels that the story of the dog has something to do with the prolonged silence of a friend, although now he is a friend of his own.

Can't catch any connection. So, thinking about his friend, Peter tries to imagine how things are with the work, and begins to feel something wrong. Realizing that there is no logical reason to worry about Peter's work, Bill recalls that their dog has never been in the pool in all the seven years that she lives with them.

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relief,

Here Bill is gripped by a real alarm, and he decides not to hesitate to call Peter to find out how things are. Bill feels Peter's real voice telling him he's in good health. Then he decides to ask Peter about the business, and he tells Bill that he almost went bankrupt by investing money in a fuzzy enterprise. Yes, if a female accountant working for his firm did not feel that something was wrong here in time, and did not insist on checking the accounts of his new partner, Peter would definitely become bankrupt by investing a large amount in a company that existed only on paper!

Bill was struck by this story: after all, his friend was always so careful with money investments! But now, as well as their dog, fell into the pool, he did not calculate his own strength. If Peter didn’t trust his accountant’s female intuition, he wouldn’t suspect his new partner of cheating until he was completely bankrupt. Bill, too, could dismiss Cindy's story of the dog's misadventures as having nothing to do with their Friend's affairs.

It follows that if each of the men, the heroes of this story, ignored the message coming from a woman, he could not include a woman in his destiny, and could not put on his map that unknown, which he told a woman.

Since the man represents the known, and therefore the order, he must come to the realization that he cannot indulge in chaos and disorder, justified by ignorance, stupidity and helplessness, because on the physical plane he is a microcosm of the spirit. If he does, he identifies with chaos instead of making a map.

Unknown! In other words, instead of trying to understand his polar opposite, the female unknown, the man identifies himself with it. As a result, he is like a helpless woman or an old sorceress who is floundering over her brood! I think you know who we're talking about. I'm sure you've met men who get lost when it comes to replacing a light bulb, or lovers of washing the bones of their neighbors in the ladies' circle at lunch in the dining room!

All this follows from the above example: after all, if Bill identified himself with the unknown that Cindy brought him, he would either be annoyed, considering the story with the dog completely inappropriate, or, forgetting about his friend, he would talk about the pool and the hidden danger to pets that lurks in it. In both cases, the information reported by Cindy would not have been mapped.

In the first case, if Bill were annoyed, their conversation would most likely end in an argument, and the unknown would drown in chaos, generating new unanswered questions.

In the second case, their conversation would be reduced to empty chatter, and they would be distracted from the topic that worries Bill. Peter's fate was a mystery to them.

The evolution of awareness is arranged so that it is the man who must, firstly, take on the role of leader, secondly, indicate the direction and, thirdly, determine the means to achieve the goal. These three points are so important that they require careful study.

The role of a leader, which a man should assume, does not at all involve obtaining a license to manage a woman, although many men think so. I mean those men who just tell a woman what she should do, without even thinking about the fact that she can have some of her own thoughts, feelings and views on a particular issue. Such men believe that a woman should unconditionally obey their orders. And of course, she must immediately fall on her back and place her legs every time her master demands it!

For such men, a woman simply cannot represent anything, and this also applies to that great female, which is called peace. Busy only in their own person, such men do not even think about the fact that they simply rape women who meet in their path, and at the same time the world around them. Here is their life credo: "Take everything you see, and if you are not given it in a good way - take it by force!"

To take on the role of leader is to initiate an act. It doesn’t matter what the act is. It can be an act of conversation, an act of silent reverence, an act of support, an act of inspiration, an act of helping those who feel insecure about their abilities, an act of listening, an act of creating a new project, an act of creating a family, or a sexual act. But any leadership necessarily involves the initiation of an act of reasonable cooperation.

To understand this, remember that the task of a man is to know his unknown partner. And they are not only his woman, but also life in manifestation, that is, life on the physical plane. To do this, a man must have the openness that will allow him to interact with both the woman and the world most intelligently and consciously. This means that he should allow women and the world to enter his space, and even better, actively include them in his space. Including a woman in her space, a man is her reasonable cooperation. After all, if he does not do this, it will mean that he will fight with a woman and try to subordinate her to himself.

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In the example of Bill and Cindy, we see how this happens: Bill included Cindy in his space, telling her about his anxiety about the fate of Peter, and also allowing Cindy to show her feminine and do the only thing she could do - tell about the dog. Cindy, like Bill, knew nothing about what happened to Peter, but her female intuition prompted her to share a story with Bill about the misadventures of their dog. At the same time, Cindy herself could hardly see the connection between this story and Peter’s fate. But a man is a known, and therefore he must bring order to the chaos of that unknown. And

Now it's Bill's turn to decipher

The information Cindy gave him. The same can be said about Peter’s relationship with his female “half”.

Moreover, this example clearly shows us how a woman can know herself through a man. But if a woman is in a subordinate state, suppressed by a man and not allowed into his space, how then can she know herself? The same applies to the great female hypostasis - to life manifested on the physical plane. After all, if a man wants order to be born out of chaos, then his task is to reasonably cooperate with life. As a matter of fact, the responsibility for all the chaos and disorder we can see in the world today lies entirely with men who have refused to cooperate intelligently with life and with women.

But disorder in the world is caused not only by those men who want to subdue women. Those who pretend to be helpless weaklings have no less responsibility, because by their helplessness they introduce an imbalance into the world, and then wonder why everything is collapsing! Understand that where a man plays helplessness, a woman begins to feel defenseless and therefore either begins to "saw" her man, or, out of despair, she decides to play his role. And then the script of the mother and the little boy is played again.

When men refuse to behave like men, they act unjustly not only towards themselves, but also towards their woman and the world around them. Subsequently, if a woman does not become a slave, a mother wakes up in her, ready to always come to the rescue of her child. But at the same time, a woman willy-nilly loses respect for her man.

Bill acted like a real man: he did not exclude Cindy from his world - did not call his friend to find out how things are without first talking to his wife; did not play helplessness, asking Cindy to find out what happened to Peter. Taking on the role of leader, Bill made it clear to Cindy that he was worried about Peter's fate, and then, giving Cindy the opportunity to express himself, he again proved to be a leader,

not allowing their conversation to be reduced to a bickering, and not allowing him to evade the main topic. Then, given Cindy’s attitude towards Peter, as well as her story about the dog, Bill behaved as befits the leader — he came to a reasonable cooperation with his wife and drew a map of the unknown.

The second point - determining the direction - consists in the ability to keep the main goal in focus and in the ability to point the woman in the right direction. In our case, we see that Bill does all this: he listens to the story of the dog, and does not overlook the main topic - the fate of Peter, not allowing their conversation to boil down to a dispute, and not going over to the discussion that pets should be kept away from dangerous places such as a swimming pool.

We will understand that this is a very important point if we remember what life is in general, since the world, like Cindy, is essentially female. For example, a man wants to sell mugs, but when he talks about it with his potential customers, they begin to ask him if he also sells cups and saucers, and if he knows someone who sells coffee pots, and whether he is going to trade coffee pots, too, and if so, why not include milkshakes in his assortment. From this, they can switch to soup bowls, and then share with the future merchant mugs their delights about microwave ovens. It is clear that if this person does not keep his main goal in focus and begins to look for new things every day to please his customers, then all this can end in the fact that he will not sell anything at all!

And yet, faced with the unknown again and again, a man must be constantly open to the information received from a woman, and, consequently, from the outside world. So, if he is trying to trade mugs, he should listen to the wishes of his customers, then decide what to do with these wishes. He has to listen to all these comments either because the trade in mugs can not be profitable and then he will have to include in his assortment other goods, or because the choice of mugs he has a small *.

Then he needs to make sure that all the samples are displayed in his store.

Of course, in any case, a man must decide what direction in business he should choose to increase the turnover of his store. At the same time, he initiates a reasonable cooperation with his clients, listening to their comments and wishes. Having a clear idea of the market, a man will make a decision about what his business will be. Having done this, he will indicate the direction - because his customers will understand what goods they can find in his store, and which ones they can not.

Although this example clearly demonstrates how a man should point the direction, it is not always easy to do this in reality.

For example, Gus, Brad's son, has difficulty choosing a subject in which he will specialize in high school. Two paths open before Brad: first, he can simply order his son to choose the subject that he believes will be most useful in his life; secondly, to try to come to a reasonable cooperation with his son and decide what he would like to achieve in his life.

In the first case, Brad will simply control his son, but in the second case, there may be a serious problem if Gus is too immature to make such serious decisions about his future career.

If Brad is a real man, he will not want to control Gus, but at the same time he needs to take on the role of leader and point the direction to his son. How do you do that? Had Gus been more determined and mature, Brad would have had an easier time giving him direction.

But it is in this case that Brad has only one opportunity: to begin to draw a map of the unknown. This can be done in several ways, but for the sake of simplicity, we will focus on only one thing.

Leaving aside his own views and ambitions, Brad begins to judge his son impartially. He clearly sees that

Gus is a quiet, shy, and somewhat withdrawn boy who has no hope of outgrowing his introversion. Therefore, a career that involves constant rivalry is unlikely to suit Gus. On the other hand, Gus is perfectly given mathematics and English, he loves animals and nature. Therefore, mathematics and English are quite suitable for Ga-su, and given his love for wildlife, you can think about biology.

Thus, Gus can specialize in both basic subjects and biology. But after carefully studying the school curriculum, Brad sees that if now Gus will study basic subjects, then later he will be able to specialize in biology, physics or chemistry, while specializing in biology, he will not be able to move on to a detailed study of physics or chemistry in high school.

So, seeing Gus’s indecision, Brad suggests that he start with a general science so that the choices in high school are more extensive. At the same time, the choice between English literature, French, Latin and carpentry craft for Gus remains open.

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Brad realizes that if Gus decides to pursue a career as a scientist, geography, like Latin, can be useful to him. If his son decides to teach himself, he will first need history and Latin. Brad decides to discuss this issue with Claire, and she expresses the idea that their son is unlikely to be able to get rid of his painful shyness if he devotes himself exclusively to an academic career and burrows into books.

Career and Dedicated

Here Brad recalls that the geographical course in the middle classes of the school consists not only of theoretical classes, but also includes field practice. It is practical exercises that will serve Gus as a lesson in communicating with the team. And if Gus later wants to study history in depth, there's nothing to stop him from doing it.

Moreover, high school students can always switch from carpentry to learning additional languages. Mindful of Claire's remark, Brad decides to advise his son to take up woodwork, as this craft requires constant communication with other people and can help get rid of shyness.

Since Brad discussed every step with his son, he had no trouble convincing Gus that the selected items would suit him better than anyone else. Gus sees that, having stopped now on these subjects, he will not close for himself a wide choice in the future and will be able to appreciate the wisdom of his father, who pointed him in the direction.

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in detail, so that I can demonstrate what it means to point the direction. At the same time, we must not forget that to indicate the direction in any case does not mean to encroach on someone’s freedom. A real man will never limit someone’s freedom, preferring reasonable cooperation.

If Gus did not agree with the choice of his father, for the sake of his son, he would always be able to call on all his authority and prove his wisdom by insisting on this decision. But this “authoritarianism” used for the good of man should not be confused with the imposition of one’s will.

The third point that we should work out is that a man must determine the means to achieve the goal. Much of this point stems from the previous two, since it is also based on an act of reasonable cooperation.

The general rule is: first, a man will always assume the role of leader, initiating the act of reasonable cooperation; second, he indicates the right direction. All this is done in order to be able to determine the means to achieve the goal. To better understand this, let’s take Brad and his son again. Being the main man in the family, Brad is responsible for the education of his son and, of course, he would be interested in the question.

about choosing school subjects, even if his son did not turn to him for advice.

That is why, if Gus had not come to Brad himself, he would have to take the lead, initiating an act of reasonable cooperation in clarifying why Gus did not want to consult with him. Perhaps Gus is mature enough to make such decisions on his own? But even in this case, Brad would have to point out to his son that everything in life is interconnected, and, consequently, everything is in interaction and is interdependent. This idea Brad could bring to his son, explaining to him that since parents pay for the education of their son, they have a legitimate interest in his future and his career.

Not to consult with parents in this matter means not only to show disrespect to them and show distrust, but also to directly insult them with their arrogance and selfishness. If Brad allows his son to behave in this way, it will mean that he is unable to cope with his father's duties.

In this case, the lesson of respect for the world around us and the interdependence of everything in life is the direction chosen by Brad. While the way to achieve the goal is to tactfully but firmly show that he is not going to tolerate from his son such disrespectful attitude. Thus, having taught one single lesson to his son, Brad will help him to better understand the need for reasonable cooperation, which means that he will help Gus to grow into a real man.

But here we portrayed Gus as a very indecisive boy who turned to his father for help when it was time to make a decision. However, Brad does not dictate to his son what to do, does not impose, his will. If he did so, he would not have been able to teach his son the truth that a man cannot afford to be helpless. Offering Gus reasonable cooperation, Brad turned to his wife for advice, showing his son how a man should include a woman in his world. The whole process is thus transformed from a simple choice of basic school

subjects in the lesson of overcoming the feeling of helplessness by the simplest and most reliable means.

From these two scenarios, it follows that the funds depend on the specific circumstances. In both cases, the problem of choosing school subjects was on the surface, but in each of these scenarios, different circumstances arose. However, both in the first and in the second case, we see that a real man should not impose his will on others, but at the same time he always remains firm and unwavering in his knowledge, feeling responsible for his loved ones.

A man can never afford to be helpless, doubting, and weak. If he allows himself to do this, he either becomes an eternally whining nothingness, believing that the whole world is united against him, or becomes a powerful brute, trying, out of the usual fear of rivalry, to humiliate and suppress anyone who stands in his way.

In both cases, he will fail as a man — even if he manages to manipulate people into feeling sorry for himself, or intimidate them and subordinate their will. In the first case, bowing and spreading before everyone, like a beggar, he will not notice anything around, in the second case, suppressing and intimidating people, he will not even see that no one wants to cooperate with him.

A real man enjoys universal love and respect and therefore becomes a leader. People feel inspiration and a surge of strength as they follow it. Such a man includes a woman in his life in a completely natural way. Having analyzed this myth, we laid the foundation for the analysis of the remaining eight and therefore we will be able not only to deal with these myths faster, but also to understand how they are interconnected.

It will be much easier for you to understand the meaning of these myths if at the end of each chapter you make a list of your own mistakes and weaknesses that you can recognize thanks to the information received and the principles learned. By following this advice, you will quickly determine the causes of your errors and can eliminate them.

change their behavior. Remember that true strength lies in understanding yourself.

Chapter seven. Myth two: men are aggressive

If we look at this myth in the light of what has been passed, we can easily see that its deeper meaning is that men must be ready for a fight. This certainly doesn’t mean that every man should get involved in any landfill on the sidewalk or in a bar. No, a man should set an example of how to follow the Path of Freedom.

Let us first understand what it means to “follow the path of freedom.”

There are many interpretations of the concept of "freedom", and therefore there are countless definitions of the meaning of the word. In this book, we are going to

Restrict

One

only

“Freedom is the ability of a man to act flawlessly, fearlessly relying on his own knowledge.”

Is it necessary to think for a long time to understand that the deep meaning of this definition is obvious and broad.

The most important conclusion from this is that not every man is able to act. This ability is the same as any other: either it is or it is not. If we have the ability to act, it is good, but if we do not have it, we must develop it. And while this statement may seem too obvious, try to understand it: few people are able to act in the true sense of the word. Most people just automatically react or lose their usual again. For example, I punch you in the nose. If you are aggressive, you respond with a blow, but if you are timid, you will feel hurt and accuse me of "aggressiveness".

Behavioral

reaction

Again

and

But in both cases, you don’t act — you react according to your behavioral stereotypes.

And if I can also only react, not act, I will react to your reaction. So if you hit me back with a punch, it's likely to end in a real fight. If you feel hurt, respond with a word to the case, I will most likely continue to slap you until you shut up or give a shit!

A real man will never react, because at the moment of response we lose self-control. So, if I hit Jim, he, like anyone else in his place, will get terribly angry, but, being a real man, Jim uses his anger for the circumstances that have developed. No one gave me the right to slap people for nothing, and Jim, as a real man, should take note of this - no matter how much I lost control of myself. So, instead of reacting and getting into a fight, Jim will try to “make me feel” — to make me regain the ability to control myself.

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If I can still be influenced by words, Jim will try to explain to me all the absurdity of my behavior and shame me so that I will become the embodiment of peace and humility. If Jim sees that I have lost control so much that it makes no sense to appeal to my mind, he will hit me — when I least expect it — so that if I do not want him to fold my neck, I will have to listen to everything he will tell me after that.

While I listen, Jim will do his best to get his words to me. This will teach me the truth that a real man should not react to a blow by getting into a fight - he must do everything necessary for his opponent to gain control over himself.

I always like to give this example, because here you can clearly see the difference between reaction and action, and also because there is a whole "can with worms" - usually the example causes

A storm of great reactions. I immediately hear: "What if the bully is much healthier than me?", or "What if it's an armed bandit who pointed his gun at me?", or "What if I do if a woman put her bag on my face?".

What if it is, what if it is?

I just laugh and say that such men react like helpless little boys, not only when they are punched in the nose, but when they hear my story about it! No, a real man will never behave helplessly - he will never descend to an automatic response - no matter what! And so if I have to deal with a person who has lost control, a person who is twice as big as me, I will think through my actions and do everything in such a way that he simply will not be able to hit me back.

How am I gonna do that? It all depends on the specific circumstances and what I will have at this moment at hand. If a man is really mad, and I am not armed with anything but a couple of fists, I will have to rely only on my brains and sharp tongue to buy time and try to bring him to his senses. If I find myself in the crosshairs of a bandit's gun, I'm going to stay alive as long as possible and try to win this fight now or defeat the bandit later. If a woman tries to hit me with a handbag, then I certainly have enough strength to repel her blows and tame her ardor. But the moral here comes down to the following: in any situation, a real man will be able to act flawlessly and fight wisely, if not down to a simple reaction.

And yet understand: a man is able to do this only if he withdraws from fear. All of us are subject to fear and cannot be completely free from it, but we can still distance ourselves from fear if we manage not to become attached to it. To withdraw from fear means not to give in to fear. Whenever we succumb to it, fear weakens us — in doing so, we lose control and begin to respond impulsively to any demand we make.

But if we are entirely unattached to fear, we remain able to turn any circumstance to our advantage. In this way, we always gain an advantage over our opponent. Thus, we either give in to fear and begin reacting, or detach ourselves from fear and use it to act impeccably!

It doesn’t matter what the fear is. For example, if I’m afraid of being a fool, when someone wants to make a fool of me, there are two possibilities before me. I can either give in to fear and take a defensive stance, or I can step away from it and use my fortune to act flawlessly. Defending myself, I will only annoy my opponent, and he will be able to prove my stupidity with great success. If I act flawlessly, I will soon find the weak side of my opponent - and he will remain in fools!

Similarly, if I am afraid of physical pain and someone wants to hit me, I can react and behave like a coward, avoiding the enemy. But, having withdrawn from fear, you can behave flawlessly and defend your dignity. By turning my back on fear and using it to my advantage, I will be able to see in time the enemy’s intention to strike me and dodge it. And in this state of "high alert" it will be easier for me to notice the enemy's vulnerabilities, and soon I will cope with it either in physical or in verbal battle.

All of the examples we’ve looked at show how much difference there is between a simple response and a real fight. Only a fool can react, forgetting about everything in the world, swearing and swinging his fists, not seeing the goal. But it takes a real inner battle to act thoughtfully and flawlessly — every single blow you take reaches your goal. Any man who has mastered the art of inner battle is a truly free being. When he is removed from fear and reaction, he is free to act according to his inner knowledge and is the sole judge of his own integrity. This is true freedom, and a real man can always serve as an example of how to follow the Path of Freedom.

All of this leads us to the next idea we should focus on, namely, the idea of knowledge. Do not forget that knowledge is a power that we have gained through personal experience.

That is why, when we declare that a man fights for freedom, allowing him to act on his own knowledge, “What exactly do we mean by this immediately?”

This is how it can be formulated in a very short way: knowledge, or power, implies the need to be aware of the true values in life. Power does not mean power over others — power that enables people to be manipulated, killed, or harmed. Strength means that the knowledge you possess makes you invulnerable. Strength means that your knowledge is such that others will not be able to manipulate you or harm you. But such knowledge can be a real force only if it is based on true values, because if you value not what is true, there can be no invulnerability!

And yet, what do we mean by “true values”? We can complicate or simplify this concept by our very simplicity. With my True Values, life is always supported because it leads to freedom and growth.

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False values are directed against life because they lead to slavery and withering away.

Here's an example: a man who wants to please everyone, I call "Simple". But such a Handsome will support everyone and everything, will support even what his worst enemy will say about him, because he does not want to “raise the waves”! This position of Mr. Simpatyaka allows his enemy to do anything - no matter how destructive his actions may be.

That is why, despite the fact that Mr. Simpatyaka considers his values to be true, because he does not interfere in the affairs of others and does not encroach on anyone's free will, in fact, Simpatyaka is "true"

Values” lead to chaos and disorder, crimes and violence, and therefore to anarchy.

The little girl is so afraid of encroaching on someone’s freedom that she will not do anything, even if his own son becomes a drug addict or a bandit! But how can he claim that his values are true?

The truth of values does not depend on the moral considerations inherent in them. The truth depends only on the fruits they produce. This is clearly seen in the example I have given. Although Mr. Simpatyaka speaks beautiful words about freedom, his actions — or rather, their absence — he encourages everything, but not freedom. Freedom doesn’t mean that Tom, Dick and Harry can do anything to terrorize their neighbors. From my point of view, Mr. Simpatyaka’s position does not contribute to the maintenance of life.

A real man will uphold only those values which, as he knows from his personal experience, lead to freedom. To the freedom that not only he needs, but everyone around him. In other words, the values that are true are those that contribute to creating an environment where everyone can feel safe and at peace, where nothing threatens its development. But here, as always, the sacramental question arises: “Who gave us the right to decide what is good for others?”

The answer is simple: “None of us has the right to impose our will on others!”

Now realize that this applies to both sides. Although I cannot impose my will on you, neither can you impose your will on me! But if I want to create an environment that supports life, and you are an environment that destroys life, well, we will do our own thing, but stay away from me and from the people for whom I am responsible! If you do not obey me, you will have to meet my sword. It's all painfully simple! I will always fight for freedom, acting according to my knowledge, and if you invade my space, you will have to reevaluate your values.

My values are tested and tried. I have proven that they really support life, and therefore I simply cannot allow to be accused of illegal actions. Many have tried... I’m sure many will try again. But the truth is hard to fight!

There is another conclusion: a real man, who is guided in life by true values, should show social conditioning. And although this is an important point, I don’t think we should dwell on it for long, because it speaks for itself.

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Can we be truly free if we are forced to constantly bow to the dictates of society?

Can we act on knowledge if we are able to respond according to social conventions?

How can we develop true values for ourselves if we have never thought about what is true and what is not?

And finally, and most importantly, how can we express our strength, the strength of the male, if our idea of what a man should be is conditioned by public opinion?

A real man is a man who knows how to fight a long and difficult battle, who knows how to distance himself from his fear so much that he is able to break out of the circle of social conditioning. But to remain outside this circle is not an easy task, because it is again and again put to the test not only the ability to act, but also the ability to maintain faith in yourself. And every time he has to overestimate his values, his position, his knowledge, and most importantly - faith in himself. He cannot afford to be arrogant and complacent, as he will immediately become vulnerable to a new attack.

Only by remaining proud and unshakable in his rightness, maintaining faith in the truth of his knowledge, maintaining openness and readiness to include in his coordinate system everything unknown, a man is able to wage an endless battle with social conditioning.

However, firmly relying on one’s knowledge does not mean being complacent and arrogant, since a man wants to challenge himself first, and then everyone else.

Remember the order: first to yourself, and then to others. Realize that if you cannot truly believe your knowledge and your judgments, you will not be able to rely on knowledge reliably. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe you, especially women? And if you are not able to firmly rely on knowledge, what kind of protection can you offer others and how can you lead a woman?

It is only by constantly challenging ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally that we can win the faith of others and gain knowledge. By testing our actions, evaluating our feelings and weighing our thoughts, we learn to refine our knowledge and begin to see its true value. Only by learning the true value of knowledge, we have the right to challenge others to become honest with themselves, and therefore go to freedom.

Chapter Eight. Myth Three: men should be educated

The deep meaning of this myth is that men should have knowledge. The meaning of knowledge we have just discussed is that true knowledge, unlike simple information, has true power. But speaking of power, it should be noted that there are two kinds of power. The first is knowledge gained in past lives. Usually we perceive it as ability, talent or even genius. The second type is the evolution of knowledge gained in this life. The combined strength of both species is our potential.

Thus, when we speak of education, we must remember that it must consist not only in the evolution of new knowledge, but also in the materialization of knowledge accumulated in past lives. So, although the talent is the knowledge gained in the previous

In order to be fully utilized, it must be nurtured and developed.

When we speak of our power or our knowledge, we must always remember that we can consciously use only the knowledge that we have acquired in this life. Knowledge gained in past lives can manifest itself in the form of talent, but until a certain time talent can remain hidden. In other words, an undeveloped talent can guide a person by telling him what he should do and how. But if this person can not fully trust himself and act in accordance with the feeling, nothing good talent will not give him.

So we again come to the conclusion that knowledge gained through experience is a true power: knowledge is something that can be used at any moment, and all that can be used is power.

For example, if you have money in the bank, you have financial strength.

If you have political knowledge, then you have political power, because you can always use this knowledge.

But our undeveloped abilities or talents are also a force, but a force yet unknown. Therefore, whether we are in life, knowing that we can easily develop our talents, or realizing that for their development we will need to sweat a lot, in any force. We’ve already talked about how to act on our feelings. What are these feelings?

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First, we need to understand that feelings and emotions are different things. There are only four pure emotions: joy, anger, fear, and melancholy. The feelings themselves are divided into two types. The first type we talked about earlier is the expression of hidden abilities. Feelings of this type help a person understand what he should do — and even how to do it.

Feelings of the second type help us to learn from the world around us. Both types are expressions of irrational knowledge, because it is impossible to find a logical explanation for how we acquired this knowledge. I call it "listening to the heart" or "following the sixth sense."

We have all been taught to trust the mind, but none of us have been taught to listen to the heart. To listen to the heart is to listen to the sixth sense, and therefore to act according to the senses. A rational mind is nothing more than a personal built-in computer and, like any computer, is only as good as the information stored in it. But the information stored in the computer (in the rational mind) forms our worldview, which mainly consists of prejudices and established beliefs that determine our attitude to literally everything in this life, including the idea of what a real man is.

Because people are socially conditioned to prefer the mind to the heart, they tend to rationalize and justify their actions. Instead of listening to the voice of the heart, they scroll through an endless and meaningless inner dialogue in their mind.

No matter how paradoxical it may seem at first glance, listening to your heart means thinking for real. The great minds of this world do not like to admit it, but the secret of their genius lies in the ability to follow their feelings. Everything great, whether it be an invention, a scientific discovery, a piece of music or a painting, is based primarily on feeling. Only when a mental vision is created on the basis of the feeling of an inventor, scientist, composer or artist does the rational mind enter the stage of materialization of that vision.

When you decide to learn to listen to your heart, it is very important to consider your life as a whole, with both significance and purpose. Otherwise, your life will always seem to you a mix of victories and defeats, successes and failures - a mixture in which it is impossible to grasp the meaning, that is,

Determine your purpose, not to mention the direction of destiny. Therefore, you need to carefully analyze your whole life. You need to be open enough and defenseless enough to find the connecting threads in your life. This will help you not only to understand what is happening, but also to find your purpose. In addition to these threads, the course of your life also determines the conditions of the world around us. You need to be able to determine these connections and conditions so as not to lose sight of your destiny.

And although each of us has feelings, most men do not pay attention to their feelings. It comes not from the unwillingness to listen to feelings, but from the fear of trusting them. Consider a simple example that will help you understand what it means.

Let’s say you send documents to move on to another job. But the catch is that while you have a good idea of the job, you don’t know what it means to do it yet. You wouldn’t think about moving to a new job if you didn’t feel like it was going to suit you. So you have to trust the feeling, otherwise you just never get the job.

If you trust your feelings, and they suggest that you will not just fit this work - this work is directly created for you - you have every chance to do what you have always dreamed of. But if you feel from the beginning that the work may not be what you want, if you are afraid of being disappointed in it, then most likely you will soon understand that it is - it is not for you.

But what most often causes problems in such cases is that most people have never tried to distinguish between logical judgments and feelings. As a result, the rational mind is always trying to interfere with the decision-making process initiated by the senses.

For example, you feel that the work is right for you, but then the rational mind inserts its “strong” objections: “Everything is fine, but only the salary is low, and I do not see an opportunity to make a good career here...”

In other words, your mind interferes by asking you the question: "Is this work really good?" If you really feel that the work is right for you, and believe your feelings to the end, most likely, at work you will expect a rapid increase in wages and you will somehow be able to make a quick career.

But when talking about feelings, we should not forget that there are not only positive feelings. Usually, people don’t like negative feelings and try to get rid of them. However, there is nothing wrong with bad feelings — it is only through bad feelings that we sometimes manage to avoid trouble. That is why, listening to your own heart, you should not ignore bad feelings. Life does not consist entirely of benevolent experiences. There is room in it for bad events, and in order for our experience to be free of gaps, we must experience everything, including bad events, which are inevitably accompanied by bad feelings. When you decide to listen to your heart in practice, do not forget about the following two things.

First, somewhere deep down in each of us there is a feeling that can tell us what is right and wrong, what makes sense and what makes no sense, we only need to learn to pay attention to this feeling.

Second, the world around us tells us enough to learn how to overcome any life problems. But to learn how to use these tips, we need to have honesty, openness is impossible. If we keep these two things in mind, we will never have to seek either an apology or a rational explanation for our actions — for we will think clearly and act with complete flawlessness.

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The last thing to consider when listening to the heart is the ability of a man to achieve the power that emptiness gives. We have already come to the conclusion that listening to the heart means thinking for real and that all aspects of creativity arise from genuine feeling.

All this brings us to a subject that I simply cannot cover in this book, given its modest volume. But a serious reader who wants to learn more about this concept can find its analysis in my other books. So, let’s limit ourselves to the fact that thinking is creativity, and the source of all creativity is emptiness. But nothing is nothing, and we cannot make our way to its power in a rational way. The only way to break through to emptiness and draw from it a creative force is to use feelings.

It is impossible to formulate this idea better than the great sculptor Michelangelo did. Describing his friend’s creative process, he said: “I don’t decide what should be sculpted from a new piece of marble. No, I am allowing my senses to explore a piece of stone until something in me begins to resonate with that vibration that is trying to express itself through the stone, using me as an instrument of its expression.

For Michelangelo, this “something” is contained in himself; it is emptiness. And the “vibration that tries to express itself” is the creative power of emptiness. “Resonating” with vibration means being aware of the form that can be physically embodied through the use of force contained in the void.

Accordingly, the key to the power of emptiness lies in our ability to listen to the heart and trust our feelings. Therefore, a man whose heart is closed, a man who is not able to use his feelings, is sterile, and in relation to his purpose - impotent. And although usually such men have exceptionally high sexuality, their increased sexual desire is generated by a sense of their own insolvency and inability to create. Trapped in judgment, the only thing such men can do is children!

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But agree that no man can be satisfied with the idea that he is just a sperm donor used to reproduce!

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In the final analysis of reproduction is contained in the word "reproduction". Reproduction is not creativity! To be a real man means to be able to use all your creative powers, and this is possible only when a man with the help of feelings breaks through to the power enclosed in emptiness.

When we say that a man must have knowledge, we mean that to achieve the power of emptiness he must learn to use irrational knowledge. Although it is impossible to dispute the claim that all knowledge is power, only irrational knowledge can be used in creativity. Why not? Because, using irrational knowledge, we have included it in the known, and since it is possible to create something real only once, any repetition will be only a reproduction!

Chapter Nine. Myth Four: men must think

This myth is largely a continuation of the previous one.

This myth is about genuine thinking, thinking that is the opposite of rationalism.

The meaning of the word “thinking” is used here in a broader sense, since we are talking about its purpose, namely that a man should have a strategy. But before we discuss this topic, let’s remember what fate is and what fate is and what predestination is*(In the original version, respectively: destination.).

Since many people do not believe in life after death or reincarnation, they agreed that fate and predestination are one and the same. However, these are different things, although quite closely related to the continuous evolution of awareness and therefore includes all the countless lives spent on the material plane.

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Thus, predestination is not just the force that determines the time, circumstances and quality of each of the incarnations, but it is also the force that leads us through each incarnation.

Destiny is only a small part of your predestination, which needs to be worked out and completed in each of the incarnations.

In other words, fate is the goal of a certain life. Thus, it becomes clear that, failing to achieve the goal, we do not cope with our life task, which means that we did not meet our destiny and, therefore, could not take a step on the path of predestination.

However, it is not all so dark: in fact, we can not fail to fulfill our destiny. If this were possible, most people would waste time doing meaningless things over an endless series of reincarnations and the evolution of awareness would be very slow, if at all. Each of us is in this life in order to fulfill a certain goal - to realize destiny. By all truths, not truths, by reasonable cooperation or by unreasonable steps, we still arrive at a goal — who with more, who with less success.

This is very similar to schooling: to move to the next class, the child must pass exams every year. In our journey through life, each incarnation is like an exam. And if we find ourselves capable of intelligent cooperation with the forces of predestination that permeate the fate of each of our lives, we manage to “take the exam for excellent”. But if we resist these forces, we remind negligent students who are forced to learn and who read the material only in order to be able to take the next exam with grief in half.

To better understand this, let’s turn to another analogy.

Suppose you are destined to go to Rome in this lifetime. But the way you go there is up to you: you can fly to Rome by plane, go by train or take a boat.

Take your own car to Rome, whatever you want. You can even go not directly to Rome, but travel from country to country, from city to city. But no matter how you do it, the forces of predestination will act in such a way that you will invariably approach Rome.

If you wish, you can make your journey as rich and interesting as possible. But if you prove truly stubborn and, despite everything, try to keep as far from Rome as possible, the forces of predestination will eventually arrange matters so that, willing or unwilling, you end up in Rome—for example, in an ambulance with broken limbs after a car crash somewhere on Rome’s ring road.

Therefore, despite all the disputes surrounding this idea, all our so-called “free will” comes down to the fact that we decide what ways to fulfill our destiny. In other words, we are destined to decide whether to turn a trip to Rome into a delightful adventure or make everything so that we are driven to Rome with kicks in the ass. We either fly there guided by the instructions received from life (and then our destiny is accomplished smoothly), or, if we ignore all the advice and instructions, we are dragged there with force.

Returning to the idea of strategy, to our surprise, we find that strategy does not imply the presence of a plan. Since no one can escape fate, planning for the future - wasting time - is like practicing again in stupidity. None of us knows what the future holds, so what’s the point of making plans that can or may not come true?

But try to realize that this does not mean that life is stupid. All the stupidity in life is our biased and chaotic ideas about what life should be!

If we're going to do nothing stupid with plans that might not be useful, the only thing worth doing is developing a strategy that will allow us to determine if we're going to be successful.

The first is what fate brings us, and the second is how it should be fulfilled. But how do we do that?

Remembering what we learned in the previous chapter — to listen to your heart — to determine your goal in this life is not difficult. If we sincerely want help, we will soon see that we are simply surrounded by it. All we are required to do is listen, not allowing our vision of the world and preconceived notions to get in the way. But this is the main problem, because our vision of the world is the result of social conditioning, and, therefore, it is one of the main factors that do not allow us to recognize fate.

For example, try to remember how often you wanted to become someone, based on the prevailing in society idea of a lucky person, or think about how many times you tried to arrange your life in accordance with someone else’s dream?

However, if you make an effort and listen to your heart ... Even if your parents convinced you to choose the profession of a doctor or lawyer or someone else, and even if your rational mind convinces you of the correctness of this choice, only by trusting your heart, you will feel whether this career is right for you. If the work is right for you, it will bring you complete satisfaction. If you follow this path only because your parents wanted you to, and fate has assigned you something completely different, you will inevitably be disappointed.

If you feel a void in your lifestyle, then your heart tells you that it’s time to change your attitude towards life, your spouse, friends, and most importantly, yourself. In other words, your heart prompts you to reconsider your entire life experience and reassess your ideas about what constitutes happiness and the fullness of life.

Try to decide who your parents are. Review all the values you have learned from them, from your siblings, from relatives, from friends, and from teachers. Look at the education you received. Think about

Everyone with whom you had something significant for you, not excluding from them their so-called enemies. Take a look at your career, your talents and abilities. Look at all the things in your life, and then ask yourself, “What have I learned from this? What did all this training prepare me for?’ Everything that life teaches us is really only about making our purpose different.

There are no coincidences or coincidences here. Everything has its meaning. Everything should be useful sooner or later. All we have to do is be open and open in order to see the direction of our destiny.

Once we realize that there is a purpose to our lives, we can easily determine how to fulfill our destiny. But here we are all in the same position. Even without knowing what your fate is, trust your feelings and you will find it soon. And it is not difficult to trust feelings at all, provided that we want to trust them and translate our desires into appropriate actions. It is as natural to breathe as it is to feel. We are hampered by only one thing: the desire to throw away our feelings in favor of rational judgments. But it is up to you whether you can turn that momentum the other way. As soon as a man determines his goal in life and begins to follow his destiny, the role he plays in the life of all who are associated with him automatically becomes weighty and meaningful. This is a very important point, which should not be forgotten in any case, since it concerns both men and women related to the life of such a person.

It should be remembered that since a man represents the spirit, any female destiny must be connected with the fate of the only man of her life. For most women, this is the man who becomes the husband. But for those women whose fate for some reason implies celibacy in this life, a man whose fate will play a decisive role in the fulfillment of her own destiny will not become her husband, but simply her man. In any case, it should be realized that since a woman personifies the tonal, her fate can be fulfilled only due to the influence of a man - directly or indirectly.

The meaning of all this can be reduced to the following: if you do not fulfill your destiny flawlessly, you not only delay yourself, but also do not allow the woman of your life to move forward - a woman whose fate is connected with yours.

If you do not want to fulfill your destiny by choosing false goals for yourself, then you risk attracting a woman into your life who will cultivate these false goals. In doing so, try to realize that neither you nor your woman will be able to cultivate a false goal all her life, and therefore sooner or later something will break in your marriage and your happy life together will come to an end. Therefore, before you look for the perfect companion of life, you must make sure that the purpose you have chosen in this life is true. Only in this way can you attract a woman who can support your goal for real.

And yet, sometimes a woman can feel what the true purpose of a man is before he himself realizes it to the end. This is especially true when a man is very young. But even in this case, although the man found a suitable wife for himself - or rather, although both of them found each other - their marriage is at constant risk of falling apart if the man does not begin to fulfill his destiny. This is true, because every woman in her heart knows that she will be able to follow in furthering a man’s destiny. A woman will be burdened with a relationship with a man who does not want to fulfill his goal, and she will strive to break up with him. It may also happen that a woman, in an effort to preserve the marriage, will try to take on the role of a man in a subconscious attempt to fulfill his fate. But such an exchange of roles usually ends with the playback of a typical “mommy and little boy” scenario, where a woman always expresses dissatisfaction about everything in the world, not excluding her own husband!

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Here is another thing to think about: a man is not an island, and, therefore, the fate of every man is connected with the fate of several more men. It can be his sons, brothers, relatives, friends and colleagues. This does not mean that such

Men do not have their own destiny, but their destiny is somehow connected with the fate of a certain person.

For example, if you have a son, you will not be able to fully fulfill your father’s duties without fulfilling your destiny. To understand this, imagine that your son chose you as his father to learn how to fulfill his destiny on the example of your destiny. If you do not fulfill your destiny, you will not be able to teach your son anything, thus not coping with your father's duties, although you can consider yourself a "wonderful" father.

Or here’s another example: If you’re a company director but can’t make your goal come true, all of your male subordinates will suffer because of you!

In light of all of the above, it becomes clear what the instruction addressed to each boy should mean: “Think, my boy! Think!" In other words, think about what it means to be a real man. Think about your purpose. But do not forget that to think means to listen to your heart, so that you will be able to break through to the void and draw strength from it, which ultimately means being a truly creative person in the fulfillment of your goal and destiny.

Chapter ten. Myth five: men smoke and drink

Of course, these words can not be understood literally, because they can be interpreted however you want, deciding that men are given the right to commit any outrage. The true meaning of this myth is that men should enjoy life as much as possible. But here again the question arises: "What does it mean to enjoy?"

Enjoying life does not mean leading a life of idler and sybarite. On the contrary, a man should show by his example that life is not a sin, that life is an invaluable opportunity to learn and develop his awareness through experience. Of course, in order to be able

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self-discipline - after all, each of us knows how disgusting a dirty bar full of drunk men is!

Therefore, the ability to fully enjoy life involves self-discipline - because if we want our potential to manifest on the physical plane in its entirety, we should not go the way of failure. We simply will not be able to realize our full potential if there are gaps in our knowledge due to the fact that we refuse to experience. But first you need to understand the difference between refusal, and abstaining, because, without understanding this, it is easy to assume that a man has been issued a license for flawlessness. Let’s take this concept to the end — not understanding it fully, we live in sin, and this sin is that we do not realize our full potential and, therefore, do not fulfill our destiny.

If we look back on all that we have gone through, it will not be difficult for us to understand that living a full life and realizing our full potential does not mean that we should indulge ourselves by doing things that are not aimed at maintaining life. For example, what excuse can I find for stealing? If I’m in dire need of food, money, or anything else, I definitely need to find a way to support myself and my family. But stealing food or money from another person means taking it away for life. Or how can you justify killing someone else? Even if I cannot imagine what murder means, I still cannot justify my actions if I face the fact that I need to take a person's life, and therefore deprive him of the opportunity to enrich himself with knowledge. How can I impose my will on another person by saying that I have to learn in practice what it means to kill someone and that that person has to know what it means to be killed?

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People like to complicate everything only in order to somehow justify their own actions. But none of us are allowed to transgress the laws of common sense. Therefore, if you have to put your hand into the fire to prove to everyone that you can not refuse such an experience, well, the way is with a tablecloth! But

It seems much more reasonable to me a different approach - to bring your hand to the fire so that you feel its heat, experience pain, but not to hurt your hand in the process of training. Thus, not only do you not give up on experience, but you also exercise enough self-discipline to exercise abstinence. If you insist that you have to kill a person, and you have the courage to do so, then try! But the moment you look into the eyes of your victim, you will know what murder is, and you will no longer need to kill.

To live a full life without admitting anything of refusal does not mean that one should justify bad deeds. However, in order to manifest our full potential on the physical plane, we must experience all that life offers us, while remaining free from Attachment. In other words, if you like to drink, there is nothing wrong with skipping a couple of drinks a day. But getting drunk is a different matter. We all know when we should stop, and yet if we continue to drink, when not to drink, what self-discipline can we talk about? But if you don’t give up on the experience that alcohol provides, and learn to drink without losing that self-discipline, you’ll be able to know a lot about your behavior and the effects of alcohol. Allowing yourself to get drunk, you will not learn anything, and experience will not be an experience, leaving a gap in your knowledge.

The same applies to smoking and the rest of the so-called "pork", or "sin". If you like to smoke, smoke on health... of course, until your health or the health of others begins to suffer from it! The fact is that although we are allowed to live our pleasure on the physical plane, we should not become slaves to matter. After all, the physical plane itself is not so important, some kind of knowledge that we can acquire while staying here.

This subtle distinction can easily be overlooked, as it requires skill as well as a fair amount of self-discipline. We must acquire experience on the physical plane, and therefore to abandon it is as stupid as to indulge ourselves in bad habits. We try to learn. We must not leave school or get bogged down in it

with head. Therefore, understand that to refuse is to punish yourself, and to indulge all your weaknesses is not to show respect to yourself.

However, rejection and connivance are two sides of the same coin, whereas discipline means respect for yourself. When you look around today, you can see a sad and frightening picture - many people indulge in all sorts of their own weaknesses. People indulge in smoking, taking alcohol, drugs, and even food. There are also those who indulge in fanatical attitude to their own health, in diets and excessive physical exercise. There are also those who indulge themselves in abnormal sexual orientation or unjustified celibacy. There are also those who indulge in excessive work and become workaholics, being the exact opposite of those who indulge in laziness, becoming overworked from the usual daily norm of labor. This list can be continued and continued - after all, people who refuse to learn from their own experience and thus move forward, do not count.

But the saddest form of indulgence is practiced by those who indulge themselves in a sense of worthlessness and therefore deny themselves learning, development, success, freedom, and happiness. Why is this happening? Yes, because these people at some stage of knowledge did or experienced something that confirmed them in the thought of their own insignificance. In short, we return to the concept of sin. By “sining” in some way, these people still punish themselves for the knowledge they have gained, not realizing in most cases what they are doing to themselves.

How can acquired knowledge be a sin? But even here, we can see the powerful influence of social conditioning. If a person crosses the line of conventions accepted in society, he immediately begins to catch on himself oblique views and listen to accusations in his address in his "worthlessness", "inaudibility", "wrong", in a word, in "sinfulness".

If we don’t want to allow gaps in our knowledge, how can we declare a person “worthless” for his actions? We can consider the bad or unsuccessful experience of a person,

We can even declare this experience a “forbidden fruit”. But who gave us the right to judge a person? No one! We have no right to judge others, much less to condemn others. Moreover, we cannot make a person unlearn what he has learned, and therefore we cannot deny his experience! And yet we can keep a person from a certain form of connivance if his indulgence does not support life.

To explain this important point, I’m going to look at a few of the behaviors that are prevalent in modern life that make people feel “worthless” and consider “immoral.” Drug addiction.

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The ability to stand on our own feet and, relying on our own values, make decisions independently gives us freedom, and freedom allows us to openly participate in life with all its wealth. When I talk about the richness of life, I mean not only its positive aspects, but also its negative ones. If there were no day and night, we would never have been able to understand the nature of light, if we did not know happiness and unhappiness, we would never have been destined to know happiness in all its depth. Therefore, we must know all aspects of life on the physical plane if we are to understand its true meaning.

This does not mean that to know what freedom from drug addiction means, you need to become a drug addict. But if you don’t want to have gaps in your knowledge and drugs in your way, you can’t turn down the opportunity to learn as much as you can about them. In other words, if you haven’t experienced drugs, your coordinate system is limited — the same applies to your understanding of the lives of those who are addicted to drugs. If you know everything about drugs and realized that you do not need them, you do not make any sense to take them. There are a lot of people who once in their lives experimented with drugs and even enjoyed it. But in the end, they came to the conclusion that drugs and “high” is not for them.

They tried it, but they didn’t become drug addicts. These experiences also did not turn them into “bad” people.

I did not use this example to show that the problem of drug addiction is not so serious — I just wanted to prove that people should not be considered “bad” because they have enriched their knowledge by using drugs. The problem of drug addiction is really very serious, but we will not solve it, making it clear to drug addicts that we consider them “worthless and weak-willed scum of society.” All this also applies to the many problems existing in the modern world, which society treats with even greater fear than drug addiction, and which it tries to suppress instead of working with them.

Yes, suppression is the worst form of indulging. By suppressing something, we cause a “crank-out effect.” If we don't let the couple get out of the pressure cooker, the pressure inside it will become so strong that it will simply explode. The same thing happens to people. If a person tries to suppress a trend in himself instead of working it out, he will sooner or later “blow up”, or rather, “break up” and begin to recklessly indulge in this trend. Initially, this person tried to suppress a certain trend, because he considered it “bad”. Therefore, if he “breaks” and begins to indulge her, then it will be incredibly difficult for him to forgive himself for this. As a result, a person will feel very guilty and very unhappy, leading a miserable existence and continuing to suppress what he considers to be “bad”. He will punish himself, not believing that he deserves happiness in life.

The following example concerns those heterosexual men who at some stage in their lives had a homosexual relationship in search of the meaning of sexuality. But even those who enjoyed the experience did not become homosexuals. On the contrary, thanks to such experiments, without feeling “bad”, these men established themselves in their heterosexual orientation. Understand that these people would never have gone to such experiments, if they had a firm belief in the correctness of their own behavior.

sexual orientation. After all this, they have no doubt about their heterosexuality.

Often people feel terrible only because they have acquired a certain experience. But the real reason lies in their attempt to suppress their craving for knowledge. And yet, even in the light of all the examples that I have not given, it seems to me simple. So let’s move on to the most difficult problem in modern society: child sexual abuse.

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Let's say a man named Joe gets excited when he thinks he might have a sexual relationship with a child. What to do Joe? If Joe suppresses this desire, it will surely come to the point that he will squeeze every child who will be next to him, or even rape one or even several children.

To understand Joe's problem, we have to figure out what's going on with him. First of all, we need to remember those people who have suffered a serious illness at a certain stage of their lives, but are now quite healthy and normal. That is why Joe, who is suffering from this desire now, should not seem to us more “bad” than a person suffering from bronchitis. But we can say that Joe's behavior is abnormal and that Joe is sick. This does not mean that Joe does not need to be treated or he does not need to refrain from fulfilling his desire. If Joe does not want to be treated or healed on his own, the case should take a completely different turn! In this case, we are faced with a person who stubbornly wants to impose his evil will on others, a person whose behavior is not aimed at maintaining life in any way. In this case, we have no choice but to isolate Joe from society so that he does not harm anyone. But let’s assume that Joe still wants to be cured of his ailment. The question then becomes, "What does Joe have to do to heal himself?"

First, Joe must realise that he has a certain imbalance in his sexual functioning. Whatever the nature of that imbalance—physical, emotional or mental—Joe must accept that he is suffering from an ailment. An ailment means that

We are at odds with our physical body, or emotions, or mind. But in any case, the cause of the disease is the lack of knowledge in a certain area of life, which leads to an imbalance.

Over time, the ailment may develop to such an extent that our entire existence becomes a state of constant stress. If the ailment is physical, we become physically ill and remain so until we rid ourselves of the stress. The same applies to emotional and mental states: we become ill as we try to rid ourselves of accumulated emotional or mental stress. This is why, in such cases, people often turn to alcohol and cigarettes, just as they turn to medicines for physical ailments.

Adversity does not always mean a disease, but if the cause of the disease is not eradicated, a disease will necessarily develop. But, as we have already noted, in any case, the cause of the disease is the lack of knowledge in a certain area of life, which leads to an imbalance. However, since all true knowledge can only be gained through experience, imbalance can only be eliminated by the deliberate acquisition of experience in the area of life where we lack knowledge.

I said "thoughtful", because just like medicines, the lack of experience and knowledge should be obtained thoughtfully and carefully. In other words, just as an excess of painkillers can kill the patient himself, connivance with alcohol can lead to alcoholism. Many men and women have gotten rid of the fears they had about sex by allowing themselves to experiment with homosexual relationships, but there are also many who have become homosexuals by giving themselves entirely to this experience, instead of acting thoughtfully. Remember, this is an imbalance correlation, not a normal acquisition of knowledge, but the correlation can not calculate the dose.

All of this is good, but I'm afraid you might get the impression that I'm standing up for Joe's right to correlate imbalances with infringements on children's rights? Of course not! If you decide to experiment with drugs, it concerns only you, the same applies to

Homosexuality, if you're going to do it with adult men. But experimenting with children is a different matter.

But what is Joe to do? Given the volume of this book, I cannot expect to give recipes for all cases, especially since if we take a hundred men suffering from a similar problem, their imbalance will have a hundred different kinds. Therefore, each of these people requires an individual approach. Since this is not possible, I will limit myself to general provisions that can be useful to anyone suffering from this ailment. In many ways, this is the same approach that I mentioned when discussing the acquisition of knowledge about the properties of fire.

Using this example, I can say that Joe can replenish his experience in two ways: either “put his hand on the fire”, that is, to cripple his life and the child by entering into sexual relations with him, or refrain from such experiments and try to correct the imbalance in other ways. The only acceptable way for Joe is to practice abstinence and develop self-discipline.

It is important to remember that self-discipline involves not only self-esteem, but also the fact that a person becomes his own student. In other words, if Joe is trying to heal, he must become a disciple of his true self, not a slave of his imbalance. Therefore, while respecting himself, Joe must constantly weigh his feelings, emotions, thoughts and impulses that are born when he communicates with children, and thus try to understand what exactly is the basis of his sexual arousal. At the same time, Joe must be super-vigilant and constantly work on his self-discipline to be ready to hold back his impulses at any moment. If Joe is (due to his strict adherence to this, his innocuous more and more abstinence) self-respect and self-control, which will help him to clearly see the origins of the problem.

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Once the causes of the problem are addressed, the symptoms will go away on their own. For example, if you know what you are experiencing.

Constant thirst due to the fact that you consume too much salt, you can correct the imbalance by limiting its consumption. So Joe, realizing that he is excited at the sight of children, say, because he wants to dominate the defenseless partner in sex, will most likely come to the conclusion that this desire is generated by a sense of his own sexual inferiority. Challenging this sense of inferiority during sexual intercourse with an adult partner, Joe will soon be able to get rid of fear and, thus, will cease to feel sexual attraction to children.

Having understood the importance of knowledge in our lives, we can now better understand why a man should prove by his example that life is not a sin.

Why a man?

Why sin?

These two questions are difficult to answer in a few words. But if we remember everything that has passed before, it will not be difficult for us to at least feel what we are talking about here.

Every man, being the personification of the spirit, is obliged to fully realize his potential on the physical plane, making a map of the unknown, thanks to which he consciously fulfills the role necessary for the evolution of awareness. This means that we cannot afford to have gaps in knowledge, because these gaps not only hinder our development, but also create an imbalance of one kind or another.

Is it worth saying that all this will not allow our potential to be fully revealed and will prevent a meaningful evolution of awareness? Therefore, it is very important that we, having known life in its entirety, do not condone our weaknesses.

It’s not life itself that’s bad, and it’s not what happens to us on the physical plane.

Bad or good our lives are only made by our attitude towards it, healthy or disorderly it is made by our detachment or our weakness.

In this way, we can all enjoy life and be happy, provided we maintain a certain detachment necessary to maintain self-discipline and self-esteem. Only by enjoying life to the fullest will we be able to reach our full potential and thus fulfill our destiny.

Chapter eleven. The true meaning of this myth is that a man must anchor a woman - both the woman of his life and the great female that we call the world around him. It is this truth that causes the greatest bewilderment these days, because today it is really not easy to find a man trained in this art.

When I say "anchor," I mean to find practical application for the unknown on the physical plane. This means that a man should not only make a map of the unknown, but also learn to use it. I want to prove this point by the Wright brothers.

Until the Wright brothers showed up and proved otherwise, it was thought that it was impossible to climb into the sky on machines that were heavier than air. But the Wright brothers believed that it was possible, and therefore began to prepare to break into the unknown. They were looking for a way to let them fly. Finding something in the unknown that seemed to indicate such a possibility, the brothers decided to trust their inner feelings and guided them for eleven years. Then, breaking through to the force encased in emptiness, these two men materialized something out of nothing. About nine months later, they flew nine hundred and fifty feet in the air. Two years later, they made a twenty-four-mile flight. Two years later, the first aircraft for the US Army was assembled. Air travel has become a reality. Thus, another part of the unknown entered the known - two men wanted not only to make a map of the unknown, but also to materialize it.

That is what it means to “anchor”! Many great people have had wonderful ideas, but until those ideas were anchored on the physical plane, they remained merely ideas—or, more precisely, pieces of sky! They drifted away into nowhere, like untethered balloons.

However, it is possible to anchor something on the physical plane only through an act of reasonable cooperation, firstly, between the male and female sex, and secondly, between a man and his inner woman. But that's the problem! After all, a man, as a rule, does not know how to get to his inner woman, not to mention how to cooperate with her. Since a woman is unknown, there should be no special surprise. Yet it was only because the Wright brothers broke into the unknown that air travel became possible. The process of reasonable cooperation is one of the main topics, and to better understand it, let’s dwell on it.

As we already know, a man represents the known, and a woman, in contrast to him, is the unknown. However, if we get caught up in the known, the evolution of awareness will immediately stop, and then we will only have to reproduce the known in various, but already existing forms that can not give anything new evolution of awareness. This is nothing but homosexuality in its highest expression. Just as one man cannot impregnate another, so the male known cannot impregnate the male unknown. Therefore, if a man wants to become a creative person, he needs to penetrate into the unknown, in other words, into the space of his inner woman and through the intelligent Orville and Wilbur Wright, the pioneers of American aviation, who designed the airplane and made the first successful flight on it.

However, this topic can not fit into the scope of this book, because it covers an incredibly complex manifestation, known to us as the “secret of the sex”. Now it is enough for us to come to the understanding that the evolution of awareness can only occur if a man fertilizes the great female, called the unknown. Therefore, when we speak of "making a map of the unknown," we mean that a man must first penetrate

The female unknown. By doing this, he will certainly discover new forms that need to be produced in the light. Having felt a new form, a man “fertilizes” the feminine, that is, the unknown, for without fertilization a new form cannot be born. So, since it is the man who spews sperm on the physical plane, the man must also “explode” the creative power of emptiness on both the emotional and mental planes.

But what does all this mean?

Remember, emptiness is nothing. And since it is nothing, it is not something definite and can be everything. Remember, I explained what emptiness is, speaking of it as WHAT IS. But as the power of emptiness begins to be realized or "erupted", emptiness is made perfect. The creative power of emptiness can be used to create. For the Wright brothers, this was an airplane.

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How a man draws strength from emptiness is extremely difficult to explain, and for us it is not so important now. But what is really important is that a man can draw this power every time he penetrates the unknown, wanting to create. This is exactly like sexual intercourse. No man knows for sure what leads him to arousal, what causes orgasm, what causes him to spew sperm. He either does it or he doesn't. And although doctors create scientific theories to explain this subject, for science, the stimulation of a man remains a failure, why sometimes, even with a full erection, he does not reach orgasm and why the same man, without any stimulation, can experience arousal and ejaculation within a few seconds!

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However, it is reliably known that no man is capable of excitement, not to mention ejaculation, if his heart remains indifferent. As we already know, the heart is the feeling, and since all feelings are the expression of irrational knowledge, we can conclude that any flow of irrational knowledge is manifested by an urge to creativity, stimulating and exciting a man. That is why it is not so important for us to understand how a man draws strength from emptiness, how to realize that everyone

Once, giving his heart, that is, feelings, a man gets strength from being “excited”. We are again convinced of how important it is for a man to trust his feelings.

But the creative impulse is never satisfied only with what leads a man to excitement. A man must fertilize the uterus of the unknown if he wants to produce anything. As we know, the “sperm” required for this is contained in emptiness, and this power is nothing but the knowledge of intelligent cooperation, which constitutes the creative possibilities of a man.

It should be noted here that “infertile” men (i.e., those who create nothing) are “infertile” because they lack knowledge of intelligent cooperation. And although such men will often “rape” others on both the emotional and mental planes, they will never be able to produce anything for the simple reason that violence is a concept exactly opposite to the act of reasonable cooperation. Let’s explain all this in a simple example.

Let's say you're my boss. Although I am also a man, but in your service I must recognize your leadership and support you in your destiny. So, in relation to you, I am a woman. This is known as the Relativity Factor in Awareness, a concept I developed in my book Oh, That's Happiness! If you want me to develop a new idea for the company, you have to let me, first, "embrace" your idea and, secondly, to bring it into the light - that is, to ensure its practical application on the physical plane.

But if you cannot convey this idea to me because you cannot articulate it or because you do not have the gift of communication, I cannot grasp it. If I cannot or simply do not want to grasp this idea, because I hate you with all my heart or fear you, then I will not be able to produce anything. Whatever the reason for this situation is your Theun Marez. "Oh, that's happiness!" Sofia, Kyiv, 1999 In the original, “conceive” (about the child), as well as “understood”, “invent”, “experience” (feeling, emotion).

Whether my inability to “fertilize” me, my unwillingness to “be fertilized” is one thing, it is now too late to force me to produce anything.

In other words, no matter how much you "rape" me, the end result will not be what you would like. If you really want me to produce your "child," you need to make me agree to a reasonable cooperation with you. How to do that is up to you. But most importantly, you need to understand that you should initiate reasonable cooperation as a man!

At this stage, we need to understand that “fruitless” men, that is, those who do not have knowledge of intelligent cooperation, those who descend to “rape”, will often try to replace the creative power of emptiness with something else. Such men often want to instill fear in their victim by manipulating on a mental or emotional level. This can be a direct threat of dismissal or fear of “falling out of favor” and being “excommunicated” from the weekly golf game in the country residence of the chief.

But you will agree that, although fear can actually bring something to light, due to the lack of creative impulse, it will at best be “premature”.

I used the example of the boss and his male subordinate for two reasons.

First, I wanted to emphasize that while the male and female sex remain physically unchanged, the male and female states of awareness are relative. Therefore, you should not forget about the relativity factor in awareness. Second, I wanted to emphasize that the relativity factor in awareness should by no means be taken as an attempt to justify homosexuality.

Since we are talking about homosexuality, and this problem is becoming increasingly important in the modern world, I would like to detail.

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As we have seen, the relative factor of awareness really exists, thanks to which both men and women are constantly shifting to one pole or the other of awareness. But we can't "change" our physical gender. The fact is that we can only hope to reach our full potential on the physical plane if we “stay true” to our gender. “Staying true” to sex means that a man fully includes a woman in the act of reasonable cooperation, for only in this way can he draw a map of the unknown. If he does not do this, then he is “bound” within the male known.

As we have noted before, if the situation is not corrected, it leads to gaps in knowledge and imbalance. The danger is that any imbalance distorts perception. Constant distortion of perception in turn leads to an aggravation of the imbalance, which is why the man becomes more and more “bound” within the known. Having become thus involved, the man increasingly isolates himself from interaction with the unknown, where the role of mediator should be played by a woman. Such a man slowly but inexorably distanced himself from the goal of a real man, refusing reasonable cooperation with a woman and from drawing a map of the unknown.

The reasons why a man refuses to include a woman in his life can be completely different for different individuals and for representatives of different cultures. The degree of isolation can also vary significantly. But we can still say that such a man always puts the male principle above the female. But at the same time (however paradoxical this statement may seem) a man ceases to remain faithful to his gender. By giving preference to the male principle, such a man unconsciously leans towards mental patterns that lead to homosexuality. I am every man, to say, does not want to become isolated homosexual, but the subtext of this isolation is obvious. If such an imbalance is not corrected in time, then, passing from one life to another, it can lead to homosexuality.

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The elevation of one sex over the other prevents a man from remaining faithful to his sex, and without this fidelity, as we have already said,

It is impossible to reach its full potential. The deep subconsciousness of this fact encourages a homosexual man to play either a male or female role in homosexual relationships.

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Of course, someone who takes on the role of a woman feels more insolvent as a man. This feeling of inadequacy is born from the fact that a man forgets what the true male purpose is. Therefore, such a man needs that in his life there was another man who will lead him, indicate the direction and means to achieve the goal. The irony of this situation is that, having given preference to the male principle over the female, a man shifts to the opposite pole of awareness and becomes more woman than any woman!

Feeling more like a woman than a man, such a man plays a passive role in homosexual intercourse. He is able to contact the male principle only when his partner plays an active male role for him, especially during sexual intercourse. Why especially during sexual intercourse? Because no man can experience satisfaction on an emotional and mental level if his partner is another man. As a result, physical sex becomes above all for a passive homosexual, in which he is “fertilized”, although he cannot “conceive” from this and continues to feel “empty”.

As a result, the passive man begins to subconsciously desire satisfaction, not realizing that he is actually trying to realize his own male potential. Misreading his desire, he begins to look for men who want to have sex several times a day, or several partners, sometimes even people with sadistic tendencies. For a passive man trying to get satisfaction, any physical pain that lasts longer than the sexual act itself plays an important role, because it temporarily quenches the aching feeling of emptiness. It is for this reason that a passive man shows interest only in those who have a "bolt to the knee", and will have nothing against it if he is "fucked off with a chorus" by rapists.

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An active partner also cannot get complete satisfaction from such a relationship - only temporary relief. And although such a man is in closer contact with the male principle than his passive partner, he also begins to suffer from the infertility of their relationship. No matter what pleasure the sexual act brought to an active man, he realizes that his partner can neither become pregnant nor awaken the creative power of emptiness in him. As a result, the active partner feels powerless and unsatisfied. To get rid of this feeling, such a man at first tries to find satisfaction, tying up relationships with several partners at the same time. But this relief does not last long. If the feeling of dissatisfaction does not decrease, such a man turns to either sadism or bisexuality. By letting go of his sadistic tendencies, he achieves orgasm only after inflicting severe physical pain on his partner. If he becomes bisexual, he usually ends up having a relationship with married couples. In doing so, he also gets sadistic pleasure when he hurts a man by having sex with his wife in his presence.

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I know that many blues will start protesting against everything said here. But none of them can argue on the merits. As men, they will never be able to reach their potential when they are held captive by homosexuality, nor will they be able to achieve the evolution of awareness. Even “blue married couples” who have lived long years in peace and “happiness” whose behavior never resembled what is described here cannot deny that deep down they felt dissatisfied and never were truly happy.

Moreover, I want to emphasize that I am not trying to take a position condemning homosexuality. The emotional pain that homosexuals inflict on themselves is hardly greater than that inflicted on people in the heterosexual world. Each of us must find our own way and be able to preserve our knowledge. Here I have only presented objective facts and nothing more.

As proof of my sincerity, I can admit that I also had a homosexual experience. All knowledge we gain only through experience, and I am no exception. So, all that I was talking about is the result of direct knowledge; I did not suck it out of my finger and “sing” from other people’s words. I had to go a hard way, but I don’t regret it — I have gained knowledge about homosexuality and I don’t want to re-experience it!

How can I judge you if you are gay? But, if you want to claim your right to power as a man, you should reconsider your behavior and sexual preferences in light of all that is said in this book. I confess that in my brief review I left many questions unanswered. But for the purpose set in this book, it is enough to consider homosexuality only in the context of revealing the secret of the male. All I'm trying to do is steer the Blues in the right direction. There is nothing more I can do, because the problem is extremely complex, and the volume of the book does not allow for its thorough analysis.

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We become what we want to become, partly because of social conditioning, partly because of self-image, and partly because of the inner drive for knowledge. If you decide to be homosexual from the moment of birth, then past lives filled with imbalances have finally overtaken you.

Similarly, the imbalance of past lives causes a person to be born crippled or mentally underdeveloped. The bottom line is that any imbalance must sooner or later manifest itself on the physical plane - in emotional, mental, or even genetic form.

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Let us return to the concept of intelligent cooperation. You will discover that the best way to learn this art is to begin cooperating with “external” women, whoever they may be—your wife, your male subordinates, your son or that great woman called the world around you. By studying external women and seeing how we relate to them and they to us, we learn to distinguish the two polarities of our own awareness: male and female. In other words, we see when we are playing a male role and when a female role, and how these roles complement each other in intelligent cooperation.

By studying a woman in others and learning to understand the female role that we play ourselves, we learn how to cooperate with our inner woman. In a practical sense, this means that we begin to study how the rational mind and irrational feelings born in the heart complement each other, and therefore can work for the same goal. It’s easier to start with the woman of your life. To make this clearer, let’s take the example again.

How often does a man express a thought based on knowledge only to have his wife express feelings that seem to contradict his point of view? One is not necessarily right and the other is not. On the contrary, this means that a man is given the opportunity to show his creativity, while his wife encourages him to do so, immersing him in the flow of irrational knowledge.

If a man simply pushes his wife away, he will mark aside the opportunity and at the same time will not be able to “excited”. If he accepts the stimulation offered to him by his wife, he will begin to explore the unknown, which will open the flow of irrational knowledge. The key to this lies in the man’s desire to think, “How can I use what I already know with the unknown that my wife offers me?” To do this, a man must penetrate his inner woman — that is, the unknown that is inside — to allow feelings to tell him how to carry out the act of reasonable cooperation between the heart and the mind. But, as we already know, this act of intelligent cooperation is to fertilize the uterus of a woman. And as a result of fertilization into the light, there is always something new.

So, wishing to claim the right to all your male potential, you can not refuse to learn reasonable cooperation with women in your life. Learn to listen to them, not just listen. Learn to respect them by thinking about what they are telling you or trying to show you. In doing so, you will soon discover that you are able to intelligently cooperate with any woman without any effort on your part. And this process does not require you to think more than the sexual excitement and uplift that you experience when you are alone with a young beauty!

No man can force himself to become aroused of his own free will and especially not able to achieve orgasm in this way. To become capable of creation, a man needs the presence of the unknown, and when he enters into the unknown flow of irrational knowledge, he will cause an “orgasm”. In orgasm, it brings to life the creative power of emptiness and in this act fertilizes the uterus of the female unknown. After that, inevitably, there is a birth of something that enshrines on the physical plane that aspect of the unknown that did not exist before.

All this leads us to a new myth - after all, in order for a man to be able to "anchor" the unknown on the physical plane, he must be able not only to initiate an act of reasonable cooperation, but also to know how to keep a woman, so as not to get lost in the chaos of the unknown.