Male and Female — The Male in Search of Masculinity

No one can explain how to become a man, because they are all so different! 

Any man can tell what masculinity means to him personally, but this is unlikely to help others, because there are no two people in the world.

Women can describe what they think men should be, but should a bird be taught to swim?

If you want to enter the world of a real man, you first need to know what this world is like, and then learn to live in it, make it your own.

This advice may seem like a strange mystery, but it’s actually very simple.

Why not? The secret is to understand that you don’t need to go somewhere and look for something. The reason is simple: you are already “where” you need to be, and you have everything you need with you — whatever that “necessary” means to you.

Here’s what I’m saying: Finding masculinity doesn’t mean the physical journey you take to find something “out there.” No, it's more of a magical journey we take deep into our being to explore the boundaries of what I call emptiness.
But the very approach to these boundaries is one of the most frightening experiences I know, because at first glance it may seem that approaching the boundaries of this supposedly “alien” space is like jumping into a bottomless abyss. But the boundaries of emptiness are not yet a chasm and they can not be called “bottomless”. Overcoming your first fear, you discover that these boundaries are as firm as the material world. The true emptiness opens up beyond these boundaries, and, as we know it from the depths of these boundaries, it is a truly spectacular sight!

I used the term “knowing” specially — I can’t imagine how else you can define the feeling that surrounds you when you meet the highest magic!

I can't say "see" - how can a person see absolute darkness?

I can't say "touch" - how can a person touch an empty space?

I can't say "hear" - how can a person hear a vacuum?

Nor can I say “taste” or “hear the smell” because even these two feelings are powerless in the face of absolute emptiness.

Yet, in some strange and inexplicable way, something in the depths of our being begins to register the presence of this emptiness. And this realization becomes possible only because in the innermost depths of our soul something holds it - knows everything about it. That "knowledge" is "retention" and gives me the right to talk about "knowledge."

So what is this emptiness? It's just nothing! No, don't think I'm explaining myself with riddles, symbols, or metaphors! To know emptiness is to see with absolute clarity that this emptiness is much more real than what we usually consider “reality.” To know emptiness is to know what constitutes the very core of human existence. But after telling about the incredible power emanating from its depths, how else can you describe anything? How do we find words for what everyone is afraid of?

The only thing I can say about emptiness is that it exists. And since She Is, She calls every man to her - beckons him with her depth, where he will be able to know the meaning of his own masculinity to the fullest. But sadly, it must be admitted that the cowardice of the men of our day does not follow the call of emptiness, trying to drown it out with the noise of everyday fuss.
I’m not trying to give a deeper explanation. The only thing I can do is to tell you about the incredible fruits that visiting this void can bring. But first you should know that if you look at things from a certain angle, it becomes clear that the concepts of “female” and “male” refer to special states of awareness. Therefore, before you try to understand the meaning of emptiness, you should understand the mystery of the sexes and its relationship to awareness. This is the key to emptiness! Without this key, you will never discover the meaning of emptiness, let alone break through to it!

First, try to understand that awareness is in ourselves. The latter is especially important when it comes to our sexual identity. Since you were born a man, you have a certain gender, you are not just an “it”. In a practical sense, this means that you are the opposite pole to the woman, not a strange, asexual being lost somewhere between these poles.

At the most basic level, you can say that there is your body - the body of a man, and you yourself, living in this body and having awareness built around the male pole. Of course, awareness is unlimited — at any rate, it should not be limited. It can be developed in any degree and in any direction. In this book, we will describe the possible ways of developing awareness of our potential.

Everyone knows that the word “potential” comes from the Latin potentia and means “ability” or “strength”. So, when we talk about potential, we are talking about inner abilities and strength that you may not even have guessed about — and therefore never tried to study them. In the name of clarity (not prejudice), let us call a man’s potential for masculinity, and a woman’s potential for femininity.

THE WORLD OF MAN = THE STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS THAT YOU SHOULD LEARN TO UNDERSTAND AND DO 

OUR OWN
Male = Gender = Your Physical Body
Male = your awareness
Courage = Your potential

So, the male principle comes from emptiness, while the female one comes from the uterus. But emptiness and the uterus complement each other in some strange way - one lies in the depths of the male psyche, the other is hidden in the depths of the female body. Moreover, the void radiates incredible power, giving the impression of a whirlpool where the inner force hits up and out. On the other hand, the uterus is still, but waiting, ready to always receive and accumulate.

The void is always active, while the uterus is mostly passive before conception. But all this will become clear as soon as we advance in our understanding of masculinity.

So, we come to the fact that you live in a body that is physically related to the male sex, have awareness, which is also called male, and a potential called masculinity, which originates from emptiness. It follows that to strive to develop any potential, except your own, means to renounce your own potential, and what is good about it?

But it’s amazing that so many men are trying to become women, and so many women are trying to become men — all in the name of gender equality. If nature wanted to be single, everyone would be born a hermaphrodite! Attempts to become genderless are simply meaningless — after all, everyone already has their own potential for femininity or masculinity. How stupid it is that many modern men are in search of a uterus, not a void, and women abandon the uterus for the sake of a void.

The purpose of this book is to offer you real means of reconnecting with the sense of your own masculinity and, in addition, to provide you with information that will allow you to use this feeling to develop your potential. Neither I nor anyone else can do more, no matter how hard he tries to convince you otherwise.
No one can give you an understanding of what it means to be a man - each of us must master this knowledge on our own. However, there are certain tools and information that will be invaluable in understanding the true nature of the world of men and will make it their home.

Life is not an intellectual process.

Life is a feeling.

Wait! If you’ve missed this aphorism, stop to understand what an intellectual fool you are! Have you become such a boring male stereotype that you need a complex intellectual process before you think about how to achieve a physical erection? If so, it is no surprise that you are completely impotent before life!

Every act inspired by feeling is genuine creativity, and all creativity, whether it is a musical work, a new invention, a miracle of architecture, or simply the birth of a child, requires us to use a single type of energy, namely sexual energy.

So if the only way to connect with your penis is an intellectual process, then you not only lost contact with your feelings, but are impotent before intentions and goals!

I think a lot of men will be able to confirm how boring and unsatisfying can be sexual intercourse on a joyless Sunday evening. It would seem that time was chosen successfully, but an erection is given to such men with difficulty, and it takes a lot of time to achieve orgasm. All this reflects the life of most modern men. How bad is it to have a career? But why does this process require constant effort? Their bonds and marriages also seem like a worthwhile thing, but why in these bonds and these marriages men never reach the highest point they dreamed of?

Chapter two. Reaching its potential

When faced with a mystery, you should not forget that you are faced with the unknown.

Only fools are so ignorant that they make a clever appearance in the face of the unknown. The wise are humble enough to surrender to the power of their senses.

Let me begin this chapter by warning that the volume of this book does not allow us to delve into technical details that may not be up to the teeth of even the most inquisitive reader. And yet, if we are going to grasp our potential, which is inextricably linked to the mystery of being, we cannot afford to completely ignore an intriguing mystery called the “evolution of awareness.” That is why, intending to make this book extremely simple, I advise everyone to familiarize themselves with this section of the doctrine, to read my previous works on the subject, which we will only briefly touch on in the pages of this book.

NB. The concept of "social being" here means the totality of the material body, emotional apparatus and mind.

When it comes to awareness, or dreaming, it should be remembered that the “female” and “male” principles indicate the opposite poles of its existence. When we speak of the male principle, we mean a certain pole of the dreamer’s awareness, and not the physical differences of the man. The material body is only a manifestation of the male potential, and it is this manifestation that we call “man.” Obviously, this means that you, the spiritual entity, have already embodied one pole of your awareness on the physical plane, settling in the physical body of a man. Moreover, this pole of awareness is not only what we call the “male principle,” as it also has the potential to be masculine. It follows from all this that the common goal of embodiment is to unlock this potential — that is, to fully develop an awareness of what it means to be a man.

You can also say that to be a real man means to fully reveal on the physical plane your potential - masculinity. If this statement seems too obvious to you, look around. How many of the thousands of men you know can be called real men? Do you consider yourself a real man? 

A REAL MAN

You are like a man who fully realizes his potential = Masculinity

Chapter three. Origin of male and female

The secret of the male and female principle is the key to understanding evolution. The one who has mastered this secret receives unlimited power.

In the previous chapter we have concluded that the concepts of male and female indicate two poles of awareness and through the act of incarnation we manifest one of these polarities. From this it follows that in every man there is an inner woman, and in every woman there is an inner man - as two polar parts of our awareness.

Given the nature of these two polarities, the male personifies the human spirit, and the female - the physical essence, that is, the embodiment of man. The Toltecs call these polarities respectively nagual and tonal. It is the interaction of the two polarities that determines the evolution of awareness. Thus,

MEN'S = NAGBAL (human spirit)
WOMEN'S = TONALS (material essence)

In case you have already begun to suspect that I am advocating gender inequality, let me explain everything in more detail. First, do not forget that we are all spiritual beings in physical embodiment and therefore, regardless of gender, have nagual and tonal. Secondly, it should be remembered that when we speak of male and female principles, we mean states of awareness, and awareness as a whole is relative compared to other states of awareness - regardless of the form of its physical manifestation, male or female. In the book "Oh, that's happiness!" (Teun Marez. "Oh, that's happiness!" I explained the relative nature of awareness to Sophia, Kiev, 1999, and now we will have to focus on the consequences of this relativity and consider the generalized scheme of phenomena described below.
Considering life in its entirety, sooner or later we come to the eternal question "Who am I?". Although the answer to this question has already been given, we still do not understand what it means. Obviously, such a question can be answered only partially, since we are able to speak about ourselves with confidence only from a material point of view. Let’s not try to find an answer to a question that is beyond our capabilities. We should rephrase it so that it allows at least a partial answer. Let us ask ourselves, "What is that self called the tonal?" or, "What is that self called the physical being?"

As we already know, the self, which is a material being, a tonal, has a physical body that not only has sensory perception, but is also able to perceive from the point of view of emotional reactions and emotional impulses. This is our manifestation on the physical plane. But is that all there is to me? Although many materialists and atheists tend to answer this question in the affirmative, no sane person would agree with such a simplistic definition. Just think a little and we will quickly realize that somewhere “inside” us there is an entity that controls not only the material body, but also emotions and thoughts. What is this essence? We have called this embodied dreamer particle awareness. I said “particle” because the dreamer is fully aware of the spiritual essence, and we have already said that in the material world there is only one pole, male or female.

There are many possible definitions of tonal, but in this book we will use only one of them. The tonal is all that we know about ourselves, for even that part of our awareness that governs the material body, emotions, and thoughts also refers to the tonal, that is, the embodied entity. We know nothing about the other pole of our awareness and the spiritual essence itself. Therefore, for the sake of clarity, we call the tonal everything, and the spiritual essence, the nagual, nothing, since from the point of view of physical beings the spirit is something of which we know nothing. So,

NAGUAL = NO-THING
TONAL = ALL

The consequences are quite obvious: the tonal is life in manifestation, and the nagual is life unmanifested.

The interaction of spirit and tone, male and female, leads to the evolution of awareness.

This reasoning brings us back to the concept of potential, for the only purpose of embodiment is obviously to unlock potential: spirit is embodied by the desire to explore its own potential. Thus, the spirit is not only the source of any manifested life, but also permeates all this life. In simple words, the spirit manifests itself in order to know the still unknown facets of itself - its potential. But first he must separate what he knows from what he does not know, what he already knows about himself, and what he does not yet know.

Knowledge means knowledge that allows practical use. It can be compared to money in a bank (that is, a positive account balance). The unknown is understood to mean our potential knowledge, which cannot be applied until it is materialized in any way (so to speak, deposited into a current account in a bank). The process can be compared to a profitable transaction: until it pays itself off in the form of cash, the income from the transaction will remain exclusively potential. So, if the known can be compared with a positive account in the bank, then the unknown remains something negative, these are funds that have not yet been received by the account. 

The scheme arises:

KNOWN = POSITIVE

UNKNOWN = NEGATIVE

Like any intelligent entrepreneur, the spirit seeks to expand its business (to carry out the evolution of awareness), to reveal its full potential, to expand the sphere of the known at the expense of the unknown. Do not forget, however, that the physical essence, or tonal, is essentially everything and includes all facets of manifested life. Thus, it is by definition chaos and order, light and darkness, positive and negative, male and female. But if the evolution of awareness moves in a reasonable way, then even at this level the spirit needs to separate one pole from the other. It is this process that becomes the beginning of what the Toltecs call the separation of the sexes. Remember that so far it is only about existence at the level of pure awareness - awareness of the spiritual essence.

SELECTION OF THE SEX

The spirit manifests itself to know the different facets of itself, to reveal its potential.

What?

It separates the known from the unknown = division of the sexes (male and female awareness)

He makes the unknown part of the known, embodies what was potential

So, we can not say that some facet can be more important than others. The question is that one pole should be separated from the other — it is necessary for the smooth flow of the evolution of awareness. It is also obvious that in this process to determine the course of evolution should only know. Could it be otherwise? If the spiritual entity does not separate the known from the unknown, but tries to apply the known to expand awareness, is evolution possible? Is it possible to manage money without having money? By saying that what is known is positive in comparison with what is unknown, we mean at the same time that the tonal is dependent on the spiritual essence, not only from the point of view of the incarnation itself, but also from the point of view of the direction of the evolution process. To clarify this point, let us return to the analogy of entrepreneurship.

If you have your own business, it exists because of you. Without you, it wouldn't have happened. Your business depends entirely on the time, effort and resources invested in it. You are doing this because the enterprise has great potential, but if you do not direct your knowledge to its development, the business will simply fall apart. In this comparison, the matter should be considered a tonal, and you yourself a nagual. As the driving force of your business, you take a positive side to it.
From this analogy, it is clear that by virtue of the structure of life itself, the tonal is a negative and feminine element in relation to the nagual. Why female? Just as a man produces and stores fertilizing sperm, so the spirit “highlights” and carries a vital purpose. Without purpose, without such “sperm”, neither conception, nor birth, nor, accordingly, manifestation, incarnation, is possible. These considerations apply to you as a businessman: in relation to your business, you play the role of a man. And if you manage your business according to your purpose, you fertilize it with your creative power — and then it thrives.

Of course, you can argue: why the carrier of the purpose is not able to be a female principle? But think about how illogical this argument is. Have you ever heard of a man who was created by a business, a man whose existence would be determined only by that business? Such an argument is absurd and is a sure sign of a perverse mind advocating gender inequality.

Being a prisoner of the idea that a man is higher than a woman (or vice versa), such people constantly try to do everything differently than representatives of the opposite sex - even try to think differently, if this, of course, can be called the word "think"!

Thanks to the above, it is easy to understand that since the female is negative in relation to the spirit, it is by definition unknown to the spirit, that is, its potential. Of course, this potential is manifested life, a tonal. Since the tonal is everything (light and darkness, male and female), it is absolutely necessary for the spirit to separate one polarity from another.

The final result of this separation is a physical being, male or female. This creature has male or female awareness, as well as the potential of masculinity or femininity.

If we look at how this manifests itself in the material world, it becomes clear that the physical entity called “woman” also occupies a negative position in relation to the physical entity called “man.” This is due to the fact that a woman has the same relationship with a man that connects the female consciousness with the male. Because of their negativity, all women are (in the truest sense) a mixture of chaos and order, light and darkness, male and female principles - this is the mystery of the female principle. It is based on the fact that, being the personification of the tonal, a woman, in fact, is everything. This is the main difference between female and male, which, being a manifestation of the nagual, is nothing, that is, emptiness!

Naturally, the hidden meaning of all this is huge, but it will become clear as we move forward.

NAGUAL = UNMANIFESTED LIFE; NO-THING; VOID

TONAL = LIFE IN MANIFESTATION; ALL; MATKA

However, all this does not mean that a man is nothing, and a woman is some kind of monster. Just female has a completely different configuration, different from the male, as it includes two pronounced sides. This dual aspect of female nature is unknown to the spirit. Thus, from the point of view of the male principle, the personification of the spirit, there is a lot of mystery in a woman. In fact, the female principle is a big mystery to itself, although women rarely admit it even to themselves.

FEATURE OF THE WOMEN'S BEGINNING (understanding)

TONALS = ALL = All the manifested life

Both:

Chaos and Order

Light and Darkness

Positive and Negative

To sum up, we can all be said to be spiritual beings with the awareness that we call the dreamer. This awareness has two polarities: male and female. Thus, at this level of existence, we are all hermaphrodites.

However, in order to reach our full potential, we need to develop awareness and, therefore, to separate the known from the unknown. This, in turn, leads to the division into two sexes. Depending on our approach to unlocking our potential, we embody either the masculine or the feminine side of our awareness.

If this is the male side, then we get the male body and approach life from the point of view of the spirit, that is, the known, if the female - we find the body of a woman and perceive life from the position of the pala, the unknown. However, when meeting the unknown, it is important to remember that it remains a potential until it turns into the known. Being a potential, it by its nature contains everything: positive and negative, light and darkness, male and female - just as any business venture can potentially bring both success and failure. Therefore, although we, as spiritual beings, have no physical sex and are both male and female, we need to manifest it first, that is, incarnate on the physical plane, in order to fully realize our potential. Such embodiment leads to the separation of the sexes, that is, to birth in the form of a man or woman - positive and negative, known and unknown.

If you are a man, it is simply a division into the known and the unknown, but the embodiment in the form of a woman in a certain sense means maintaining the inseparability, the unknown. This is also reflected in the structure of chromosomes. If we denote the unknown with the symbol X and the known with the symbol Y, then in the separation of the sexes, a man is determined by the combination of XY and a woman by XX.

As I mentioned earlier, the description of the practical side of all these processes is beyond the scope of this book, but even thanks to such a simplified understanding of the concept of the sexes, we can already speak with some knowledge of the mystery surrounding the void and the uterus.

This fact has many consequences, which are based on one important statement: without the correct interaction between the male and female principles, the evolution of awareness cannot become reasonable and eventually comes to a mess similar to that prevailing in the modern world. Since the unknown is always a mystery, the mystery of the woman cannot be solved to the end, but thanks to the cooperation between the male and female principles, the unknown can be consistently included in the known. Only in this way can men reach their full potential of masculinity, and women - the potential of femininity.

In a practical sense, this means that the mystery of a woman remains insoluble, and the potential of the female principle cannot be fully revealed if it is not combined with the purpose and, consequently, with the life of the male principle. This is due to the fact that it is the man who personifies the known, that is, orderliness.
It follows that the male represents the spirit, and the man must materialize the purpose of the spirit and include the unknown known. But it is the same as saying: a man must understand his polar opposite, a woman.

In order for this to happen, a man and a woman cooperate with each other in this way: first, a woman balances a man, secondly, complements him in everything and, thirdly, supports him when he claims his right to strength. In order to understand all this to the end, in the next chapter we will return to what the dual nature of the female principle means.

Chapter four. The dual nature of the female principle

We already know that the female principle is both order and chaos, light and darkness, positive and negative, male and female. The Toltecs define this duality as a "mother-woman" pair. Due to the relative factor of awareness, the mother acts in relation to children (regardless of their sex) in the role of the male principle. Therefore, the Toltecs call the male principle in a woman a mother, and the female - just female.

In any relationship, including relationships with men, a woman can play the role of either a mother or a true woman. A woman who directs her own business, in business matters, manifests as a mother, that is, the male principle. Similarly, a married woman who makes all the most important family decisions herself also manifests herself mainly as a mother.
You should understand what this means (especially in marriage). In simple words, in such cases, the spouse becomes not a husband, but a son. From the point of view of the husband himself, the wife is not his wife, but his mother, while he himself feels like a little boy!

The above state of affairs is the main cause of problems and lack of happiness in most marriages, since a woman sooner or later gets tired of the role of a mother in relation to her husband and having sex with a “son”, and a man, in turn, gets bored when he is constantly told what and how to do, including how to make love with his “own mother”!

The number of possible outcomes of such a situation is almost infinite. For example, a husband may become acquainted with younger women who are less likely to treat him as a son, and a wife may become interested in a man who does not need maternal care. As a result, the spouses move away from each other or divorce. In attempts to establish his masculinity, a husband can become aggressive and even reach physical cruelty towards his wife, and a woman can show even greater power in trying to force her husband to become a real man. This can lead to a complete breakdown of marriage, an outbreak of violence or simply withdrawal (turning into an eternal “little boy”) from the husband. As a rule, such problems arise because the husband does not fulfill his true function as a man, and the wife is forced to assume the role of a mother.

Chapter five. Myths and reality

Although myths are born of ignorance, we must not forget that all reality is veiled by myths. You need to take care not to throw the baby out with the water.

By looking at yourself and then at all the men around you, you will quickly realize that you can rightly consider even those precious crumbs of knowledge about true masculinity that you possess as valuable knowledge that you have gained from your own experience. Generally speaking, if you are honest with yourself, you will have to admit that most of our knowledge about ourselves is based on two sources: the first is related to the material existence itself, and the second is related to information that is imposed by social conditioning.

Think for a moment: who are you? Understand that you are not a name. The name is intended only for identification, its necessity is caused solely by the existence of a material body. Without him, you wouldn't have a name. Besides, without a body, you wouldn't be a man, a husband, a father, an engineer, or anything else. You are not your body! As we have already found out, you are not your feelings and thoughts, because you are able to manage all this.
As for the second source, the information imposed on us by social conditioning also does not tell us anything about who we really are. This information is based solely on the opinions and beliefs of others, which in turn are based on false and biased ideas. Moreover, the only purpose of imposing this information is to limit us to conventions, to force us, first, to come to terms with someone else's prejudice and, secondly, to join the perverted activities of the majority. The underlying belief is that the truth is determined by the majority, and the person who dares to go against the will of the majority is mistaken.

Therefore, if we want to understand the mystery of the sexes and, in particular, the secret of a true man, we need to carefully sift through everything we seem to know and think in order to separate myths from reality. It must be remembered that any, even the most daring fantasies are somehow based on reality. Therefore, we cannot afford to simply discard the already known in an angry impulse to get rid of imposed false conventions, prejudices and delusions - because the roots of the truth sought are buried somewhere under this disorderly pile.

However, I must warn you that in trying to separate myths from the reality of you, even if you are a male chauvinist, you will repeatedly visit the desire to resist the ideas outlined in this book. The reason lies in the long centuries of oppression, inequality, injustice, suffering and struggle of women all over the world trying to free themselves from the humiliation.
You might get the impression that I want to put women back in prison, where they're just getting out of. Of course, I have no such intention. 

I hope that by thinking about the contents of this book, you will understand that I am not going to suppress women at all. On the contrary, I am doing everything possible to free them, to restore them the dignity and respect that they have been denied for so long.

But at the same time, I want to help men achieve the clarity of understanding they need to assert their right to power.

But before I understand what is myth and what is reality, I must note that I do not set myself the task of considering all existing myths and problems in the pages of this book. I have chosen only the nine most common myths, but their detailed analysis will allow us to understand that they essentially give rise to all other misconceptions. By talking about the nine fundamental myths, we learn enough to reveal the meaning of any other myth.

Part Two
Nine myths and their hidden meaning

Chapter six. Myth one: men do not cry

As we advance in the study of these myths, we find that the first and last myths are two sides of the same coin, while all the other myths are layers of the material from which this coin is made.

Of all the myths, this is probably the worst understood - because its true meaning is that a man cannot be helpless.

The reason why a man cannot be helpless is that the female principle occupies a negative position in relation to the male. This does not mean that a woman is inferior to a man. But, being the polar opposite of a man, a woman seeks to preserve, not to progress.

In other words, while the spirit seeks the evolution of awareness, the tonal aims at preserving the fruits of evolution. But preservation always implies a certain stagnation for the simple reason that "you can't climb a Christmas tree and not break your pants"! We either stand still or we go forward.

Let me briefly remind you that the spirit is the unmanifested life, and it desires to know its full potential. In order to achieve this, the spirit, or if you will, the archetypal Adam, must first separate the known from the unknown. The Spirit does this by manifesting on the physical plane, and this manifestation is nothing but a poplar, that is, all that we perceive as a manifestation of life, or cosmic Eve. But, as is clearly seen, life in all its manifestations seeks to preserve, and therefore to triumph of inertia.

Moreover, since the poplar is everything — light and darkness, male and female, positive and negative — the spirit must again distinguish these two poles of its manifested awareness, which consequently leads to the separation of the sexes. Thus we get a man — Adam — representing the male, the known, and a woman — Eve — representing the indivisible, and therefore female, the unknown.

However, since the masculine represents the spirit of the man and the feminine represents the tonal (and therefore the physical essence of the man), the evolution of awareness is only due to the interaction of these two polar opposites.

Thus, in order to develop his awareness, the spirit must enclose the unknown, or feminine, in the known - only in this way can he realize his full potential.

This means that somewhere in the depths of the soul every man passionately wants to know his inner female “half”, or tonal, which is life in manifestation. It is a perfectly natural instinct inherent in every real man to draw closer to himself a woman who will not only be his wife and mirror for his inner woman, but also one in whom he will also read reflections of the secrets and mysteries of life in manifestation.

All this is beautiful, but if we remember that the tonal is everything, that is: order and chaos, light and darkness, positive and negative, and besides the fact that the aspiration of a woman is aimed at preservation, it becomes clear to us that a man cannot afford to be helpless. If a man becomes indulgar in his helplessness, he will only be able to awaken the “mother” in a woman, and the “mother”, as we have already agreed, is the masculine aspect of femininity. But understand, a mother can never separate polarities — that is not her function, and that instinct is absent. That is why the final result of waking up in a mother’s woman will necessarily be that she will begin to preserve everything that can be preserved, and in this process she will subconsciously try to fix the feeling of helplessness that originated in her man!

This is exactly what is happening in the modern world. As men behave like helpless babies, maternal instincts are becoming more prevalent in women — to the point that the world is being ruled by women who are becoming increasingly aggressive. As a result, men become even weaker. And such men like to be outraged when their "moms" tell them what can be done and what can not be done, and as a result they begin to look more and more like capricious boys protesting against everyone and everything, but immediately run into the bushes, feeling that they can even kick their ears for pranks!

Now, looking at the world, we see that humanity has become an almost genderless race, whose members do not know what to call themselves: Arthur or Martha. So now, in order to determine which sex a particular individual belongs to, you have to consider his body. But, given the incredible development of medicine, even this method is no longer a one hundred percent guarantee! Many men, formally belonging to the male sex, show emotional reactions and mental impulses that can only be called asexual! The same applies to most modern women. But, as this book shows — and from what the modern world is about — this is no good.

The only way to achieve true cooperation and understanding is for men to be fully men and women to be fully women. In other words, progress is possible only if men try to show all the best male that is inherent in them, and women will try to show all the best female that they possess. Only in this way can we avoid stagnation or the battle of the sexes.

However, let us be fair to the end: men have a reason to indulge their weaknesses and helplessness. Without forgetting that the male comes from emptiness, we will not be surprised that every man sooner or later begins to wonder how he can fulfill his destiny and realize his full potential. What first appears as a vague and unformulated question in the process of life turns into a completely real fear of failure.

Starting to gradually realize that he is responsible for everything, including his wife and family, and not having a reliable guide to life at hand, the man comes to a frightening conclusion: he is left alone in the world! In other words, he understands that it is up to him to decide what his life will be - happy, successful and full or nightmare, shameful and failed! He is destined to show the way, lead and take responsibility not only for his life, but also for the lives of his loved ones.

And now, when a man looks deep into his being to find what he needs, he sees only the open gap of emptiness. At some deep level, he may feel that this emptiness is not so full. But here’s the trouble: he doesn’t know how to get to her, let alone how to use the power contained in it. Don’t forget that each of us has absorbed the social conventions that dictate what a man should be, but none of us has been taught how to use our male potential to the fullest. We’ve all been taught to think rationally — but what good is rational thinking when we need to break through to the void? We have been taught that a man should not cry, but what good is it that you are big, brave and strong, when deep down in your being there is a feeling that you are a loser?

Men have never been taught to be real men. And no man has entered this world armed with a guide to finding the strength that is right for a man. In personifying the spirit of the man, each man must look for his own way, and in this search he begins to write his own guide. But where is the path we are looking for? Good question! But at the same time, there is nothing good about it. Why not? Because when you ask this question, you are helpless again!

A real man knows that all he has is himself and that he is not going anywhere. He knows in his heart that he has no place to go. If he has to go somewhere, it is only in search of the unknown, in search of answers to eternal questions. And if he needs anyone, it is only his inner female half, symbolizing the unknown for him.

That is why a real man will never pose as a helpless baby, but will sit down to draw a map of the unknown.

This work he does inside his being, as well as inside the world. Using his inner woman as a mirror, reflecting his own inner unknown, the man makes a map of the unknown that is inside, and using the world around him as a mirror (the great female, which is called life manifested), he makes a map of his fate and his potential. At the same time, a man gradually paves the way to the emptiness enclosed in him, and over time he begins to draw strength” from this inexhaustible source of life and creativity.

Knowing his female partner, a man not only draws a map of the unknown, but also brings the unknown to a clear light, making it part of conscious knowledge. Through this process, a man gets the opportunity to compare what he has long known about himself with what he recently learned about his unknown potential. In this way, he can make any necessary adjustments to his knowledge. In other words, a woman gives a man the knowledge that is outside his coordinate system.
However, instead of rejoicing at the knowledge that the feminine gives him (be it an ordinary woman or a great female, which is called the "outer world"), men often react negatively to such information if it is beyond their logic.

So, if a woman says something to a man that seems illogical to him, the latter is inclined to doubt the truthfulness of her words, or even to say that she “went to the roof”. Thus, a man refuses the opportunity to clarify his knowledge, because the only reason why the message from a woman seems irrational to a man is that a woman shows him something that is outside the coordinate system that he is guided by at this time.

Therefore, it seems much more reasonable to try to transfer the information received from a woman (whether she was a real woman or the world around her) to the existing coordinate system, adapting a new point of view to it and thereby clarifying her knowledge. Yes, in fact, this is the inclusion of the unknown in the known and the disclosure of the secret of women through its inclusion in the world and the destiny of men. To make this more clear, I advise you to refer to one of my previous books - "Eagle Scream".

One day, Bill returns home from work and tells his wife Cindy that he is concerned that he has not heard from his friend Peter for a long time. Cindy listens to her husband, but, in passing, stating that Peter is obviously too busy to call Bill every day, immediately begins to tell him in detail how their glorious dog would surely drown in the pool today, if she did not feel, Cindy, something is wrong and did not go in time to find him.
At first glance, it may seem that Cindy is not very worried about the fate of Peter and that her story about the dog has nothing to do with Bill's concern about the fate of Peter. But Bill, who knows his wife well, realizes that she is no less worried about Peter than he is, and feels that the story of the dog has something to do with the prolonged silence of a friend, although now he can not catch any connection. So, thinking about his friend, Peter tries to imagine how things are with the work, and begins to feel something wrong. Realizing that there is no logical reason to worry about Peter's work, Bill recalls that their dog has never been in the pool in all the seven years that she lives with them.

Here Bill is gripped by a real alarm, and he decides not to hesitate to call Peter to find out how things are. Bill is relieved to hear Peter’s voice telling him that he is fine. Then he decides to ask Peter about the business, and he tells Bill that he almost went bankrupt by investing money in a fuzzy enterprise. Yes, if a female accountant working for his firm did not feel that something was wrong here in time, and did not insist on checking the accounts of his new partner, Peter would definitely become bankrupt by investing a large amount in a company that existed only on paper!

Bill was struck by this story: after all, his friend was always so careful with money investments! But now, as well as their dog, fell into the pool, he did not calculate his own strength. If Peter didn’t trust his accountant’s female intuition, he wouldn’t suspect his new partner of cheating until he was completely bankrupt. Bill, too, could dismiss Cindy's story of the dog's misadventures as having nothing to do with their Friend's affairs.

It follows that if each of the men, the heroes of this story, ignored the message coming from a woman, he could not include a woman in his destiny, and could not put on his map that unknown, which he told a woman.

Since the man represents the known, and therefore the order, he must come to the realization that he cannot indulge in chaos and disorder, justified by ignorance, stupidity and helplessness, because on the physical plane he is a microcosm of the spirit. If he does, then he identifies himself with chaos instead of mapping the unknown! In other words, instead of trying to understand his polar opposite, the female unknown, the man identifies himself with it. As a result, he is like a helpless woman or an old sorceress who is floundering over her brood! I think you know who we're talking about. I'm sure you've met men who get lost when it comes to replacing a light bulb, or lovers of washing the bones of their neighbors in the ladies' circle at lunch in the dining room!

All this follows from the above example: after all, if Bill identified himself with the unknown that Cindy brought him, he would either be annoyed, considering the story with the dog completely inappropriate, or, forgetting about his friend, he would talk about the pool and the hidden danger to pets that lurks in it. In both cases, the information reported by Cindy would not have been mapped.

In the first case, if Bill were annoyed, their conversation would most likely end in an argument, and the unknown would drown in chaos, generating new unanswered questions.

In the second case, their conversation would be reduced to empty chatter, and they would be distracted from the topic that worries Bill. Peter's fate was a mystery to them.

The evolution of awareness is arranged so that it is the man who must, first, take on the role of leader, secondly, indicate the direction and, thirdly, determine the means to achieve the goal. These three points are so important that they require careful study.

The role of a leader, which a man should assume, does not at all involve obtaining a license to manage a woman, although many men think so. I mean those men who just tell a woman what she should do, without even thinking about the fact that she can have some of her own thoughts, feelings and views on a particular issue. Such men believe that a woman should unconditionally obey their orders. And of course, she must immediately fall on her back and place her legs every time her master demands it!

For such men, a woman simply cannot represent anything, and this also applies to that great female, which is called peace. Busy only in their own person, such men do not even think about the fact that they simply rape women who meet in their path, and at the same time the world around them. Here is their life credo: "Take everything you see, and if you are not given it in a good way - take it by force!"

To take on the role of leader is to initiate an act. It doesn’t matter what the act is. It can be an act of conversation, an act of silent reverence, an act of support, an act of inspiration, an act of helping those who feel insecure about their abilities, an act of listening, an act of creating a new project, an act of creating a family, or a sexual act. But any leadership necessarily involves the initiation of an act of reasonable cooperation.

To understand this, remember that the task of a man is to know his unknown partner. And they are not only his woman, but also life in manifestation, that is, life on the physical plane. To do this, a man must have the openness that will allow him to interact with both the woman and the world most intelligently and consciously. This means that he should allow women and the world to enter his space, and even better, actively include them in his space. Including a woman in his space, a man should offer her reasonable cooperation. After all, if he does not do this, it will mean that he will fight with a woman and try to subordinate her to himself.

In the example of Bill and Cindy, we see how this happens: Bill included Cindy in his space, telling her about his anxiety about the fate of Peter, and also allowing Cindy to show her feminine and do the only thing she could do - tell about the dog. Cindy, like Bill, knew nothing about what happened to Peter, but her female intuition prompted her to share a story with Bill about the misadventures of their dog. At the same time, Cindy herself could hardly see the connection between this story and Peter’s fate. But a man is a known, and therefore he must bring order to the chaos of the unknown. And now it's Bill's turn to decipher the information Cindy gave him. The same can be said about Peter’s relationship with his female “half”.

Moreover, this example clearly shows us how a woman can know herself through a man. But if a woman is in a subordinate state, suppressed by a man and not allowed into his space, how then can she know herself? The same applies to the great female hypostasis - to life manifested on the physical plane. After all, if a man wants order to be born out of chaos, then his task is to reasonably cooperate with life. As a matter of fact, the responsibility for all the chaos and disorder we can see in the world today lies entirely with men who have refused to cooperate intelligently with life and with women.

But disorder in the world is caused not only by those men who want to subdue women. Those who pretend to be helpless weaklings have no less responsibility, because by their helplessness they introduce an imbalance into the world, and then wonder why everything is collapsing! Understand that where a man plays helplessness, a woman begins to feel defenseless and therefore either begins to "saw" her man, or, out of despair, she decides to play his role. And then the script of the mother and the little boy is played again.

When men refuse to behave like men, they act unjustly not only towards themselves, but also towards their woman and the world around them. Subsequently, if a woman does not become a slave, a mother wakes up in her, ready to always come to the rescue of her child. But at the same time, a woman willy-nilly loses respect for her man.

Bill acted like a real man: he did not exclude Cindy from his world - did not call his friend to find out how things are without first talking to his wife; did not play helplessness, asking Cindy to find out what happened to Peter. Taking on the role of leader, Bill made it clear to Cindy that he was worried about Peter's fate, and then, giving Cindy the opportunity to express himself, he again proved himself as a leader, not allowing their conversation to boil down to a bickering, and not allowing him to shy away from the main topic. Then, given Cindy’s attitude towards Peter, as well as her story about the dog, Bill behaved as befits the leader — he came to a reasonable cooperation with his wife and drew a map of the unknown.

The second point - determining the direction - consists in the ability to keep the main goal in focus and in the ability to point the woman in the right direction. In our case, we see that Bill does all this: he listens to the story of the dog, and does not overlook the main topic - the fate of Peter, not allowing their conversation to boil down to a dispute, and not going over to the discussion that pets should be kept away from dangerous places such as a swimming pool.

We will understand that this is a very important point if we remember what life is in general, since the world, like Cindy, is essentially female. For example, a man wants to sell mugs, but when he talks about it with his potential customers, they begin to ask him if he also sells cups and saucers, and if he knows someone who sells coffee pots, and whether he is going to trade coffee pots, too, and if so, why not include milkshakes in his assortment. From this, they can switch to soup bowls, and then share with the future merchant mugs their delights about microwave ovens. It is clear that if this person does not keep his main goal in focus and begins to look for new things every day to please his customers, then all this can end in the fact that he will not sell anything at all!

And yet, faced with the unknown again and again, a man must be constantly open to the information received from a woman, and, consequently, from the outside world. So, if he is trying to trade mugs, he should listen to the wishes of his customers, then decide what to do with these wishes. He has to listen to all these remarks either because the trade in mugs cannot be a profitable business and then he will have to include other goods in his assortment, or because the choice of mugs he has a small *- and then he needs to ensure that all the mugs of samples are displayed in his store.

Of course, in any case, a man must decide what direction in business he should choose to increase the turnover of his store. At the same time, he initiates a reasonable cooperation with his clients, listening to their comments and wishes. Having a clear idea of the market, a man will make a decision about what his business will be. Having done this, he will indicate the direction - because his customers will understand what goods they can find in his store, and which ones they can not.

Although this example clearly demonstrates how a man should point the direction, it is not always easy to do this in reality.

For example, Gus, Brad's son, has difficulty choosing a subject in which he will specialize in high school. Two paths open before Brad: first, he can simply order his son to choose the subject that he believes will be most useful in his life; secondly, to try to come to a reasonable cooperation with his son and decide what he would like to achieve in his life.

In the first case, Brad will simply control his son, but in the second case, there may be a serious problem if Gus is too immature to make such serious decisions about his future career.

If Brad is a real man, he will not want to control Gus, but at the same time he needs to take on the role of leader and point the direction to his son. How do you do that? Had Gus been more determined and mature, Brad would have had an easier time giving him direction.

But it is in this case that Brad has only one opportunity: to begin to draw a map of the unknown. This can be done in several ways, but for the sake of simplicity, we will focus on only one thing.

Leaving aside his own views and ambitions, Brad begins to judge his son impartially. He clearly sees that Gus is a quiet, shy and a little withdrawn boy who has no hope of growing out of his introversion. Therefore, a career that involves constant rivalry is unlikely to suit Gus. On the other hand, Gus is perfectly given mathematics and English, he loves animals and nature. Therefore, mathematics and English are quite suitable for Ga-su, and given his love for wildlife, you can think about biology.

Thus, Gus can specialize in both basic subjects and biology. But after carefully studying the school curriculum, Brad sees that if now Gus will study basic subjects, then later he will be able to specialize in biology, physics or chemistry, while specializing in biology, he will not be able to move on to a detailed study of physics or chemistry in high school.

So, seeing Gus’s indecision, Brad suggests that he start with a general science so that the choices in high school are more extensive. At the same time, the choice between English literature, French, Latin and carpentry craft for Gus remains open.

Brad realizes that if Gus decides to pursue a career as a scientist, geography, like Latin, can be useful to him. If his son decides to pursue an academic career and devote himself to teaching, he will need history and Latin first. Brad decides to discuss this issue with Claire, and she expresses the idea that their son is unlikely to be able to get rid of his painful shyness if he devotes himself exclusively to an academic career and burrows into books.

Here Brad recalls that the geographical course in the middle classes of the school consists not only of theoretical classes, but also includes field practice. It is practical exercises that will serve Gus as a lesson in communicating with the team. And if Gus later wants to study history in depth, there's nothing to stop him from doing it.

Moreover, high school students can always switch from carpentry to learning additional languages. Mindful of Claire's remark, Brad decides to advise his son to take up woodwork, as this craft requires constant communication with other people and can help get rid of shyness.

Since Brad discussed every step with his son, he had no trouble convincing Gus that the selected items would suit him better than anyone else. Gus sees that, having stopped now on these subjects, he will not close for himself a wide choice in the future and will be able to appreciate the wisdom of his father, who pointed him in the direction.

I've taken this case apart in detail to demonstrate what it means to point the way. At the same time, we must not forget that to indicate the direction in any case does not mean to encroach on someone’s freedom. A real man will never limit someone’s freedom, preferring reasonable cooperation.

If Gus did not agree with the choice of his father, for the sake of his son, he would always be able to call on all his authority and prove his wisdom by insisting on this decision. But this “authoritarianism” used for the good of man should not be confused with the imposition of one’s will.

The third point that we should work out is that a man must determine the means to achieve the goal. Much of this point stems from the previous two, since it is also based on an act of reasonable cooperation.

The general rule is: first, a man will always assume the role of leader, initiating the act of reasonable cooperation; second, he indicates the right direction. All this is done in order to be able to determine the means to achieve the goal. To better understand this, let’s take Brad and his son again.
As the main man in the family, Brad is responsible for his son’s education and would certainly be interested in choosing school subjects, even if his son did not seek his advice.

That is why, if Gus had not come to Brad himself, he would have to take the lead, initiating an act of reasonable cooperation in clarifying why Gus did not want to consult with him. Perhaps Gus is mature enough to make such decisions on his own? But even in this case, Brad would have to point out to his son that everything in life is interconnected, and, consequently, everything is in interaction and is interdependent. This idea Brad could bring to his son, explaining to him that since parents pay for the education of their son, they have a legitimate interest in his future and his career.

Not to consult with parents in this matter means not only to show disrespect to them and show distrust, but also to directly insult them with their arrogance and selfishness. If Brad allows his son to behave in this way, it will mean that he is unable to cope with his father's duties.

In this case, the lesson of respect for the world around us and the interdependence of everything in life is the direction chosen by Brad. While the way to achieve the goal is to tactfully but firmly show that he is not going to tolerate from his son such disrespectful attitude. Thus, having taught one single lesson to his son, Brad will help him to better understand the need for reasonable cooperation, which means that he will help Gus to grow into a real man.

But here we portrayed Gus as a very indecisive boy who turned to his father for help when it was time to make a decision. However, Brad does not dictate to his son what to do, does not impose, his will. If he did so, he would not have been able to teach his son the truth that a man cannot afford to be helpless. Offering Gus reasonable cooperation, Brad turned to his wife for advice, showing his son how a man should include a woman in his world. Thus, the whole process turns from a simple choice of basic school subjects to a lesson in overcoming the feeling of helplessness by the simplest and most reliable means.

From these two scenarios, it follows that the funds depend on the specific circumstances. In both cases, the problem of choosing school subjects was on the surface, but in each of these scenarios, different circumstances arose. However, both in the first and in the second case, we see that a real man should not impose his will on others, but at the same time he always remains firm and unwavering in his knowledge, feeling responsible for his loved ones.

A man can never afford to be helpless, doubting, and weak. If he allows himself to do this, he either becomes an eternally whining nothingness, believing that the whole world is united against him, or becomes a powerful brute, trying, out of the usual fear of rivalry, to humiliate and suppress anyone who stands in his way.

In both cases, he will fail as a man — even if he manages to manipulate people, causing them a feeling of self-pity, or intimidate them and subordinate their will.
In the first case, bowing and spreading before everyone, like a beggar, he will not notice anything around, in the second case, suppressing and intimidating people, he will not even see that no one wants to cooperate with him.

A real man enjoys universal love and respect and therefore becomes a leader. People feel inspiration and a surge of strength as they follow it. Such a man includes a woman in his life in a completely natural way.
Having analyzed this myth, we laid the foundation for the analysis of the remaining eight and therefore we will be able not only to deal with these myths faster, but also to understand how they are interconnected.

It will be much easier for you to understand the meaning of these myths if at the end of each chapter you make a list of your own mistakes and weaknesses that you can recognize thanks to the information received and the principles learned. By following this advice, you will quickly determine the causes of your errors and be able to eliminate them, change your behavior. Remember that true strength lies in understanding yourself.

Chapter seven. Myth two: men are aggressive

If we look at this myth in the light of what has been passed, we can easily see that its deeper meaning is that men must be ready for a fight. This certainly doesn’t mean that every man should get involved in any landfill on the sidewalk or in a bar. No, a man should set an example of how to follow the Path of Freedom.

Let us first understand what it means to “follow the path of freedom.”

There are many interpretations of the concept of "freedom", and therefore there are countless definitions of the meaning of the word. In this book, we intend to confine ourselves to just one definition:

“Freedom is the ability of a man to act flawlessly, fearlessly relying on his own knowledge.”

Is it necessary to think for a long time to understand that the deep meaning of this definition is obvious and broad.

The most important conclusion from this is that not every man is able to act. This ability is the same as any other: either it is or it is not. If we have the ability to act, it is good, but if we do not have it, we must develop it. And while this statement may seem too obvious, try to understand it: few people are able to act in the true sense of the word. Most people simply automatically react or lose their usual behavioral response over and over again.
For example, I punch you in the nose. If you are aggressive, you respond with a blow, but if you are timid, you will feel hurt and accuse me of "aggressiveness".

But in both cases, you don’t act — you react according to your behavioral stereotypes.

And if I can also only react, not act, I will react to your reaction. So if you hit me back with a punch, it's likely to end in a real fight.
If, feeling offended, you respond to deeds with words, I will most likely keep hitting you until you fall silent or run away!

A real man will never react, because at the moment of response we lose self-control. So, if I hit Jim, he, like anyone else in his place, will get terribly angry, but being a real man, Jim uses his anger to fight according to the circumstances. No one gave me the right to slap people for nothing, and Jim, as a real man, should take note of this - no matter how much I lost control of myself. So, instead of reacting and getting into a fight, Jim will try to “make me feel” — to make me regain the ability to control myself.

If I can still be influenced by words, Jim will try to explain to me all the absurdity of my behavior and shame me so that I will become the embodiment of peace and humility. If Jim sees that I have lost control so much that it makes no sense to appeal to my mind, he will hit me — when I least expect it — so that if I do not want him to fold my neck, I will have to listen to everything he will tell me after that.

While I listen, Jim will do his best to get his words to me. This will teach me the truth that a real man should not react to a blow by getting into a fight - he must do everything necessary for his opponent to gain control over himself.

I always like to give this example, because here you can see the difference between reaction and action, and also because there is a whole "can of worms" - usually an example causes a whole storm of great reactions. I immediately hear: "What if the bully is much healthier than me?", or "What if it's an armed bandit who pointed his gun at me?", or "What if I do if a woman put her bag on my face?".

What if it is, what if it is?

I just laugh and say that such men react like helpless little boys, not only when they are punched in the nose, but when they hear my story about it! No, a real man will never behave helplessly - he will never descend to an automatic response - no matter what!
And so if I have to deal with a person who has lost control, a person who is twice as big as me, I will think through my actions and do everything in such a way that he simply will not be able to hit me back.

How am I gonna do that? It all depends on the specific circumstances and what I will have at this moment at hand. If a man is really mad, and I am not armed with anything but a couple of fists, I will have to rely only on my brains and sharp tongue to buy time and try to bring him to his senses.
If I find myself in the crosshairs of a bandit's gun, I'm going to stay alive as long as possible and try to win this fight now or defeat the bandit later.
If a woman tries to hit me with a handbag, then I certainly have enough strength to repel her blows and tame her ardor. But the moral here is as follows: in any situation, a real man will be able to act flawlessly and fight wisely, if he does not fall down to a simple reaction.

And yet understand: a man is able to do this only if he withdraws from fear. All of us are subject to fear and cannot be completely free from it, but we can still distance ourselves from fear if we manage not to become attached to it.
To withdraw from fear is not to give in to fear. Whenever we succumb to it, fear weakens us — in doing so, we lose control and begin to respond impulsively to any demand we make.

But if we are entirely unattached to fear, we remain able to turn any circumstance to our advantage. In this way, we always gain an advantage over our opponent.
Hence, we either succumb to fear and begin to react" or we withdraw from fear and use it to act flawlessly!

It doesn’t matter what the fear is. For example, if I’m afraid of being a fool, when someone wants to make a fool of me, there are two possibilities before me. I can either give in to fear and take a defensive stance, or I can step away from it and use my fortune to act flawlessly. Defending myself, I will only annoy my opponent, and he will be able to prove my stupidity with great success. If I act flawlessly, I will soon find the weak side of my opponent - and he will remain in fools!

Similarly, if I am afraid of physical pain and someone wants to hit me, I can react and behave like a coward, avoiding the enemy. But, having withdrawn from fear, you can behave flawlessly and defend your dignity. By turning my back on fear and using it to my advantage, I will be able to see in time the enemy’s intention to strike me and dodge it. And in this state of "high alert" it will be easier for me to notice the enemy's vulnerabilities, and soon I will cope with it either in physical or in verbal battle.

All of the examples we’ve looked at show how much difference there is between a simple response and a real fight. Only a fool can react, forgetting about everything in the world, swearing and swinging his fists, not seeing the goal. But it takes a real inner battle to act thoughtfully and flawlessly — every single blow you take reaches your goal. Any man who has mastered the art of inner battle is a truly free being. When he is removed from fear and reaction, he is free to act according to his inner knowledge and is the sole judge of his own integrity. This is true freedom, and a real man can always serve as an example of how to follow the Path of Freedom.

All of this leads us to the next idea we should focus on, namely, the idea of knowledge. Do not forget that knowledge is a power that we have gained through personal experience.

That is why, when we declare that a man is fighting for freedom, allowing him to act on his own knowledge, the question immediately arises: “What exactly do we mean by this?”

This is how it can be formulated in a very short way: knowledge, or power, implies the need to be aware of the true values in life. Power does not mean power over others — power that enables people to be manipulated, killed, or harmed. Strength means that the knowledge you possess makes you invulnerable. Strength means that your knowledge is such that others will not be able to manipulate you or harm you. But such knowledge can be a real force only if it is based on true values, because if you value not what is true, there can be no invulnerability!

And yet, what do we mean by “true values”? We can complicate or simplify this concept at will. From my point of view, it is simplicity itself.
True values always support life because they lead to freedom and growth.

False values are directed against life because they lead to slavery and withering away.

Here's an example: a man who wants to please everyone, I call "Simple". But such a Handsome will support everyone and everything, will support even what his worst enemy will say about him, because he does not want to “raise the waves”! This position of Mr. Simpatyaka allows his enemy to do anything - no matter how destructive his actions may be.

That is why, despite the fact that Mr. Simpatyaka considers his values to be true, because he does not interfere in the affairs of others and does not encroach on anyone’s freedom of will, in fact, Simpatyaka’s “true values” lead to chaos and disorder, crime and violence, and, consequently, to anarchy.

The little girl is so afraid of encroaching on someone’s freedom that she will not do anything, even if his own son becomes a drug addict or a bandit! But how can he claim that his values are true?

The truth of values does not depend on the moral considerations inherent in them. The truth depends only on the fruits they produce. This is clearly seen in the example I have given. Although Mr. Simpatyaka speaks beautiful words about freedom, his actions — or rather, their absence — he encourages everything, but not freedom. Freedom doesn’t mean that Tom, Dick and Harry can do anything to terrorize their neighbors. From my point of view, Mr. Simpatyaka’s position does not contribute to the maintenance of life.

A real man will uphold only those values which, as he knows from his personal experience, lead to freedom. To the freedom that not only he needs, but everyone around him.
In other words, the values that are true are those that contribute to creating an environment where everyone can feel safe and at peace, where nothing threatens its development.
But here, as always, the sacramental question arises: “Who gave us the right to decide what is good for others?”

The answer is simple: “None of us has the right to impose our will on others!”

Now realize that this applies to both sides.
Although I cannot impose my will on you, neither can you impose your will on me! But if I want to create an environment that supports life, and you are an environment that destroys life, well, we will do our own thing, but stay away from me and from the people for whom I am responsible! If you do not obey me, you will have to meet my sword. It's all painfully simple! I will always fight for freedom, acting according to my knowledge, and if you invade my space, you will have to reevaluate your values.

My values are tested and tried. I have proven that they really support life, and therefore I simply cannot allow to be accused of illegal actions. Many have tried... I’m sure many will try again. But the truth is hard to fight!

From this follows another conclusion: a real man, guided in life by true values, should show everyone an example of how to get rid of social conditioning. And although this is an important point, I don’t think we should dwell on it for long, because it speaks for itself.

Can we be truly free if we are forced to constantly bow to the dictates of society?

Can we act on knowledge if we are able to respond according to social conventions?

How can we develop true values for ourselves if we have never thought about what is true and what is not?

And finally, and most importantly, how can we express our strength, the strength of the male, if our idea of what a man should be is conditioned by public opinion?

A real man is a man who knows how to fight a long and difficult battle, who knows how to distance himself from his fear so much that he is able to break out of the circle of social conditioning. But to remain outside this circle is not an easy task, because it is again and again put to the test not only the ability to act, but also the ability to maintain faith in yourself. And every time he has to overestimate his values, his position, his knowledge, and most importantly - faith in himself. He cannot afford to be arrogant and complacent, as he will immediately become vulnerable to a new attack.

Only by remaining proud and unshakable in his rightness, maintaining faith in the truth of his knowledge, maintaining openness and readiness to include in his coordinate system everything unknown, a man is able to wage an endless battle with social conditioning.
However, firmly relying on one’s knowledge does not mean being complacent and arrogant, since a man wants to challenge himself first, and then everyone else.

Remember the order: first to yourself, and then to others.
Realize that if you cannot truly believe your knowledge and your judgments, you will not be able to rely on knowledge reliably. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe you, especially women? And if you are not able to firmly rely on knowledge, what kind of protection can you offer others and how can you lead a woman?

It is only by constantly challenging ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally that we can win the faith of others and gain knowledge. By testing our actions, evaluating our feelings and weighing our thoughts, we learn to refine our knowledge and begin to see its true value. Only by learning the true value of knowledge, we have the right to challenge others to become honest with themselves, and therefore go to freedom.

Chapter Eight. Myth Three: men should be educated

The deep meaning of this myth is that men should have knowledge. The meaning of knowledge we have just discussed is that true knowledge, unlike simple information, has true power. But speaking of power, it should be noted that there are two kinds of power. The first is knowledge gained in past lives. Usually we perceive it as ability, talent or even genius. The second type is the evolution of knowledge gained in this life. The combined strength of both species is our potential.

Thus, when we speak of education, we must remember that it must consist not only in the evolution of new knowledge, but also in the materialization of knowledge accumulated in past lives. Therefore, although talent is knowledge acquired in previous lives, it must be nurtured and developed in order to use it fully.

When we speak of our power or our knowledge, we must always remember that we can consciously use only the knowledge that we have acquired in this life. Knowledge gained in past lives can manifest itself in the form of talent, but until a certain time talent can remain hidden. In other words, an undeveloped talent can guide a person by telling him what he should do and how. But if this person can not fully trust himself and act in accordance with the feeling, nothing good talent will not give him.

So we again come to the conclusion that knowledge gained through experience is a true power: knowledge is something that can be used at any moment, and all that can be used is power.

For example, if you have money in the bank, you have financial strength.

If you have political knowledge, then you have political power, because you can always use this knowledge.

But our undeveloped abilities or talents are also a force, but a force yet unknown. Therefore, whether we are in life, knowing that we can easily develop our talents, or realizing that for their development we will need a lot of sweat, in any case we have the power.
We’ve already talked about how to act on our feelings.
What are these feelings?

First, we need to understand that feelings and emotions are different things. There are only four pure emotions: joy, anger, fear, and melancholy. The feelings themselves are divided into two types. The first type we talked about earlier is the expression of hidden abilities. Feelings of this type help a person understand what he should do — and even how to do it.

Feelings of the second type help us to learn from the world around us. Both types are expressions of irrational knowledge, because it is impossible to find a logical explanation for how we acquired this knowledge. I call it "listening to the heart" or "following the sixth sense."

We have all been taught to trust the mind, but none of us have been taught to listen to the heart. To listen to the heart is to listen to the sixth sense, and therefore to act according to the senses. A rational mind is nothing more than a personal built-in computer and, like any computer, is only as good as the information stored in it. But the information stored in the computer (in the rational mind) forms our worldview, which mainly consists of prejudices and established beliefs that determine our attitude to literally everything in this life, including the idea of what a real man is.

Because people are socially conditioned to prefer the mind to the heart, they tend to rationalize and justify their actions. Instead of listening to the voice of the heart, they scroll through an endless and meaningless inner dialogue in their mind.

No matter how paradoxical it may seem at first glance, listening to your heart means thinking for real.
The great minds of this world do not like to admit it, but the secret of their genius lies in the ability to follow their feelings. Everything great, whether it be an invention, a scientific discovery, a piece of music or a painting, is based primarily on feeling. Only when a mental vision is created on the basis of the feeling of an inventor, scientist, composer or artist does the rational mind enter the stage of materialization of that vision.

When you decide to learn to listen to your heart, it is very important to consider your life as a whole, with both significance and purpose. Otherwise, your life will always seem to you a mix of victories and defeats, successes and failures - a mixture in which it is impossible to grasp the meaning, that is, to determine your destiny, not to mention the direction of fate. Therefore, you need to carefully analyze your whole life. You need to be open enough and defenseless enough to find the connecting threads in your life. This will help you not only to understand what is happening, but also to find your purpose. In addition to these threads, the course of your life also determines the conditions of the world around us. You need to be able to determine these connections and conditions so as not to lose sight of your destiny.

And although each of us has feelings, most men do not pay attention to their feelings. It comes not from the unwillingness to listen to feelings, but from the fear of trusting them. Consider a simple example that will help you understand what it means.

Let’s say you send documents to move on to another job. But the catch is that while you have a good idea of the job, you don’t know what it means to do it yet. You wouldn’t think about moving to a new job if you didn’t feel like it was going to suit you. So you have to trust the feeling, otherwise you just never get the job.

If you trust your feelings, and they suggest that you will not just fit this work - this work is directly created for you - you have every chance to do what you have always dreamed of. But if you feel from the beginning that the work may not be what you want, if you are afraid of being disappointed in it, then most likely you will soon understand that it is - it is not for you.

But what most often causes problems in such cases is that most people have never tried to distinguish between logical judgments and feelings. As a result, the rational mind is always trying to interfere with the decision-making process initiated by the senses.

For example, you feel that the work is right for you, but then the rational mind inserts its “strong” objections: “Everything is fine, but only the salary is low, and I do not see an opportunity to make a good career here...”

In other words, your mind interferes by asking you the question: "Is this work really good?" If you really feel that the work is right for you, and believe your feelings to the end, most likely, at work you will expect a rapid increase in wages and you will somehow be able to make a quick career.

But when talking about feelings, we should not forget that there are not only positive feelings. Usually, people don’t like negative feelings and try to get rid of them. However, there is nothing wrong with bad feelings — it is only through bad feelings that we sometimes manage to avoid trouble. That is why, listening to your own heart, you should not ignore bad feelings. Life does not consist entirely of benevolent experiences. There is room in it for bad events, and in order for our experience to be free of gaps, we must experience everything, including bad events, which are inevitably accompanied by bad feelings.
When you decide to listen to your heart in practice, do not forget about the following two things.

First, somewhere deep down in each of us there is a feeling that can tell us what is right and wrong, what makes sense and what makes no sense, we only need to learn to pay attention to this feeling.

Second, the world around us tells us enough to learn how to overcome any life problems. But in order to learn to use these clues, we need to have honesty, without which genuine openness is impossible. If we keep these two things in mind, we will never have to seek either an apology or a rational explanation for our actions — for we will think clearly and act with complete flawlessness.

The last thing to consider when listening to the heart is the ability of a man to achieve the power that emptiness gives. We have already come to the conclusion that listening to the heart means thinking for real and that all aspects of creativity arise from genuine feeling.

All this brings us to a subject that I simply cannot cover in this book, given its modest volume. But a serious reader who wants to learn more about this concept can find its analysis in my other books. So, let’s limit ourselves to the fact that thinking is creativity, and the source of all creativity is emptiness. But nothing is nothing, and we cannot make our way to its power in a rational way. The only way to break through to emptiness and draw from it a creative force is to use feelings.

It is impossible to formulate this idea better than the great sculptor Michelangelo did. Describing his friend’s creative process, he said: “I don’t decide what should be sculpted from a new piece of marble. No, I am allowing my senses to explore a piece of stone until something in me begins to resonate with that vibration that is trying to express itself through the stone, using me as an instrument of its expression.

For Michelangelo, this “something” is contained in himself; it is emptiness. And the “vibration that tries to express itself” is the creative power of emptiness. “Resonating” with vibration means being aware of the form that can be physically embodied through the use of force contained in the void.

Accordingly, the key to the power of emptiness lies in our ability to listen to the heart and trust our feelings. Therefore, a man whose heart is closed, a man who is not able to use his feelings, is sterile, and in relation to his purpose - impotent. And although usually such men have exceptionally high sexuality, their increased sexual desire is generated by a sense of their own insolvency and inability to create. Trapped in their own sterile rational judgments, the only thing such men can do is children!

But agree that no man can be satisfied with the idea that he is just a sperm donor used to reproduce!

In the final analysis, it becomes clear that the meaning of reproduction is contained in the word "reproduction". Reproduction is not creativity! To be a real man means to be able to use all your creative powers, and this is possible only when a man with the help of feelings breaks through to the power enclosed in emptiness.

When we say that a man must have knowledge, we mean that to achieve the power of emptiness he must learn to use irrational knowledge. Although it is impossible to dispute the claim that all knowledge is power, only irrational knowledge can be used in creativity. Why not? Because, using irrational knowledge, we have included it in the known, and since it is possible to create something real only once, any repetition will be only a reproduction!

Chapter Nine. Myth Four: men must think

This myth is largely a continuation of the previous one.

This myth is about genuine thinking, thinking that is the opposite of rationalism.

The meaning of the word “thinking” is used here in a broader sense, since we are talking about its purpose, namely that a man should have a strategy. But before we discuss this topic, let’s remember what fate is and what predestination is*(In the original, respectively: Fate and Destiny.).

Since many people do not believe in life after death or reincarnation, they agreed that fate and predestination are one and the same. But these are different things, although quite closely related to each other. Predestination refers to the continuous evolution of awareness and therefore includes all the countless lives spent on the material plane.

Thus, predestination is not just the force that determines the time, circumstances and quality of each of the incarnations, but it is also the force that leads us through each incarnation.

Destiny is only a small part of your predestination, which needs to be worked out and completed in each of the incarnations.

In other words, fate is the goal of a certain life.
Thus, it becomes clear that, failing to achieve the goal, we do not cope with our life task, which means that we did not meet our destiny and, therefore, could not take a step on the path of predestination.

However, it is not all so dark: in fact, we can not fail to fulfill our destiny. If this were possible, most people would waste time doing meaningless things over an endless series of reincarnations and the evolution of awareness would be very slow, if at all. Each of us is in this life in order to fulfill a certain goal - to realize fate. By all truths and falsehoods, by reasonable cooperation or by unreasonable steps, we still arrive at the goal — who with more, who with less success.

This is very similar to schooling: to move to the next class, the child must pass exams every year. In our journey through life, each incarnation is like an exam. And if we find ourselves capable of intelligent cooperation with the forces of predestination that permeate the fate of each of our lives, we manage to “take the exam for excellent”. But if we resist these forces, we remind negligent students who are forced to learn and who read the material only in order to be able to take the next exam with grief in half.

To better understand this, let’s turn to another analogy.

Suppose you are destined to go to Rome in this lifetime. But the way you go there is up to you: you can fly to Rome by plane, go by train or by car - in general, get to Rome, as you wish. You can even go not directly to Rome, but travel from country to country, from city to city. But no matter how you do it, the forces of predestination will act in such a way that you will invariably approach Rome.

If you wish, you can make your journey as rich and interesting as possible. But if you prove truly stubborn and, despite everything, try to keep as far from Rome as possible, the forces of predestination will eventually arrange matters so that, willing or unwilling, you end up in Rome—for example, in an ambulance with broken limbs after a car crash somewhere on Rome’s ring road.

Therefore, despite all the disputes surrounding this idea, all our so-called “free will” comes down to the fact that we decide what ways to fulfill our destiny. In other words, we are destined to decide whether to turn a trip to Rome into a delightful adventure or make everything so that we are driven to Rome with kicks in the ass. We either fly there guided by the instructions received from life (and then our destiny is accomplished smoothly), or, if we ignore all the advice and instructions, we are dragged there with force.

Returning to the idea of strategy, to our surprise, we find that strategy does not imply the presence of a plan. Since no one can escape fate, planning for the future - wasting time - is like practicing again in stupidity. None of us knows what the future holds, so what’s the point of making plans that can or may not come true?

But try to realize that this does not mean that life is stupid. All the stupidity in life is our biased and chaotic ideas about what life should be!

If we’re going to avoid doing stupid things with plans that may not be useful, the only thing worth doing is developing a strategy that will allow us to determine, first, what fate holds for us and, second, how to execute it. But how do we do that?

Remembering what we learned in the previous chapter — to listen to your heart — to determine your goal in this life is not difficult. If we sincerely want help, we will soon see that we are simply surrounded by it. All we are required to do is listen, not allowing our vision of the world and preconceived notions to get in the way. But this is the main problem, because our vision of the world is the result of social conditioning, and, therefore, it is one of the main factors that do not allow us to recognize fate.

For example, try to remember how often you wanted to become someone, based on the prevailing in society idea of a lucky person, or think about how many times you tried to arrange your life in accordance with someone else’s dream?

However, if you make an effort and listen to your heart ... Even if your parents convinced you to choose the profession of a doctor or lawyer or someone else, and even if your rational mind convinces you of the correctness of this choice, only by trusting your heart, you will feel whether this career is right for you. If the work is right for you, it will bring you complete satisfaction. If you follow this path only because your parents wanted you to, and fate has assigned you something completely different, you will inevitably be disappointed.

If you feel a void in your lifestyle, then your heart tells you that it’s time to change your attitude towards life, your spouse, friends, and most importantly, yourself. In other words, your heart prompts you to reconsider your entire life experience and reassess your ideas about what constitutes happiness and the fullness of life.

Try to decide who your parents are. Review all the values you have learned from them, from your siblings, from relatives, from friends, and from teachers. Look at the education you received. Think of everyone you have had a meaningful relationship with, not excluding your so-called enemies. Take a look at your career, your talents and abilities. Look at all the things in your life, and then ask yourself, “What have I learned from this? What did all this training teach me?”
All that life teaches us is essentially to make us discern our purpose.

There are no coincidences or coincidences here. Everything has its meaning. Everything should be useful sooner or later. All we have to do is be open and open in order to see the direction of our destiny.

Once we realize that there is a purpose to our lives, we can easily determine how to fulfill our destiny. But here we are all in the same position. Even without knowing what your fate is, trust your feelings and you will find it soon. And it is not difficult to trust feelings at all, provided that we want to trust them and translate our desires into appropriate actions. It is as natural to breathe as it is to feel. We are hampered by only one thing: the desire to throw away our feelings in favor of rational judgments.
But it is up to you whether you can turn that momentum the other way. As soon as a man determines his goal in life and begins to follow his destiny, the role he plays in the life of all who are associated with him automatically becomes weighty and meaningful. This is a very important point, which should not be forgotten in any case, since it concerns both men and women related to the life of such a person.

First of all, it should be remembered that since a man personifies the spirit, any female fate must be connected with the fate of the only man in her life. For most women, this is the man who becomes the husband. But for those women whose fate for some reason implies celibacy in this life, a man whose fate will play a decisive role in the fulfillment of her own destiny will not become her husband, but simply her man. In any case, it should be realized that since a woman personifies the tonal, her fate can be fulfilled only due to the influence of a man - directly or indirectly.
The meaning of all this can be reduced to the following: if you do not fulfill your destiny flawlessly, you not only delay yourself, but also do not allow the woman of your life to move forward - a woman whose fate is connected with yours.

If you do not want to fulfill your destiny by choosing false goals for yourself, then you risk attracting a woman into your life who will cultivate these false goals. In doing so, try to realize that neither you nor your woman will be able to cultivate a false goal all her life, and therefore sooner or later something will break in your marriage and your happy life together will come to an end. Therefore, before you look for the perfect companion of life, you must make sure that the purpose you have chosen in this life is true. Only in this way can you attract a woman who can support your goal for real.

And yet, sometimes a woman can feel what the true purpose of a man is before he himself realizes it to the end. This is especially true when a man is very young. But even in this case, although the man found a suitable wife for himself - or rather, although both of them found each other - their marriage is at constant risk of falling apart if the man does not begin to fulfill his destiny. This is true, because every woman in her heart knows that she will be able to follow her destiny, only contributing to the realization of the destiny of man. A woman will be burdened with a relationship with a man who does not want to fulfill his goal, and she will strive to break up with him. It may also happen that a woman, in an effort to preserve the marriage, will try to take on the role of a man in a subconscious attempt to fulfill his fate. But such an exchange of roles usually ends with the playback of a typical “mommy and little boy” scenario, where a woman always expresses dissatisfaction about everything in the world, not excluding her own husband!

Here is another thing to think about: a man is not an island, and, therefore, the fate of every man is connected with the fate of several more men. It can be his sons, brothers, relatives, friends and colleagues. This does not mean that such men do not have their own destiny, just that their fate is somehow connected with the fate of a certain person.

For example, if you have a son, you will not be able to fully fulfill your father’s duties without fulfilling your destiny. To understand this, imagine that your son chose you as his father to learn how to fulfill his destiny on the example of your destiny. If you do not fulfill your destiny, you will not be able to teach your son anything, thus not coping with your father's duties, although you can consider yourself a "wonderful" father.

Or here’s another example: If you’re a company director but can’t make your goal come true, all of your male subordinates will suffer because of you!

In light of all of the above, it becomes clear what the instruction addressed to each boy should mean: “Think, my boy! Think!" In other words, think about what it means to be a real man. Think about your purpose. But do not forget that to think means to listen to your heart, so that you will be able to break through to the void and draw strength from it, which ultimately means being a truly creative person in the fulfillment of your goal and destiny.

Chapter ten. Myth five: men smoke and drink

Of course, these words can not be understood literally, because they can be interpreted however you want, deciding that men are given the right to commit any outrage. The true meaning of this myth is that men should enjoy life as much as possible. But here again the question arises: "What does it mean to enjoy?"

Enjoying life does not mean living the life of a loafer and a sybarite. On the contrary, a man should show by his example that life is not a sin, that life is an invaluable opportunity to learn and develop his awareness through experience. Of course, to be able to take advantage of this opportunity, self-discipline is necessary - after all, each of us knows how disgusting a dirty bar full of drunk men is!

Therefore, the ability to fully enjoy life involves self-discipline - because if we want our potential to manifest on the physical plane in its entirety, we should not go the way of failure. We simply will not be able to realize our full potential if there are gaps in our knowledge due to the fact that we refuse to experience. But first you need to understand the difference between refusal, and abstaining, because, without understanding this, it is easy to assume that a man has been issued a license for flawlessness. Let’s take this concept to the end — not understanding it fully, we live in sin, and this sin is that we do not realize our full potential and, therefore, do not fulfill our destiny.

If we look back on all that we have gone through, it will not be difficult for us to understand that living a full life and realizing our full potential does not mean that we should indulge ourselves by doing things that are not aimed at maintaining life.
For example, what excuse can I find for stealing? If I’m in dire need of food, money, or anything else, I definitely need to find a way to support myself and my family. But stealing food or money from another person means depriving that person of the supplies he needs to live.
Or how can you justify killing someone else? Even if I cannot imagine what murder means, I still cannot justify my actions if I face the fact that I need to take a person's life, and therefore deprive him of the opportunity to enrich himself with knowledge. How can I impose my will on another person by saying that I have to learn in practice what it means to kill someone and that that person has to know what it means to be killed?

People like to make everything extremely difficult only in order to somehow justify their own actions. But none of us are allowed to transgress the laws of common sense. Therefore, if you have to put your hand into the fire to prove to everyone that you can not refuse such an experience, well, the way is with a tablecloth! But it seems to me a much more reasonable approach is to bring your hand close to the fire so that you feel its heat, experience pain, but not cripple your hand in the process of training. Thus, not only do you not give up on experience, but you also exercise enough self-discipline to exercise abstinence. If you insist that you have to kill a person, and you have the courage to do so, then try! But the moment you look into the eyes of your victim, you will know what murder is, and you will no longer need to kill.

To live a full life without admitting anything of refusal does not mean that one should justify bad deeds. However, in order to manifest our full potential on the physical plane, we must experience all that life offers us, while remaining free from Attachment. In other words, if you like to drink, there is nothing wrong with skipping a couple of drinks a day. But getting drunk is a different matter. We all know when we should stop, and yet if we continue to drink, when not to drink, what self-discipline can we talk about? But if you don’t give up on the experience that alcohol provides, and learn to drink without losing that self-discipline, you’ll be able to know a lot about your behavior and the effects of alcohol. Allowing yourself to get drunk, you will not learn anything, and experience will not be an experience, leaving a gap in your knowledge.

The same applies to smoking and the rest of the so-called "pork", or "sin". If you like to smoke, smoke on health... of course, until your health or the health of others begins to suffer from it! The fact is that although we are allowed to live our pleasure on the physical plane, we should not become slaves to matter. After all, the physical plane itself is not so important, some kind of knowledge that we can acquire while staying here.

This subtle distinction can easily be overlooked, as it requires skill as well as a fair amount of self-discipline. We must acquire experience on the physical plane, and therefore to abandon it is as stupid as to indulge ourselves in bad habits. We try to learn. We should not leave school or tie it to the head. Therefore, understand that to refuse is to punish yourself, and to indulge all your weaknesses is not to show respect to yourself.

However, rejection and connivance are two sides of the same coin, whereas discipline means respect for yourself. When you look around today, you can see a sad and frightening picture - many people indulge in all sorts of their own weaknesses. People indulge in smoking, taking alcohol, drugs, and even food. There are also those who indulge in fanatical attitude to their own health, in diets and excessive physical exercise. There are also those who indulge themselves in abnormal sexual orientation or unjustified celibacy. There are also those who indulge in excessive work and become workaholics, being the exact opposite of those who indulge in laziness, becoming overworked from the usual daily norm of labor. This list can be continued and continued - after all, people who refuse to learn from their own experience and thus move forward, do not count.

But the saddest form of indulgence is practiced by those who indulge themselves in a sense of worthlessness and therefore deny themselves learning, development, success, freedom, and happiness. Why is this happening? Yes, because these people at some stage of knowledge did or experienced something that confirmed them in the thought of their own insignificance. In short, we return to the concept of sin. By “sining” in some way, these people still punish themselves for the knowledge they have gained, not realizing in most cases what they are doing to themselves.

How can acquired knowledge be a sin? But even here, we can see the powerful influence of social conditioning. If a person crosses the line of conventions accepted in society, he immediately begins to catch on himself oblique views and listen to accusations in his address in his "worthlessness", "inaudibility", "wrong", in a word, in "sinfulness".

If we don’t want to allow gaps in our knowledge, how can we declare a person “worthless” for his actions? We can consider a person’s experience as bad or bad, we can even declare this experience as a “forbidden fruit”. But who gave us the right to judge a person? No one! We have no right to judge others, much less to condemn others. Moreover, we cannot make a person unlearn what he has learned, and therefore we cannot deny his experience! And yet we can keep a person from a certain form of connivance if his indulgence does not support life.

To explain this important point, I’m going to look at some of the most prevalent behaviors in modern life that make people feel “worthless” and “immoral.” First of all, let’s look at drug addiction.

The ability to stand on our own feet and, relying on our own values, make decisions independently gives us freedom, and freedom allows us to openly participate in life with all its wealth. When I talk about the richness of life, I mean not only its positive aspects, but also its negative ones. If there were no day and night, we would never have been able to understand the nature of light, if we did not know happiness and unhappiness, we would never have been destined to know happiness in all its depth. Therefore, we must know all aspects of life on the physical plane if we are to understand its true meaning.

This does not mean that to know what freedom from drug addiction means, you need to become a drug addict. But if you don’t want to have gaps in your knowledge and drugs in your way, you can’t turn down the opportunity to learn as much as you can about them. In other words, if you haven’t experienced drugs, your coordinate system is limited — the same applies to your understanding of the lives of those who are addicted to drugs.
If you know everything about drugs and realized that you do not need them, you do not make any sense to take them. There are a lot of people who once in their lives experimented with drugs and even enjoyed it. But in the end, they came to the conclusion that drugs and “high” is not for them. They tried it, but they didn’t become drug addicts. These experiences also did not turn them into “bad” people.

I did not use this example to show that the problem of drug addiction is not so serious — I just wanted to prove that people should not be considered “bad” because they have enriched their knowledge by using drugs. The problem of drug addiction is really very serious, but we will not solve it, making it clear to drug addicts that we consider them “worthless and weak-willed scum of society.” All this also applies to the many problems existing in the modern world, which society treats with even greater fear than drug addiction, and which it tries to suppress instead of working with them.

Yes, suppression is the worst form of indulging. By suppressing something, we cause a “crank-out effect.” If we don't let the couple get out of the pressure cooker, the pressure inside it will become so strong that it will simply explode. The same thing happens to people. If a person tries to suppress a trend in himself instead of working it out, he will sooner or later “blow up”, or rather, “break up” and begin to recklessly indulge in this trend. Initially, this person tried to suppress a certain trend, because he considered it “bad”. Therefore, if he “breaks” and begins to indulge her, then it will be incredibly difficult for him to forgive himself for this. As a result, a person will feel very guilty and very unhappy, leading a miserable existence and continuing to suppress what he considers to be “bad”. He will punish himself, not believing that he deserves happiness in life.

The following example concerns those heterosexual men who at some stage in their lives had a homosexual relationship in search of the meaning of sexuality. But even those who enjoyed the experience did not become homosexuals. On the contrary, thanks to such experiments, without feeling “bad”, these men established themselves in their heterosexual orientation. Realize that these people would never have gone to such experiments if they had a firm belief in the correctness of their sexual orientation. After all this, they have no doubt about their heterosexuality.

Often people feel terrible only because they have acquired a certain experience. But the real reason lies in their attempt to suppress their craving for knowledge. And yet, even in the light of all the examples I have given, this problem does not seem simple to me. So let’s move on to the most difficult problem in modern society: child sexual abuse.

Let's say a man named Joe gets excited when he thinks he might have a sexual relationship with a child. What to do Joe? If Joe suppresses this desire, it will surely come to the point that he will squeeze every child who will be next to him, or even rape one or even several children.

To understand Joe's problem, we have to figure out what's going on with him. First of all, we need to remember those people who have suffered a serious illness at a certain stage of their lives, but are now quite healthy and normal. That is why Joe, who is suffering from this desire now, should not seem to us more “bad” than a person suffering from bronchitis. But we can say that Joe's behavior is abnormal and that Joe is sick. This does not mean that Joe does not need to be treated or he does not need to refrain from fulfilling his desire. If Joe does not want to be treated or healed on his own, the case should take a completely different turn! In this case, we are faced with a person who stubbornly wants to impose his evil will on others, a person whose behavior is not aimed at maintaining life in any way. In this case, we have no choice but to isolate Joe from society so that he does not harm anyone. But let’s assume that Joe still wants to be cured of his ailment. The question then becomes, "What does Joe have to do to heal himself?"

First, Joe must understand that he has a certain imbalance of the sexual sphere. But whatever the nature of his imbalance — physical, emotional, mental — Joe must accept that he is suffering from an illness. Trouble means that we are at odds with our physical body, or emotions, or mind. But in any case, the cause of the disease is the lack of knowledge in a certain area of life, which leads to an imbalance.

Over time, the ailment may develop to such an extent that our entire existence becomes a state of constant stress. If the ailment is physical, we become physically ill and remain so until we rid ourselves of the stress. The same applies to emotional and mental states: we become ill as we try to rid ourselves of accumulated emotional or mental stress. This is why, in such cases, people often turn to alcohol and cigarettes, just as they turn to medicines for physical ailments.

Adversity does not always mean a disease, but if the cause of the disease is not eradicated, a disease will necessarily develop. But, as we have already noted, in any case, the cause of the disease is the lack of knowledge in a certain area of life, which leads to an imbalance. However, since all true knowledge can only be gained through experience, imbalance can only be eliminated by the deliberate acquisition of experience in the area of life where we lack knowledge.

I said "thoughtful", because just like medicines, the lack of experience and knowledge should be obtained thoughtfully and carefully. In other words, just as an excess of painkillers can kill the patient himself, connivance with alcohol can lead to alcoholism. Many men and women have gotten rid of the fears they had about sex by allowing themselves to experiment with homosexual relationships, but there are also many who have become homosexuals by giving themselves entirely to this experience, instead of acting thoughtfully. Remember, this is an imbalance correlation, not a normal acquisition of knowledge, but the correlation can not calculate the dose.

All of this is good, but I'm afraid you might get the impression that I'm standing up for Joe's right to correlate imbalances with violations of children's rights? Of course not! If you decide to experiment with drugs, it’s only about you, the same goes for homosexuality if you’re going to do it with adult men. But experimenting with children is a different matter.

But what is Joe to do? Given the volume of this book, I cannot expect to give recipes for all cases, especially since if we take a hundred men suffering from a similar problem, their imbalance will have a hundred different kinds. Therefore, each of these people requires an individual approach. Since this is not possible, I will limit myself to general provisions that can be useful to anyone suffering from this ailment.
In many ways, this is the same approach that I mentioned when discussing the acquisition of knowledge about the properties of fire.

Using this example, I can say that Joe can replenish his experience in two ways: either “put his hand on the fire”, that is, to cripple his life and the child by entering into sexual relations with him, or refrain from such experiments and try to correct the imbalance in other ways. The only acceptable way for Joe is to practice abstinence and develop self-discipline.

It is important to remember that self-discipline involves not only self-esteem, but also the fact that a person becomes his own student. In other words, if Joe is trying to heal, he must become a disciple of his true self, not a slave of his imbalance. Therefore, while respecting himself, Joe must constantly weigh his feelings, emotions, thoughts and impulses that are born when he communicates with children, and thus try to understand what exactly is the basis of his sexual arousal. At the same time, Joe must be super-vigilant and constantly work on his self-discipline to be ready to hold back his impulses at any moment. If Joe strictly follows this, his harmless (through abstinence) experiments will lead to more self-esteem and self-control, which will help him clearly see the origins of the problem.

Once the causes of the problem are addressed, the symptoms will go away on their own. For example, if you realize that you are constantly thirsty because you consume too much salt, you can correct the imbalance by limiting your intake. So Joe, realizing that he is excited at the sight of children, say, because he wants to dominate the defenseless partner in sex, will most likely come to the conclusion that this desire is generated by a sense of his own sexual inferiority. Challenging this sense of inferiority during sexual intercourse with an adult partner, Joe will soon be able to get rid of fear and, thus, will cease to feel sexual attraction to children.

Having understood the importance of knowledge in our lives, we can now better understand why a man should prove by his example that life is not a sin.

Why a man?

Why sin?

These two questions are difficult to answer in a few words. But if we remember everything that has passed before, it will not be difficult for us to at least feel what we are talking about here.

Every man, being the personification of the spirit, is obliged to fully realize his potential on the physical plane, making a map of the unknown, thanks to which he consciously fulfills the role necessary for the evolution of awareness. This means that we cannot afford to have gaps in knowledge, because these gaps not only hinder our development, but also create an imbalance of one kind or another.

Is it worth saying that all this will not allow our potential to be fully revealed and will prevent a meaningful evolution of awareness? Therefore, it is very important that we, having known life in its entirety, do not condone our weaknesses.

It’s not life itself that’s bad, and it’s not what happens to us on the physical plane.

Bad or good our lives are only made by our attitude towards it, healthy or disorderly it is made by our detachment or our weakness.

In this way, we can all enjoy life and be happy, provided we maintain a certain detachment necessary to maintain self-discipline and self-esteem. Only by enjoying life to the fullest will we be able to reach our full potential and thus fulfill our destiny.

Chapter eleven. Myth six: men are strong

The true meaning of this myth is that a man must anchor a woman - both the woman of his life and the great woman we call the world around him. It is this truth that causes the greatest bewilderment these days, because today it is really not easy to find a man trained in this art.

When I say "anchor," I mean to find practical application for the unknown on the physical plane. This means that a man should not only make a map of the unknown, but also learn to use it. I want to prove this point by the Wright brothers.

Until the Wright brothers showed up and proved otherwise, it was thought that it was impossible to climb into the sky on machines that were heavier than air. But the Wright brothers believed that it was possible, and therefore began to prepare to break into the unknown. They were looking for a way to let them fly. Finding something in the unknown that seemed to indicate such a possibility, the brothers decided to trust their inner feelings and guided them for eleven years. Then, breaking through to the force encased in emptiness, these two men materialized something out of nothing. About nine months later, they flew nine hundred and fifty feet in the air. Two years later, they made a twenty-four-mile flight. Two years later, the first aircraft for the US Army was assembled. Air travel has become a reality.
Thus, another part of the unknown entered the known - two men wanted not only to make a map of the unknown, but also to materialize it.

That is what it means to “anchor”! Many great people have had wonderful ideas, but until those ideas were anchored on the physical plane, they remained merely ideas—or, more precisely, pieces of sky! They drifted away into nowhere, like untethered balloons.

However, it is possible to anchor something on the physical plane only through an act of reasonable cooperation, firstly, between the male and female sex, and secondly, between a man and his inner woman. But that's the problem! After all, a man, as a rule, does not know how to get to his inner woman, not to mention how to cooperate with her. Since a woman is unknown, there should be no special surprise. Yet it was only because the Wright brothers broke into the unknown that air travel became possible. The process of reasonable cooperation is one of the main topics, and to better understand it, let’s dwell on it.

As we already know, a man represents the known, and a woman, in contrast to him, is the unknown. However, if we get caught up in the known, the evolution of awareness will immediately stop, and then we will only have to reproduce the known in various, but already existing forms that can not give anything new evolution of awareness. This is nothing but homosexuality in its highest expression. Just as one man cannot impregnate another, so the male known cannot impregnate the male unknown. Therefore, if a man wants to become a creative person, he needs to penetrate into the unknown, in other words, into the space of his inner woman and through the intelligent Orville and Wilbur Wright, the pioneers of American aviation, who designed the airplane and made the first successful flight on it.

However, this topic can not fit into the scope of this book, because it covers an incredibly complex manifestation, known to us as the “secret of the sex”. Now it is enough for us to come to the understanding that the evolution of awareness can only occur if a man fertilizes the great female, called the unknown. Therefore, when we speak of “making a map of the unknown,” we mean that a man must first penetrate the female unknown. By doing this, he will certainly discover new forms that need to be produced in the light. Having felt a new form, a man “fertilizes” the feminine, that is, the unknown, for without fertilization a new form cannot be born.
So, since it is the man who spews sperm on the physical plane, the man must also “explode” the creative power of emptiness on both the emotional and mental planes.

But what does all this mean?

Remember, emptiness is nothing. And since it is nothing, it is not something definite and can be everything. Remember, I explained what emptiness is, speaking of it as WHAT IS. But as soon as the power of emptiness begins to be realized or “exploited”, emptiness is completed. The creative power of emptiness can be used to create. For the Wright brothers, this was an airplane.

How a man draws strength from emptiness is extremely difficult to explain, and for us it is not so important now. But what is really important is that a man can draw this power every time he penetrates the unknown, wanting to create. This is exactly like sexual intercourse. No man knows for sure what leads him to arousal, what causes orgasm, what causes him to spew sperm. He either does it or he doesn't. And although doctors create scientific theories to explain this subject, it remains a mystery to science why sometimes the stimulation of a man ends in failure, why sometimes, even with a full erection, he does not reach orgasm and why the same man, without any stimulation, can experience arousal and ejaculation within a few seconds!

However, it is reliably known that no man is capable of excitement, not to mention ejaculation, if his heart remains indifferent. As we already know, the heart is the feeling, and since all feelings are the expression of irrational knowledge, we can conclude that any flow of irrational knowledge is manifested by an urge to creativity, stimulating and exciting a man. That is why it is not so important for us to understand how a man draws strength from emptiness, how to realize that every time, giving himself to his heart, that is, to feelings, a man gets strength from being “excited”. We are again convinced of how important it is for a man to trust his feelings.

But the creative impulse is never satisfied only with what leads a man to excitement. A man must fertilize the uterus of the unknown if he wants to produce anything. As we know, the “sperm” required for this is contained in emptiness, and this power is nothing but the knowledge of intelligent cooperation, which constitutes the creative possibilities of a man.

It should be noted here that “infertile” men (i.e., those who create nothing) are “infertile” because they lack knowledge of intelligent cooperation. And although such men will often “rape” others on both the emotional and mental planes, they will never be able to produce anything for the simple reason that violence is a concept exactly opposite to the act of reasonable cooperation. Let’s explain all this in a simple example.

Let's say you're my boss. Although I am also a man, but in your service I must recognize your leadership and support you in your destiny. So, in relation to you, I am a woman. This is known as the Relativity Factor in Awareness, a concept I developed in my book Oh, That's Happiness! If you want me to develop a new idea for the company, you have to let me, first, "embrace" your idea and, secondly, to bring it into the light - that is, to ensure its practical application on the physical plane.

But if you cannot convey this idea to me because you cannot articulate it or because you do not have the gift of communication, I cannot grasp it. If I cannot or simply do not want to grasp this idea, because I hate you with all my heart or fear you, then I will not be able to produce anything. Whatever the reason for this situation is your Theun Marez. "Oh, that's happiness!" Sofia, Kyiv, 1999 In the original, “conceive” (about the child), as well as “understood”, “invent”, “experience” (feeling, emotion).

Whether my inability to “fertilize” me, my unwillingness to “be fertilized” is one thing, it is now too late to force me to produce anything.

In other words, no matter how much you "rape" me, the end result will not be what you would like. If you really want me to produce your "child," you need to make me agree to a reasonable cooperation with you. How to do that is up to you. But most importantly, you need to understand that you should initiate reasonable cooperation as a man!

At this stage, we need to understand that “fruitless” men, that is, those who do not have knowledge of intelligent cooperation, those who descend to “rape”, will often try to replace the creative power of emptiness with something else. Such men often want to instill fear in their victim by manipulating on a mental or emotional level. This can be a direct threat of dismissal or fear of “falling out of favor” and being “excommunicated” from the weekly golf game in the country residence of the chief.

But you will agree that, although fear can actually bring something to light, due to the lack of creative impulse, it will at best be “premature”.

I used the example of the boss and his male subordinate for two reasons.

First, I wanted to emphasize that while the male and female sex remain physically unchanged, the male and female states of awareness are relative. Therefore, you should not forget about the relativity factor in awareness.
Second, I wanted to emphasize that the relativity factor in awareness should by no means be taken as an attempt to justify homosexuality.

Since we are talking about homosexuality, and this problem is becoming increasingly important in the modern world, I would like to dwell on this topic in more detail.
As we have seen, the relative factor of awareness really exists, thanks to which both men and women are constantly shifting to one pole or the other of awareness. But we can't "change" our physical gender. The fact is that we can only hope to reach our full potential on the physical plane if we “remain true” to our gender.
“Staying true” to sex means that a man fully includes a woman in the act of reasonable cooperation, for only in this way can he draw a map of the unknown. If he does not do this, then he is “bound” within the male known.

As we have noted before, if the situation is not corrected, it leads to gaps in knowledge and imbalance. The danger is that any imbalance distorts perception. Constant distortion of perception in turn leads to an aggravation of the imbalance, which is why the man becomes more and more “bound” within the known. Having become thus involved, the man increasingly isolates himself from interaction with the unknown, where the role of mediator should be played by a woman. Such a man slowly but inexorably distanced himself from the goal of a real man, refusing reasonable cooperation with a woman and from drawing a map of the unknown.

The reasons why a man refuses to include a woman in his life can be completely different for different individuals and for representatives of different cultures. The degree of isolation can also vary significantly. But we can still say that such a man always puts the male principle above the female. But at the same time (however paradoxical this statement may seem), a man ceases to remain faithful to his gender. By giving preference to the male principle, such a man unconsciously leans towards mental patterns that lead to homosexuality. I do not mean to say that every man who is isolated from life must become a homosexual, but the subtext of this isolation is obvious. If such an imbalance is not corrected in time, then, passing from one life to another, it can lead to homosexuality.

The elevation of one sex over the other prevents a man from remaining faithful to his sex, and without this fidelity, as we have already said, it is impossible to fully reveal his potential. Deep subconscious knowledge of this fact encourages a homosexual man to play either a male or female role in homosexual relationships.

Of course, someone who takes on the role of a woman feels more insolvent as a man. This feeling of inadequacy is born from the fact that a man forgets what the true male purpose is. Therefore, such a man needs that in his life there was another man who will lead him, indicate the direction and means to achieve the goal. The irony of this situation is that, having given preference to the male principle over the female, a man shifts to the opposite pole of awareness and becomes more woman than any woman!

Feeling more like a woman than a man, such a man plays a passive role in homosexual intercourse. He is able to contact the male principle only when his partner plays an active male role for him, especially during sexual intercourse. Why especially during sexual intercourse? Because no man can experience satisfaction on an emotional and mental level if his partner is another man. As a result, physical sex becomes above all for a passive homosexual, in which he is “fertilized”, although he cannot “conceive” from this and continues to feel “empty”.

As a result, the passive man begins to subconsciously desire satisfaction, not realizing that he is actually trying to realize his own male potential. Misreading his desire, he begins to look for men who want to have sex several times a day, or several partners, sometimes even people with sadistic tendencies. For a passive man trying to get satisfaction, any physical pain that lasts longer than the sexual act itself plays an important role, because it temporarily quenches the aching feeling of emptiness. It is for this reason that a passive man shows interest only in those who have a "bolt to the knee", and will have nothing against it if he is "fucked off with a chorus" by rapists.
An active partner also cannot get complete satisfaction from such a relationship - only temporary relief. And although such a man is in closer contact with the male principle than his passive partner, he also begins to suffer from the infertility of their relationship. No matter what pleasure the sexual act brought to an active man, he realizes that his partner can neither become pregnant nor awaken the creative power of emptiness in him. As a result, the active partner feels powerless and insolvent, which is why he begins to feel dissatisfaction. To get rid of this feeling, such a man at first tries to find satisfaction, tying up relationships with several partners at the same time. But this relief does not last long. If the feeling of dissatisfaction does not decrease, such a man turns to either sadism or bisexuality. By letting go of his sadistic tendencies, he achieves orgasm only after inflicting severe physical pain on his partner. If he becomes bisexual, he usually ends up having a relationship with married couples. In doing so, he also gets sadistic pleasure when he hurts a man by having sex with his wife in his presence.

I know that many blues will start protesting against everything said here. But none of them can argue on the merits. As men, they will never be able to reach their potential when they are held captive by homosexuality, nor will they be able to achieve the evolution of awareness. Even “blue married couples” who have lived long years in peace and “happiness” whose behavior never resembled what is described here cannot deny that deep down they felt dissatisfied and never were truly happy.

Moreover, I want to emphasize that I am not trying to take a position condemning homosexuality. The emotional pain that homosexuals inflict on themselves is hardly greater than that inflicted on people in the heterosexual world. Each of us must find our own way and be able to preserve our knowledge. Here I have only presented objective facts and nothing more.

As proof of my sincerity, I can admit that I also had a homosexual experience. All knowledge we gain only through experience, and I am no exception. So, all that I was talking about is the result of direct knowledge; I did not suck it out of my finger and “sing” from other people’s words. I had to go a hard way, but I don’t regret it — I have gained knowledge about homosexuality and I don’t want to re-experience it!

How can I judge you if you are gay? But, if you want to claim your right to power as a man, you should reconsider your behavior and sexual preferences in light of all that is said in this book. I confess that in my brief review I left many questions unanswered. But for the purpose set in this book, it is enough to consider homosexuality only in the context of revealing the secret of the male. All I'm trying to do is steer the Blues in the right direction. There is nothing more I can do, because the problem is extremely complex, and the volume of the book does not allow for its thorough analysis.

But to put an end to the "i", we need to answer another question:

"Is it true that some men are born homosexual?"

From all this follows a clear answer: “No! All men are born men and have male potential, which they are obliged to reveal.

We become what we want to become, partly because of social conditioning, partly because of self-image, and partly because of the inner drive for knowledge. If you decide to be homosexual from the moment of birth, then past lives filled with imbalances have finally overtaken you.

Similarly, the imbalance of past lives causes a person to be born crippled or mentally underdeveloped. The bottom line is that any imbalance must sooner or later manifest itself on the physical plane - in emotional, mental physical form or even in the form of a genetic constitution. If you don’t feel like a homosexual from the cradle, but you think you have to have experience of homosexual relations to fill the gaps in your knowledge, remember that it is not necessary to be a prisoner of this relationship. Once you know, you can move on, no matter if you’re a “natural born” homosexual or just experimenting in this area. But the problem is that most people tend to indulge in this experimentation, instead of treating it as a “learning curve” that brings not only knowledge but also liberation from the problem.

Let us return to the concept of intelligent cooperation, and you will discover that the best way to learn this art is to begin cooperating with “external” women, whoever they may be—your wife, your male subordinates, your son or the great woman called the world around you.
By studying external women and seeing how we treat them, and they treat us, we learn to distinguish between the two polarities of our own awareness, male and female. In other words, we see when we play the male role and when we play the female role, and we see how these roles complement each other in the process of reasonable cooperation.

By studying a woman in others and learning to understand the female role that we play ourselves, we learn how to cooperate with our inner woman. In a practical sense, this means that we begin to study how the rational mind and irrational feelings born in the heart complement each other, and therefore can work for the same goal. It’s easier to start with the woman of your life. To make this clearer, let’s take the example again.

How often does a man express a thought based on knowledge only to have his wife express feelings that seem to contradict his point of view? One is not necessarily right and the other is not. On the contrary, this means that a man is given the opportunity to show his creativity, while his wife encourages him to do so, immersing him in the flow of irrational knowledge.

If a man simply pushes his wife away, he will mark aside the opportunity and at the same time will not be able to “excited”. If he accepts the stimulation offered to him by his wife, he will begin to explore the unknown, which will open the flow of irrational knowledge. The key to this lies in the man’s desire to think, “How can I use what I already know with the unknown that my wife offers me?” To do this, a man must penetrate his inner woman — that is, the unknown that is inside — to allow feelings to tell him how to carry out the act of reasonable cooperation between the heart and the mind. But, as we already know, this act of intelligent cooperation is to fertilize the uterus of a woman. And as a result of fertilization into the light, there is always something new.

So, wishing to claim the right to all your male potential, you can not refuse to learn reasonable cooperation with women in your life. Learn to listen to them, not just listen. Learn to respect them by thinking about what they are telling you or trying to show you. In doing so, you will soon discover that you are able to intelligently cooperate with any woman without any effort on your part. And this process does not require you to think more than the sexual excitement and uplift that you experience when you are alone with a young beauty!

No man can force himself to become aroused of his own free will and especially not able to achieve orgasm in this way. To become capable of creation, a man needs the presence of the unknown, and when he enters into the unknown flow of irrational knowledge, he will cause an “orgasm”. In orgasm, it brings to life the creative power of emptiness and in this act fertilizes the uterus of the female unknown. After that, inevitably, there is a birth of something that enshrines on the physical plane that aspect of the unknown that did not exist before.

All this leads us to a new myth - after all, in order for a man to be able to "anchor" the unknown on the physical plane, he must be able not only to initiate an act of reasonable cooperation, but also to know how to keep a woman, so as not to get lost in the chaos of the unknown.

Chapter Twelve. Myth Seven: Men should be successful

From what we have learned in the previous chapter, it follows that the true meaning of a man's success is that he must be practical if he does not want to get confused and lost in the chaos of the unknown. In this regard, it should be remembered that the only purpose of life on the physical plane is the disclosure of potential in its entirety. But to do that, we have to be practical — untested ideas are in the mind, and unfulfilled dreams are at least useless.

True knowledge can come only through practical experience, and for this we need not empty dreams, but actions! However, an action that leads to nothing or does not bring any dividends is nothing more than stupidity and nonsense. Therefore, all our actions must be practical, and therefore bear certain fruits. We need proof that, in practical terms, knowledge is power. This is true, for "knowledge" that does not bear fruit is not true knowledge, and therefore cannot be called power.

Therefore, we need to learn to distinguish between all kinds of life experiences. Although all experience brings knowledge, realize that we can use knowledge only when we demand it for strength, and strength depends on our immediate needs.

To understand this, imagine a student studying law at a university. If a student wants to become a lawyer, he must study everything that is relevant to jurisprudence. In this process, he will gain much more knowledge than is required to practice law, and this is great, because he will graduate from university as a highly educated person and a good professional. But if it becomes dispersed and studies such sciences as physics and chemistry, medicine and biology, history and archeology, energy and religion, it will only waste time. Any student trying to delve into a variety of sciences simply cannot become a lawyer. Each of these subjects is very complex in itself, and no person can claim to have a thorough knowledge of everything. But if it were possible, having studied all this, the student would forget why he decided to do law!

Life and the lessons we want to learn in life are essentially the same thing. We all have to fulfill a certain purpose, so we need to focus on our destiny. To do this, a man must learn to hold a woman, that is, to pave his way through the unknown in search of the necessary knowledge - in order to fulfill his destiny. In this regard, a man is required not only the ability to lead a woman, but also to indicate her direction and find the means necessary to draw up a map of the unknown.

All this is important, because by nature a woman is chaotic. Being a tonal, that is, all, a woman often thinks one thing, feels another, and does the third. As a result, a woman tends to do several things at the same time, while finding order in disorder and logic in irrational. From an objective point of view, a woman's life is complete chaos, but in this mix of the known and unknown, unfinished and complete, clear thoughts and vague feelings, a woman is well oriented and finds a way.

That’s why a woman can talk on the phone, cook breakfast at the same time, make sure Johnny brushes his teeth before going to school, and remind her husband that today an aunt who likes to take her portion of gin and tonic at exactly half past seven should come to visit them. During the same telephone conversation, a woman can still grab her parrot from the dog's mouth, feed all her pets. She interrupts the conversation only to call the school where Johnny is studying, and make sure that yesterday he really did not have a homework in mathematics, while making a note in his mind that on Friday evening he and his husband are going to go to the birthday party to a friend who asked her to bring a couple of bottles of French mineral water, which can be found in a small shop, which is two blocks from Marcon Street, where you can park a car near the supermarket,

All this may seem like total chaos, but for a woman it is order in disorder and the logic is that for a woman it is mental gymnastics rather than irrationalism! And yet you will agree that before a man claims his right to power, he often indulges in this type of female chaos and as a result seems to be a hybrid of a nutty professor and an old sorceress who (who?) himself (she?) does not understand what he is choking about. For women, this condition is quite natural, for men it is a real disaster.

A woman, being unknown, depends on the man holding her. If it is not held, it will either lead to the fact that its world will turn upside down, or to the fact that it will become acutely aware of its inadequacy and even inferiority. Therefore, if a man is not able to hold a woman, he will have not only a terrible relationship with external women, but, most importantly, a terrible relationship with his inner woman, who, untainted by anyone, will turn him into a crazy professor or an old seed!

And the easiest way to understand this is by looking at the woman of your life. To hold a woman is not to suppress her or to dominate her. Rather, it suggests that the man has fully incorporated her into his life — recognizes her, loves and cares for her. If a man does this, then he appreciates her opinion and her feelings, always taking them into account to the end.
Recognizing, loving, caring for a woman, and thus fully including her in his life, a man makes decisions and makes plans taking into account her interests. A woman should not worry about whether they are going there, whether they have enough funds to pay the loan taken for the purchase of a house, whether the money is paid for insurance, because she knows what the strategy is and what the plans of her male miner are, and is sure that he will be able to follow all this. Free from these worries, a woman can deal with urgent tasks, whatever they are - in saving a parrot that fought with a dog, in organizing a dinner or in reminding her husband to take Johnny home after a football match.

The result of reasonable cooperation between a man and a woman is that a woman gets freedom, so that she can not only cope with the urgent tasks, but also go into the unknown in search of her own feelings necessary for her man to gain clarity. Knowing that she does not need to think about hunting or protecting the hearth — after all, this is a man’s business — a woman can take care of how to direct him to find the clarity that he is looking for. She brilliantly does this not because she has the gift of clairvoyance, but because she has learned to cope with many tasks at the same time and can feel interconnected with everything. In fact, it is her ability to feel interconnected with everything that helps a woman cope with many tasks at the same time. Yes, this ability has more to do with feeling than knowledge, and therefore a real woman can rarely explain to a man why she feels this way, and not otherwise.

To better understand this, I will allow myself to look again at the example used in the book “Women and Men”, but only now consider the situation from the point of view of a man.

Clint had the opportunity to invest in a small print business, and although he liked this prospect, he does not feel comfortable enough to immediately accept the offer. Clint decided to ask his wife, Claire, what she thought about this. Thus, he not only uses Claire as a mirror for his inner woman, but also initiates an act of intelligent cooperation between his inner woman, his outer woman, and himself.

At first, Claire does not know what to think about it, but feels that the offer is profitable, provided that Clint learns a little more about the practical details of printing. Realizing that Claire is right about his ignorance of the details of the printing press, Clint goes to collect information the next morning. that morning, Claire calls her friend and reports that the husband of her other friend has just begun to import paper at low prices. Meanwhile, Claire hears a parrot screaming in another room and, feeling that his nascent head is turned, rushes there and discovers that the parrot has engaged in a fierce fight with the dog. After rescuing the parrot from trouble, Claire returns to the phone, having an unclear feeling that the parrot and dog case and information about the paper import are somehow interconnected.

Later that morning, Claire goes shopping to prepare for dinner, but suddenly remembers that she needs to hand over books to the library before the end of the week. Thinking about books and the library, Claire decides to take the books on the way to the supermarket and look at the library books on printing, which can be useful to her husband.

Claire is unable to find anything about printing in the library, but one librarian tells her that the necessary information can be requested from the Chamber of Commerce. Satisfied with what she found out, Claire goes shopping, then returns home. Once at home, she calls Clint to tell him about the librarian's offer.

At this time, Clint also collects information and finds out that the main thing in printing is the ability to buy paper at a low price. When Clint shares this thought with Claire, she excitedly conveys to him what her friend told her this morning, as well as talking about the advice of a librarian. But after this conversation, Claire has some vague feeling that she can not identify.

Later that day, while talking to Clint's aunt, Claire tells her about the parrot and dog incident, but the aunt, in her usual manner, dismisses this information with a wave of her hand, sarcastically noticing that dogs are usually as stupid as their owners, especially when, after throwing someone off the perch, they begin to show completely unjustified generosity instead of giving their own. And again, Claire has an unclear feeling that all this is somehow interconnected and that this is a sign that can not be ignored.

It’s not until the evening that Clint joins them and talks about how he spent the day, including his trip to the Chamber of Commerce, that Claire begins to catch the connecting thread — the thread she’s been searching for in vain all day.

When he reveals that he has only learned from the Chamber of Commerce that there is fierce competition in the printing business, Claire suddenly realizes that it is this message that has been fueled by the parrot's morning fight with the dog. Now it becomes clear to her that if Clint wants to succeed in printing, he, as his aunt has already noted, must be ready to fight for his rights.
In the evening, when the aunt goes home, Claire shares her thoughts with Clint, and Clint, thinking about the words of Claire, understands that in order to succeed in the printing business, he needs to overcome his natural softness - that is, not be afraid to "throw off" anyone. He concludes that the only way to succeed in printing for him is to use new contacts — both his own and Claire’s — to push the competition, even if it forces the latter to leave the business altogether.

Thus, in performing his daily duties, Clint found the clarity he sought, and Claire helped him in this, while not neglecting any of his duties and not encroaching on his male role as a "hunter". From this example, it is clear that a woman can yield and in fact gives leadership to a man. When Clint announced his intention, Claire did not contradict or argue, but began to act in the direction that her husband indicated to her. She gave him her full support in fulfilling his mission.

And yet you will agree that Claire was able to cooperate with Clint in this way only because he was a strong and confident man - that is, he had a clear idea of his goal. If Clint wasn't so strong, if he was insecure about his masculinity, he wouldn't know how to react to an offer. He, being unable to hold his inner woman, would be overwhelmed by a stream of unformed thoughts, vague feelings - in other words, he would finally be confused. In this state of confusion, Clint would have forgotten what he was looking for. Undeterred by her husband, that is, not realizing what he expects from her, Claire probably could not understand what the world wants to tell her, but not because she lacked intelligence, but only for the simple reason that she lost leadership, lost direction and does not see the goal.

This is the question every man asks:

“How can I keep a woman?”

I know it's all pretty confusing, but it's in this seeming entanglement that lies the answer. If a man is confused, it means that he made a fatal mistake, mixing male and female principles. Although a man must include a woman in his existence, he cannot afford to do it somehow.

The unknown must be explored and included in the known, but this can be done only step by step, and each step must be carefully thought out, and every particle of the unknown must be “numbered” - because we must know for sure what exactly we are going to produce.

To take and simply split a piece from the unknown is to become like a naive student who entered the university without even knowing what he has to learn. Sadly, a lot of men do that. With no idea of their purpose — apart from their totally unjustified ambitions — such men are drifting aimlessly, wondering why their lives have turned into total chaos.
To hold a woman is at least to realize all this. How can you be confused because you don’t know something? You either know it or you don’t know it. So no need to confuse yourself! If you do not know what your goal is, go in search of a goal!

I will allow myself to remind you that you must keep everything you have received from life. By keeping everything, you keep your inner woman, and by being held, she will be able to help you in your quest, instead of confusing you even more! Remember, you will not come anywhere, mixing male and female. Each of these principles has a role to play, and although they are designed to complement each other in an act of intelligent cooperation, it is up to you as a man to understand where Arthur is and where March is.

Chapter Thirteen. Myth Eight: a man should be married

It is unlikely that this myth can be called esoteric - because its background is clear. A man must be faithful... However, we should not take this literally, because we always remember: the only possible loyalty is loyalty to yourself. The fact is that it is impossible to be faithful to someone or something outside of ourselves, but if we try hard, we will only infringe on our own freedom.

The idea of marriage and fidelity comes down to the fact that two people should remain faithful to their inner “half”, for which the external partner plays the role of a mirror. Hence, when it is said that a man should be married, it is implied that he should be faithful to his inner woman. But such fidelity does not at all imply that a man must necessarily be married (in the traditional sense of the word). Here we mean some kind of inner marriage, or rather, unbreakable fidelity to one’s inner woman.

However, in practice, this can be learned in the only way: to use all “external” women as mirrors.

Because it is incredibly difficult for us to see ourselves objectively, we all need a physical mirror to determine where the opposite pole of our awareness lies. But I emphasize again that this does not at all imply that a man must necessarily be married.

I will only dwell on this to point out to you once again the significance of the relative factor of awareness so often overlooked by men. The mirror for your inner woman should not only be your wife. If your son is scattered and unable to focus on his homework, if your male subordinate does not find the right direction and spends precious time on all sorts of nonsense, understand - all these mirrors reflect the fact that your inner woman is not held back by you!

I want to emphasize once again that none of us is able to know our full potential if we do not cooperate with the opposite pole of our own awareness. After all, to consist of only one pole is to be half-human, and “half-men” simply does not happen. It can be either a whole man or nothing, because a magnet cannot have only one pole, there is no north pole without a south pole. Therefore, a man can be a real man only if he is married to his opposite pole, that is, faithful to his inner woman. In order to maintain this fidelity, a man must also be faithful to the mirror in which this inner woman is reflected, that is, the outer woman. All this implies the need for reasonable cooperation.

We will never know how to cooperate with our inner partner if we do not have the opportunity to learn how to cooperate with our physical mirror.

Studying the external women who met in his life, the man learns how they relate to him. In doing so, the man will also learn how to distinguish between the two poles of his own awareness and how these polarities can complement each other.

There is always a sacramental question: "How to do it?"
Unfortunately, in this case, you can only learn from your own experience. People always strive to get ahead of events and learn about everything before the beginning, but in life it does not happen. If this were the case, we would not have been born yet. We begin to understand how things happen only after we start to do it. This also applies to our subject: if you want to know how what is described here, start putting it into practice, gain experience using the book as a guide. This experience will become your knowledge, and by acquiring knowledge, you will understand that there is nothing more to understand! We seek understanding only when we have no knowledge.

The only advice I can give you here is that if you don’t know what collaboration with your inner woman is, learn to cooperate with your outer woman. If you want to know what it means to be a real man, study your polar opposite - the woman of your life. There is no alternative. If you want to know what peace is, study war. If you do not see the darkness, you will not know what light is. That’s why you’ll never understand yourself until you learn your polar opposite. And you will never understand what your inner woman is until you begin to study the outer woman, because you cannot judge your own appearance without using a mirror.

Although I have dealt with the idea of mirrors in some of my previous books, I think it is useful to briefly summarize its main points here.

First, remember that every person who has attracted our attention shows certain aspects of ourselves. It is important to remember that you cannot perceive what is outside your coordinate system, and within your coordinate system is only what you have learned from personal experience.

Second, all the people around you are important to you. They are not in your life by chance, which means that their behavior points you to something that is directly related to you.

Third, look at what’s in the mirror — in other words, don’t take what you see in it at face value. If you see how your employee steals things from the office, and you yourself have not stolen anything in life, ask yourself: "What do I steal?" It may turn out that you steal time from your family, giving too much to work. You may be stealing another man’s wife by having an affair with her. Take a closer look and you will find what you are looking for.

Fourth, remember that our mirrors show us both positive and negative aspects of behavior. Look at it as two aspects of the self.

Fifth, mirrors can reflect the present, past, and future. So when you look at someone’s behavior, think about whether you see it because you’re acting like this now, or because you’ve acted like this in the past, or maybe you’ll feel like you’re going to act like this in the future.

Finally, recognize that a woman is showing us aspects of the unknown that we need to focus on right now. So instead of yelling at your wife for saying things you don’t understand, realize that she’s trying to draw your attention to your knowledge gap. In other words, this is the part of the unknown that should be put on the map and included in the known.

The easiest way to choose the right direction is to start studying your own behavior. Make a list of all those times when you don’t use outside women as a mirror that reflects your behavior if you refuse to cooperate with them. Having completed this exercise, you will be amazed at the ease with which you will abandon all reproaches to anyone, and especially women. After all, what you previously looked at as the characteristics of the behavior of other people, in fact, turned out to be your own inability to cooperate with them.

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Although the scope of this chapter may seem too modest to you, more information is given here than you can digest in a lifetime. After all, the study of women meeting on your life path, using them as mirrors, which reflect your inner half, and then cooperating with them taking into account the experience gained - the task of a lifetime! What more do you want? I can't learn for you. I can't search for you. Only you can learn and seek the cooperation you need. If you do, you will no longer need a teacher.

Now you may not even know where to start. But it doesn't matter. Life has no beginning and no end, so we can start anywhere, anytime.

Even if you just admit to yourself that while you are at a loss, this can be the beginning of learning. How? Perhaps for the first time in your life you honestly admitted to yourself that you do not really know what it is to be a man or a woman, in a word, to seek cooperation with the opposite sex. This in itself is an invaluable realization, a very subtle state of mind, for before we can realize that all our old ideas about life were just a chaotic mix of preconceived notions and prejudices, new knowledge remains for us behind seven seals.

So do not despair if you think that there is no further way. When you realize your ignorance, you have already taken a step in the right direction - because you are open to knowledge. When you open up, you will inevitably start learning, and every new insight, every new experience you have gained will help you take the next step — the step that in turn will help you open up to knowledge even more. The main thing is to start. It doesn’t matter how you start. And remember, understanding is only for fools, for those who are too lazy to want to learn. Understanding is the ability to absorb information from other people’s words. But here you do not need information - you need knowledge, and knowledge can only be obtained through your own experience.

And now I'm going to give you one more piece of advice. I hope you appreciate it: let a woman into your life. Trying to draw a line between the known and the unknown, trying to focus on the main thing, men often forget that in order to be whole, they must let a woman into their lives. After all, if you are not a whole person, how can you be a whole man?

So when you’re desperately trying to focus on your job, and your wife doesn’t stop chirping over your ear about Johnny’s homework, don’t ask her to shut up and leave you alone! Put the work away, listen to its words. I assure you, everything she says is important in one way or another for the work you are doing at this moment!

If you are struggling not to lose sight of the misunderstandings in your family, and your daughter is constantly waking up at night on a wet bed, do not tell your wife that she should take her daughter to a psychologist. Your daughter tells you what's wrong with your family. Tell that to your wife.

Similarly, if you are struggling to get your job done on time, and one of your subordinates, men, is late for work time after time, do not fire him. Talk to him and listen to what he has to say. Either way, this person will give you the opportunity to understand why everything in your company is out of schedule.

If you intend to succeed as a man, you should let a woman into your life, whether it is about your wife, children, subordinates or the world as such. “Letting a woman in” means trying to listen to her, not to prove her wrong, but to show you the other side of the coin. Always remember that there is no such thing as a medal with one side. A medal must have two sides! But even more importantly, by letting the feminine into your life, you will begin to listen to your own inner feelings, not to your usual logical wisdom!

Chapter Fourteen. Myth Nine: all men are “womanisers”

We have now come to the last myth, which is the embodiment of the truly most important of the principles - the principle that man is the creator. Having considered this myth, we will clearly see that it reveals the true meaning of the first myth and that all other myths are nothing more than aspects of this very truth. So let’s see what the real reason for this principle is.

The male principle, or manifestation of the spirit of the man, creates. All this is good, but creation imposes a huge responsibility. We know that anything can be created. Thus, a man can create both chaos and order. It can create happiness or misery. It can create war or peace, evolution or involution, happiness or unhappiness, health or disease, rise or fall. In short, a man can create forms that elevate life, but he can also create monsters that destroy life.
On the other hand, the purpose of a woman is to cooperate intelligently with a man, and to support and nurture his goal. Do you see the hidden underbelly here? Do you realize how important the role of women is in a man’s life? What do you expect from women in your life? So that they support and nurture destruction? Or what makes you taller?

Have you ever told your wife that you work too much? And if so, have you ever been angry at her for not supporting you in your work? But understand that if you work too much, your business life will completely absorb you, and therefore will destroy you, your family and even your health and your life. Is that what you want your wife to grow?

In connection with all this, the question usually arises: "But why can not be considered a creating woman?" After all, as many men know in their very painful experience, everything that men can, women can even better. It’s a great question, but it’s not one I can answer. Can anyone answer him at all?

Remember that men and women, and even more so men and women, are not created by man. It is not in my power to change anything here - I only tell how things are. In the same way, you and everyone else are helpless. But nothing can stop us from trying. In this sense, any woman is free to try to change the natural order of things, and if she wants to be creative, she can, of course, try to create! But the fact is that a woman does not have a creative ability, just as a man does not have the ability to conceive!

A woman has a uterus for conception, but no penis for fertilization. Modern medicine can change the body, but it cannot transform one polarity of awareness into another. Therefore, despite the fact that medicine can turn a woman’s body into a male, she is not able to give her the ability to access the power of emptiness, that is, to fertilize, create.
You may disagree with me and object: “Yes, all that is true, but a woman’s creativity may manifest in starting her own business, creating a work of art or a new car model—in short, anything she wants to create!” To this I would reply: “Yes! She can do that. But would it be true creativity?”
How many women do you know who can be said to have actually created something that never happened before? I don't know any of them. But I know many women who cared about what men created, how a mother cares about her baby, so that he grew into a creative person. But it is not the mother who creates the child. The mother conceives and gives birth to children, and then takes care that they grow up and become adults. And it’s not a woman who creates business, art, cars or music. If a woman is involved in the creative side of life, it is only in so far as she conceives a fetus and supports the creative process of a man.

Women can only support what is generated by the creative forces of men. That is why, when a woman starts her business, she does not create anything new, but only supports the already existing practice. Similarly, a woman composing a musical work does not create anything new, but, only using existing forms, gives life to a new work.

But all these forms were created male - not female.
Look at the world as a game. Let's call it chess. Remember that in relation to the spirit of the man, we are all, regardless of gender, female. Therefore, life is not created by us, the female, but by the spirit of the male. And so we move chess pieces here and there, creating many new opportunities that did not exist at the beginning of the game. But can we put our hand on our heart to say that we create* We only move pieces on a chessboard, and although thereby in our lives we really produce a lot, understand that to produce into the world is not the same as to create.

And yet the male principle creates, since it does not look like a female at all. Why is that? Because a woman instinctively supports the game and keeps its rules. The principle of conception, birth, and then cultivation is inherent in its very nature. Man instinctively wants to understand the game. In this case, he will interfere with the rules of the game: change them, correct, improve until the original game is destroyed. He does this to develop his awareness in the learning process. For him, it’s as natural as hunting and killing to provide his family with food.

Therefore, on the one hand, we see female care aimed at preservation, and on the other hand, male destruction aimed at development. Without the urge of a man to hunt and kill, he and his family would have starved to death. Without the urge of man to destroy the evolution of awareness would be impossible. Without a woman's ability to conceive, there would be no family to feed, and without her ability to nurture and preserve, there would be no life to perpetuate the evolution of awareness. So we see again the double polarity in action and see how important the act of intelligent cooperation is of two aspects, male and female.

Destruction versus preservation, male versus female. But destruction, paradoxically, destruction, by and large, is an act of creativity, because it is simply impossible to create anything from nothing. In order to create something, we need some bricks, and for them you need to get the material from somewhere.

I am not inclined to dwell here on this subject, since many volumes could be devoted to it alone. So I will limit myself to saying that when we intend to create, we must first extract material from the fabric of life itself to create something new.

The background of this is quite clear - to create, you need to destroy something. An example of this is the act of reproduction.
When a man impregnates a woman, he does not just inject sperm into her, as many ignorant ignorant people tend to believe. Yes, although ejaculation itself is a harmless act of ejection of bodily fluid, conception is a different matter. The moment a man impregnates a woman, he takes a small part of his life essence away from his electromagnetic essence by means of sperm. And it is this part of the life essence that forms one of the poles of the nucleus, which will become a new life. But this half of the nucleus, once in the female egg, acts as a magnetic force, tearing the opposite pole from the electromagnetic essence of a woman, because both of these poles are necessary for conception.

Thus, a man damages not only his electromagnetic essence, but also the electromagnetic essence of a woman. But besides this, it also destroys the virginity of a woman, creating a new metabolic structure in her body. Now the body of a woman will never be exactly the same as before fertilization.

It should be understood, however, that the destruction of discord. There is an irresponsible destruction that neither sustains life nor the evolution of awareness, and another type of destruction that sustains life, elevates it, fosters the evolution of awareness, such as the act of reproduction. But here too, we must realize that just as the act of reproduction can be defiled by violence, promiscuity and sexual indiscretion, any good deed can be turned into a dirty and senselessly destructive one.

In this regard, it should be borne in mind that a man not only produces and spews life-giving sperm, but also produces and spreads the germs of all forms of life. A woman produces an egg and, taking a male seed into it, becomes fertilized. Then her womb grows and finally gives birth to a new form of life created by such an act of intelligent cooperation between a man and a woman.

Thus, it is the man who is responsible for conception and childbearing, as well as for the birth of only those forms that contribute to the evolution of awareness. But today’s men do not seem to be inclined to take it upon themselves, as they do not accept responsibility for the act of creation. Nothing is more striking than the crude form of sexual indiscretion created by men.

Refusing to take responsibility for the creative act of reproduction, the man shifts it all to the woman. As a result, a man begins to believe that he has the right to sow his seeds wherever he goes, looks at the female body exclusively as a source of entertainment, a means of obtaining pleasure and satisfaction of his lust and does not stop even before violence. Women, however, taking care not to get pregnant constantly and not to produce any offspring of Tom, Dick or Harry, inevitably cooperate with men in creating this rough form. Taking on the responsibility of others, current women are constantly taking the notorious pills and thus keep their body in a state of false pregnancy!

It's an evil irony, isn't it? Trying to get into the world of men and following the lead of those who are no different from irresponsible spoiled boys, women around the world had to sacrifice their self-esteem and learn to live in lies. Wanting to be accepted in the world of these boys, trying to please and please men, these women began to play their prescribed role and even try to assure themselves and others that they are happy because they have desecrated their body.

Well, if men set an example by claiming to be able to spray their seed anywhere, then why don't women take the baton and put their feet up at the sight of any upside-down member?

But in fact, all this is a lie - a terrible lie, which is creating more confusion from day to day. Yes, it is the "confusion" name of this game! “Swallow a pill and it will confuse the natural functions of your body just as men have confused your brains! At least, confused, your body will not be able to conceive, because it will think that it is already pregnant, and in this confusion you do not have to conceive the purpose of these jerks!

And yet, despite all this confusion, despite the woman’s refusal to respect herself, she still conceives and supports a goal that quickly destroys in the act of reproduction everything that was considered sacred at all times. And this abuse of sexual intercourse is no different from the abuse that men do over everything in this world.

War, hunger, disease, misery, poverty are all results, or, shall we say, manifestations, of the greed of men. Similarly, their insatiable sexual desire breeds twisted relationships, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS, and prostitution. Having become slaves to their greed and refusing to take responsibility for their own creative abilities, men ruined the planet with the same ruthlessness with which they enslaved women for the sake of lust.

Even now, few cultures do not force women to give birth to a child without a break and at the same time continue to work and satisfy all the desires of men. And do men not now cut down the forests, and then wonder why they stopped raining at the right time, or, having exhausted the land by barbarous farming, begin to complain that it has become barren? But if men are allowed to mutilate forests, why not women too? If they are allowed to rape the earth, why not rape women?

Oh, yeah! Now films are being created to protect nature, as well as films aimed at protecting the rights of women! But who can protect the planet and nature from the form of self-destruction that men have created? And who is going to protect women from the form of self-destruction that men have also created?

Now the rains are not going where and when they should go, and the ozone layer is thinning, and where are the men who will change this state of affairs? And if modern women are able to enjoy a hysterectomy that relieves them of the monthly gag with pads, and agree to sterilization, giving the opportunity to have sex anytime and with anyone, then where are the men who can change this state of affairs?

After all, every creation, whether it is an invention, a musical work, or a child, is the result of sexual intercourse. But despite the fact that the responsibility for creation lies with a man, we should not forget that no man is able to create anything without an egg and a woman’s womb. Therefore, (as we have already mentioned), a man is responsible not only for the maintenance of a woman, but also for providing her with proper leadership, because only in this case she will be able to support and cultivate the true values of this life.

Thus, if the rights of women—and of the Great Woman we call Earth—are to be restored and protected, the time has come for men throughout the world to grow up and stop behaving like mischievous boys determined to take revenge on their mother at any cost.

When deciding to start taking responsibility as a man, you should ask the following questions:

Am I giving a woman my life the respect that is appropriate to reflect my inner feminine?

Am I as respectful to a woman as I should be to the world around me?

Do I hunt just to feed my family, or just to kill for fun?

Am I sharing my purpose with a woman, or just my lust?

Try to also see if you are actually taking responsibility for sexual intercourse. By this I mean not only the physical act, but all your creative acts. Keep in mind that a real man gives a woman not only his seed, he shares with her his creative essence at all levels of their relationship - physical, emotional and mental.

Understand that a woman is simply not capable of reasonable cooperation with a man who refuses to share his emotions, feelings, fears, doubts, hopes, desires, dreams - in a word, all of himself. If a man remains a “closed book” and wants to share with a woman only physical sexual intercourse, then a woman cannot conceive its purpose at any level, except the physical act of childbirth.

A “closed” man does not introduce a woman into his life. Such a man simply wants to use a woman as a handmaid, who in addition must satisfy his sexual needs. But the maids do not live the same life with the master, and even more so they are not required to conceive either his goal or his child.

For such men, the only purpose of a woman is that she cleans up after him and makes sure that God does not conceive and produce what he accidentally shared with her - an idea, a dream, fear or a seed. Such a man expects that the woman will accept his seed, but, remaining in the role of a servant, will not conceive.

Even at the physical level, such men are happy to shift the care of contraception to women. But keep in mind that a woman who is forced to protect herself from your seed will certainly protect herself from your creative essence at all other levels of your relationship.

To understand all this, consider that as a man you produce life-giving seed on all levels, physical, emotional, and mental. So, by engaging in any activity, you are essentially creating something new every time. If you are involved in physical intercourse, you are fertilising a woman and the result of this activity will be a child. If you share your feelings with a woman, you are again fertilising her at this level. In other words, when you, being calm or upset, share your feelings with a woman, she will produce what she conceived from you.

Accordingly, if the feeling you exude, that is, the “seed”, is positive, the result of your actions will be the same, but if it is negative, the result will also be negative.
The same can be said of thoughts. Keep in mind that you have no right to blame a woman for her bad mood or pessimism, because she only produces what is conceived from you! If it gives the opposite answer to what you were trying to enter into it, then it must have been protected from your seed! In that case, you should figure out why she did it.

I try so hard to explain this to you because, as I said, men often forget that all forms of awareness are connected. And we can't afford to make the mistake of talking about all this just in relation to women. Due to the relativity of awareness, it happens that men are “fertilized” by other men on an emotional, sensual or mental level.

Of course, true fertilization of a man by a man is impossible, but in fact we very often encounter men who behave as if they are “overpregnant”! The results of this conception are often very real. This is especially true for employee-employer relationships, which are usually female-male relationships.

To understand this better, consider this example.

Andrew works for a person who constantly indulges in various kinds of negative emotions and thoughts. Andrew is a very conscientious worker, struggling to please his boss, but since he is not particularly confident, in a relationship with his boss, he always acts as a female.
Consider also that everything Andrew hears from his superior, he accepts with all his being. If the boss tells him to jump, Andrew won't ask how high he's going to jump, he'll just jump hard! But since the boss is a person with a negative orientation, Andrew can only “conceive” a negative from him. And when he tells Andrew that he is not doing well, Andrew becomes deeply depressed.

When the boss tells Andrew that things are getting worse, Andrew believes him and is gripped by anxiety. When his boss tells him he won’t get a Christmas award this year, Andrew immediately gets used to the idea that the reason is that he’s not serving the company well enough. To put it bluntly, the boss is essentially "fucking Andrew's brains," and Andrew is struggling to conceive his negativity, while being sure that this negativity is his own!

Accordingly, the next question you should ask yourself is:

"What in my life have I inadvertently conceived from other men?"

If you are honest with yourself, you do not have to go far for an answer - you just need to pay attention to your social conditioning. Are many of the ideas and beliefs you share really born out of your “seed”? How many monsters have you “produced” in your thoughts, feelings, and emotions — monsters you have conceived from others?

Remember in this regard, and your mother, as well as all the women who played the role of mother for you, because the mother in relation to her son is also male. What did you get from all these mothers?

Finally, find out how you really feel about yourself. Do you feel weak and weak? Exhausted? If so, why? Is it because you allow everyone to have you? If this is true, then keep in mind that the reason here is only that you do not claim your rights to power as a man, and therefore everything around you goes awry. Also, just because you don’t claim power as a man means that you are a woman in relation to the world around you, and therefore any Tom, Dick or Harry will try to “fuck” you!

In connection with all this, it should be borne in mind that, due to the relativity of awareness, it is not difficult to “fuck” a man. But no one can "fuck" a real man. There are a number of fools who have learned from their own bitter experience that neither the body of a thug, nor the hairy chest, nor the huge penis save from this fate! Physical data is great if only you have the masculinity that matches these male attributes! But to gain this masculinity, you need to work hard to assert your rights to the power of a man. Yes, we are born with a physical body, characteristic of the male being, but in order to become a real man, you need to fully realize your male potential.

A real man never seeks partnership at all costs, and therefore it is impossible to seduce him. A real man knows his goal in life, and therefore leads, indicates the direction and determines the means to achieve the goal.
Taking full responsibility for the creative act, a real man always initiates a reasonable cooperation with a woman, thanks to which she will produce only those forms of which he knows for sure that they will be for the benefit of his goal, and therefore will raise the life around him.
A man does this regardless of what kind of woman will be with him, because even when dealing with men who are female in relation to him, a real man recognizes their masculinity and will never “use” them. Instead, he will take the initiative in the sense that he will serve them as an example of a real man, thereby encouraging them to assert their own rights to power.

In addition, being a real man, he, following his goal, will point such men in the right direction, thus giving them the opportunity to focus on their own goals. Similarly, in determining the proper means, a real man will not trample on the masculinity of another man. Defining the means to achieve a goal means unleashing the male potential of ^, but in no way raping others in order to feel more masculine.

A real man treats with the same reverence the Great Woman, that is, the world around him. He will never allow himself to be bullied. He will always cooperate with her intelligently, which means that he will fertilize her with the seed only of those forms that will help him claim his rights to power as a man.

It is known that many right words are often uttered in a humorous way, and it is difficult to find a better example than the rude expression so often used by men - "we fucked it", in the sense that it was spoiled so much that it is no longer suitable. The only problem is that people very rarely pay attention to how deep truths they sometimes express. Do you want to be honest with yourself? If so, ask yourself a few questions:

What does my life look like? Is it successful and fruitful?

Is my wife happy and confident?

Will my children grow up to be happy and responsible adults?

What about my job? Is my business really thriving?

And me? Is everything good in my life or is everything “injured” in it?

Perhaps your life is just a little worse than you would like, or maybe it is completely “shit” in it — in any case, I am sure that you will be able to remember how you were advised, or even you yourself advised someone “not to suffer bullshit”. Now remember this advice. Man as a representative of the spirit is the initiator of any action, and every action is an act of creation - the creation of good or evil. Impotence, that is, a barren man, is not able to really act, he can only counteract, that is, persist in his stupidity! But to persist in stupidity is to repeat one’s stupidity over and over again, and reproduction is far from being the same as creation.

Therefore, you can either act, extracting from the void the creative power, as befits a real man, or "suffer bullshit" as the last nothingness, reproducing the "suckers" of other bastards! The choice is yours! So all men are "dogs"? A real man is a man in every way. Being the creator of "to the ends of the nails", he really including "a dog". But since he cannot be seduced, he and only he decides when, where and with which woman to commit the act of reasonable cooperation. But those males who did not dare to claim their rights to power, simply without hesitation, “milk” all who are not lazy, because their seed is suitable at best for reproduction!

Whichever way one approaches this question, it is unlikely that anyone will call the infertile male a “camel”. And those who allow themselves to be milked for the sake of reproduction, it is difficult to call the creator. He's nothing more than a carnal seed donor.

All this is true, but I would like to clarify another point that men sometimes understand too literally, resulting in a lot of misunderstandings. It is a statement that the initiator of the act is a man and that a real man cannot be seduced, since he does not seek partnership at all costs.

Realizing this statement literally, men often believe that it means that their wives should not be the initiators of any act, and they themselves as men should not be open to suggestions from other men. But if you remember everything you read in this book, especially how important it is for a man to be open to a woman and the world around him, you will immediately understand how stupid such an assumption is.

First of all, if you become a real man, then naturally include a woman in your space and your world. Such inclusion will be perceived as coming from you cordiality, as it really is. Further, since all living things respond positively to cordiality, both men and women will reach out to you. If we talk about your wife, then her attraction to you will take the form that she will feel the need to return your cordiality, but as a woman, she will be able to fulfill her desire in only one way - having conceived and nurtured your goal.

On a physical level, this means that your wife will always strive to be closer to you - that is, she will be open to your ideas, wanting to enter your world more fully, and for marriage in bed.

Thus, it only seems that the woman is the initiator of sexual intercourse, but in fact her excitement is explained only by the fact that you initiated your reasonable cooperation with her! In other words, your wife was excited only because you behaved like a real man, in all respects taking the initiative in your own hands.

The same is true on the emotional and mental levels. If you act like a real man, your wife will want to share feelings and thoughts with you. So if you happen to be extremely concerned, she will try to share her own feelings and thoughts with you, reminding you that here she is, next to you. But by doing so, she’s not trying to play a male role in any way — she’s just letting you know: she’s waiting for you to take her into your world.

The same principle works in relationships with other male beings. Being attracted by your heart of a real man, they will want to reciprocate, but since they are men themselves, the only way for them to answer is to offer you something of their own. Of course, this "something" can only be their creative ability, which means that these men will struggle to create something that contributes to the achievement of your goal. This will in no way be an attempt to "fuck" you, but only a gesture indicating a willingness to create, according to the initiative coming from you and the direction you indicated.

It is also clear from all this that men’s sexual problems are due solely to their inability to cooperate intelligently. Simply put, if your wife finds sex with you boring, it is only because you are “not a man enough” to excite her. And if you consider sex with her boring, then again because you are “not enough man” to be excited woman, or because you want to be not a real man, and a little boy; sex with your own mother, of course, will not give you any pleasure!

And yet I must frankly admit the fact that today many married couples have problems with sex life. A significant number of these problems stem not from the weakness of men, but rather from their reluctance to give the impression that they are imposing their will on their wife in any way. Such men are so eager to be good, kind, loving and attentive husbands that they become so gentlemen that they kill an ardent lover in themselves!

In most of these cases, problems with sex sooner or later arise for the sole reason that such men do not bring a woman a sense of confidence and security. Not wanting to encroach on the freedom of his wife, such a "completed gentleman" will inevitably refuse to "claim" his wife, and, consequently, to "absorb" her, that is, to include her in his world. But in doing so, he presents the woman with an idea that truly confuses her: she does not know how she should understand the initiative coming from her husband. Does it belong to him or not? Is it part of his life? Does he really want to let her into his life or only occasionally use it to satisfy his sexual needs?

Paradoxically, a woman needs to be sure that she is “demanded” by her husband and that she is thus the only woman with whom he wants to share his life. But being in demand, she physically needs proof of his belonging, that she is not an old suitcase with which he is forced to carry, and his “second half”, which he loves and cares about as himself. In this respect, any real woman wants or, more precisely, expects that a man will “take” her! But I am not in any way in favor of rape! I am talking about the fact that the initiator of the act should be a man and that it is he who should include a woman in his life, his world and his being.

A real man will never get bored of the unknown, and when he explores it, each woman serves him as a magnificent reflection of his own inner female. This is especially true for the woman with whom he decided to share all of himself, meaning sexual intercourse.

In the same way, every woman is filled with the desire to conceive and bring to light the goal of a real man, since in the innermost depths of her being lies the knowledge that only by becoming part of the life, peace and goal of a man, her fate will take place as the spirit of masculinity commands. Therefore, a woman feels completely satisfied when a man “takes” her physically, emotionally and mentally, because in this way he lets her know that she is a single whole with him and that he needs her just as she needs him.

It will be easier if we look at it in the following way. If you want to take something with your right hand, you just do it! Does this mean that you are dictating your will to your right hand? And if you decide to masturbate, does this mean that you commit sexual violence against yourself?
However, if I ask you to take something for me and you agree, it will mean that you, as an adult, have consciously agreed to do something for me.

If I order you to do something, you will not want to obey me, but I will still force you to do it, then I will really be guilty of violence, even if not sexual.

What I mean by this is that if there is perfect devotion between a man and a woman — or rather between a man and a wife — a woman is as much a part of a man as his own body. So, a real man cannot be blamed for violence against his own wife for the simple reason that his wife is his right hand, his everything! This does not mean that a real woman has no rights. This means only that a real woman has no other desires than to be fully and unconditionally “taken” into life, the world and the being of a man, so that she can conceive, produce and nurture his goal. She craves this not because she is a carpet for wiping her feet, but because she knows that a man carries a life-giving seed in himself, and therefore is endowed with a creative force, without which she cannot produce her own destiny in this life.

Part Three. Know yourself as a man.

Chapter Fifteen. Role models

The sound on our parents’ knees will stay with us for a long time.

In previous chapters, we have tried to get an idea of what it really means to be a man and why so many members of this sex do not take full advantage of their male capabilities. Now that something has become clear, we are halfway to success. Only by noticing your mistakes can you begin to correct them, change your way of life and, by doing this, succeed.

We have already touched on the topic of self-discipline; remember that everything that we said above can be achieved only with its help. So let's look at this issue in more detail.
We learn self-discipline mainly in two ways.

First, we learn the basics of discipline, presented in the form of what might be called the core values of life, from our mothers.

Second, we learn the ability to distinguish from our fathers.
By “ability to distinguish” I mean the ability to take from life what is useful and important, or, in other words, the ability to choose between what is creative and what is destructive.
You can become disciplined at any stage of life, but it is best to get this knowledge in childhood, since, generally speaking, only what we learned in childhood remains and becomes our second nature. Of course, this is why it is so difficult to get rid of everyday habits, because if you have not mastered self-discipline in childhood, in adulthood it is not so easy to do it.

So, we mostly learn from our parents, not so much from their words, but from the examples they give us. All children base their behavior on parental examples because they perceive them as role models. And here three main factors come into play: respect for the mother, the heroic image of the father; the third is the warmth and care received from both parents.

Let’s look at these three factors closer.

The child learns the basic values of life from the mother. At the heart of these values is always a respectful attitude: to food, clothing, money, animals, friends, home, cleanliness, discipline as such, in short - a respectful attitude to life. What the child takes from the mother as core values obviously depends on how respectful the mother is to everything around her, and also how respectful the child is to the mother. Here it is important to remember that the word "to read" means "to pay attention", that is, that the world is not what it seems at first glance, and therefore you can not allow yourself to evaluate things in appearance, as well as take everything on faith.

As for the father, he plays a completely different role in the life of the child. After all, Dad is at work all day, and when he comes home, he is seen as the breadwinner of the family and a big, brave and strong defender. Therefore, each child bows to the heroic image of his father, and for him the most exciting event of the day is when dad comes home from work. In addition, the father always has the answer to any question, he always solves disputes so that everyone is satisfied, and this creates an image of the wisest in the family.

That is why the ability to distinguish children is mainly learned from fathers, of course, if the father is a real man. We don’t mean a man who comes home late at night drunk and beats his wife before raping her. We are talking about an ordinary man who strives to be a good husband and father.

But even if the mother is a rag and the father is a drunkard, we, as children, learn everything we need, using them as role models, regardless of whether they are positive or negative. It doesn’t matter if we learn to do something or not to do it.

In any case, we learn, and therefore our parents are always as they should be, no matter what we think about them. But for the sake of simplicity, let’s look only at ordinary parents.

The main thing is to remember that the ability to distinguish, which we learn from the fathers, is always based on the basic values learned from the mother. This is important because a man can learn to cope with life’s difficulties only thanks to the ability to distinguish between what is important and what is not.

In principle, all that self-discipline comes down to is a man’s knowledge of the basic values of life, his ability to choose between many values.

But in order to learn these two components of self-discipline, the child needs to grow up in a house where he can get full warmth and care. If he is not surrounded by love, then he will not develop a respectful attitude towards any of the parents. In this case, the child will also use parents as role models, but not in a positive, but in a negative sense.

This means that, growing up, the child will behave in accordance with his perception of the actions of parents in relation to him.

Chapter sixteen. The Power Mother

Speaking of our parents, it should be borne in mind that they are not at all what they seem at first glance. Thus, power women can be divided into two main categories. The first of these are those who are usually called “boy-babes” — women who have no doubt that they are “the most important”. The second category is women, at first glance soft and malleable, but in fact have a steel backbone. Their softness and malleability is nothing more than a behavior that allows them to control others, but if you even glance a little under this shell, you will see a woman, in all respects hard as steel. I’m not saying that all soft and obedient women are actually powerful “screws.” Some of them are real rags, simply too weak to fight for their rights. In such cases, women are ruled by a great power of self-hatred, leading them to believe that they do not deserve a better fate.

As a rule, the behavior of a boy growing up in a family with an authoritative mother eventually acquires three very characteristic features. This is, firstly, uncertainty, secondly, a tendency to manipulate other people and laziness, and thirdly, a painful feeling of depression of their creativity. Let us dwell on each of these features in more detail.

A man who lacks confidence does not believe in himself. And while that doesn’t stop him from being a great employee, it’s sometimes painful to watch him emphasize not his own pros, but the value of what he has to offer. You hear men like that say, "What's the big deal about me being a man? See what I can do.” "I may not be a hero, but I'm a great lawyer." "I certainly don't look like God, but I'm a great lover." “I may not be the best husband and father, but I bring so much money into the house that my family is not lacking in anything.”

Such a man never sees himself as a participant in equal relations, since it never occurs to him that he is valuable in himself. He sees his significance only in terms of the product he can offer, and therefore focuses on its production at the cost of everything else. If, for example, such a product is money, material support for the family, then such a man will go to work with his head in order to earn more and more.

As a result, the cases will take him completely, and the fact that his family members want to spend time with him not like a walking checkbook will not even come to mind.

Being not confident enough, such a man, in addition, is often inclined to become in a protective position. Since he is always afraid that the product he offers is not good enough, he takes any criticism, even a positive one, seriously. So if you tell a man that his view of things is not the only one possible, he will immediately start to defend himself, and if you give him a compliment, he will mark it as inappropriate.

Being afraid to go beyond the things that work for him at the moment, even if they are reduced to the necessary minimum, such a man is so firmly locked in his own world that he is usually very patterned in his thinking. Accordingly, he is in no way inclined to adventures, professing the slogan "Better a tit in hand than a crane in the sky."

Moreover, not believing in his own significance, such a man often hides behind a woman's skirt, and not because he is certainly weak or cowardly, but simply not considering himself entitled to ask for something for himself. And if, say, he is returned from the workshop not repaired properly car, he may well send there to complain to his wife. They say that, unlike his wife, he does not have his own significance, and therefore in the workshop they are more likely to listen to her than to him. However, he can go to the workshop himself, but instead of defending his rights, he is likely to say that his wife is dissatisfied with the work!

The second of these traits of behavior, that is, manipulation and laziness, is a consequence of the first. Not believing in himself, such a man considers himself unable to make differences in the world around him. Accordingly, for him everything is always the mistakes of someone else, and since he is not able to see his own significance, he does not realize his responsibility for what is happening in his life. Convinced that he is dependent in everything on the mercy of all and everything — not because he considers himself a victim, but again not aware of his significance — he always finds a way to shove the responsibility on the other. So if, say, the project fails, it will be you, not him. But if it suddenly turns out to be successful, then again thanks to your experience and skills!

Such modesty, meanwhile, is a double-edged sword, for, not being able to properly believe in himself, such a person often suffers from all sorts of derogatory attitudes towards himself. For example, he often feels completely worthless, then and then saying to himself: “This is beyond my power. Another time he won't find a place for himself - "I don't know what to do." In a very extreme case, he has his trump card: "I do not understand what they want from me, so how will I act?" As a result, such a person is often inclined to manipulate other people, forcing them to do for him what he thinks he can not do himself, while, of course, trying to pretend that he is just lazy!

The third feature of behavior, suppressed creativity, most often manifests itself in the form of lack of imagination, accompanied by an increased desire for logic. Not being inclined to adventures and afraid of change, such a person wants the army order to reign always and in everything. And again, since he always determines his importance by comparing his behavior with the behavior of others, it can be extremely difficult for him to go beyond what he considers to be the generally accepted norm. How can he determine if he is a winner? Therefore, from the point of view of such a person, it is much safer to comply with the norm, which, among other things, entails that practicality is not its distinctive feature, because in his opinion, in order to succeed, you need to do everything as it was done from time immemorial, regardless of whether it is practical or not. Accordingly, such a person very rarely laughs to a colic in his stomach, because for him life is a serious thing and there is nothing to laugh about here!

In this chapter, for the sake of simplicity of understanding, I dwelled only on the worst possible scenarios. Of course, all people are different, which means that there are no two people who will behave the same in the same situation and treat life the same way. Note, moreover, that although I have enumerated all the characteristics of the behavior of a powerful mother, all mothers are also individual and unique in their own way. Therefore, you can not claim that your mother certainly has all the qualities described above. Well, since you are not the same as your mother, some of them, of course, may not be inherent to you. But still, the tendency to these features will always be peculiar to you, and even if they have not yet appeared, they may well manifest later.

In addition, it should be borne in mind that none of us likes to flaunt our negative sides. Over time, we learn to mask these traits so that they seem quite normal and acceptable, or even something completely different from what they really are. But if you are willing to be honest with yourself, you will be able to see the true background of all the traits of your character.

I paid special attention to power mothers, because now most women are. After all, most men, both in the past and now, are still little boys. But still, we should also briefly dwell on the case of a really weak mother-trick and consider its impact on her sons.

A man who grew up with a rag mother is easy to distinguish. Usually it is a gloomy, gloomy type, quietly sitting in the corner. Never risking to be in the spotlight, always closed, it is very different from the bulk of men. If he happens to be involved in the conversation about sex, he shows naked aggression, quite seasoned with a kind of sarcastic humor bordering on cynicism. Looking into the eyes of such a person, you see in them an undisguised distrust or emptiness, like in the windows of a house where light burns, but there is no one inside!

Constantly feeling victimized and persecuted, such a person is irritated when he is paid attention, and terribly upset when he is not paid attention. Being in this respect a paradox even for himself, he is always at odds with himself, as well as with everyone and everything. Never having received satisfaction from anything, he also never knows what he wants and what he is looking for. As a result, in his life, he purposelessly swims with the flow or drags a miserable existence, filled with the difficulties created by himself, trying to show the world how unfair he is to him.

But the saddest thing is that no one is happy to meet with such an embodiment of self-torture, and therefore people are trying to stay away from it. Which, of course, only strengthens the conviction of such a person that no one loves and can not love him.

Being almost completely devoid of the image of himself, such a person leads a life full of experiences. For him, life is not a bright adventure, but a real torment, and anyone who is not worthy of respect, and even more so respect, is certainly a son of a bitch!

Chapter seventeen. Weak father

A weak father is a man who does not believe in his own masculinity. As a result, it turns out to be much easier for him to live, hiding behind his wife's skirt, he often applies to the bottle and calls the fresh wind a hurricane. Being weak, such a man is not inclined to stand up for himself simply because he is not brave enough for such a decisive act. But you should not think that if your mother was powerful, then your father is necessarily weak. Being weak is not really the same as pretending to be weak; most men like to resort to it, because this role gives them the opportunity to manipulate others.

I want to emphasize this point, because despite the fact that the world at all times was full of weak men, few of them were really weak.

Someone else should be touched properly - and he turns into a real beast! But whether a man is really weak or only pretending, this affects his sons in the same way.
The son of a weak or pretending weak father will eventually follow three characteristic patterns of behavior. Their distinctive features are, firstly, dissatisfaction with life, secondly, general disappointment, and thirdly, suppressed sexuality.

The feeling of dissatisfaction manifests itself primarily in the form of general apathy, often in the form of feelings of helplessness and defeatist moods. Accordingly, such a man will look at what is happening around him, and even with him, and only shrug his shoulders: “What’s the point of trying to change this? I don’t want to change the world, so I don’t want to try.” Taking the position that “none of my actions will change anything”, they are also very inclined to postpone things from day to day, because if the actions do not change anything, then there is nowhere to rush.

Such men, moreover, often lack self-respect in the conventional sense of the word. Therefore, they can afford stale linen and dirty socks, not covered bed, a mountain of empty beer bottles near the trash can, overflowing with cigarette butts ash, obscene expressions and swallowed on the go sandwiches. Due to lack of self-respect, they are also not all right with honor, so it is not unusual for them to lie, use someone else's property, or even "borrow" it without asking! At the same time, they are always ready to complain about the fact that they are not respected and not given their due, and trying to achieve the desired recognition, they love to resort to intrigue and manipulation, not always realizing the background of their behavior.

The feeling of disappointment usually manifests itself in the form of inactivity and excessive caution. It is about such people that they say that they “burned on milk, blow on water”. In every possible effort to avoid possible emotional damage, such men, as a rule, are quite soulless, and therefore subconsciously demand iron resistance both from themselves and from others regardless of gender.

Being hard-hearted, such men are also alien to loyalty, but they like to hide it under the guise of such a cool guy - "Don't worry about me! The consequence of this "coolness" is the following position: "Leave me! I want to rest. So will you not get out now?" At the same time, when communicating, such men, striving for a coveted confession, often resort to quite rude humor, shamelessly mocking the interlocutor, and especially his failures!

The third feature, that is, repressed sexuality, is most characteristically manifested in the inability to creative approach. This inability takes a variety of forms - from having sex always in the same position to constant car trips on Saturday evening. New to such a man does not come to mind, and coming, it seems something suspicious, if not too difficult. Often he makes up for this lack of enthusiasm for any aggressive sport, such as rugby, boxing or wrestling. And the "cooler" his hobby, the more masculine he feels, and the energy expended in this way at least partially mitigates the inner disorder that arises from his inability to create.

A man suffering from feelings of depressed sexuality, as a rule, is also obsessed with sex, up to sexual indiscretion and, frankly, increased interest in pornography and sexual perversion. Absolutely not feeling in himself the ability to create, he can properly express himself only in what is connected with sexual intercourse, despite the fact that most of the time he tends to like and hide his lust! Knowing in his heart that he needs to release his suppressed creative ability, and not knowing that for this he needs to use his own masculinity, such a man can easily take this desire for sexual interest in men. Such a mistake can manifest itself in a variety of ways, from direct homosexual experiments to bisexuality and hidden homosexuality.

We don’t need to dwell on the influence of a strong father, because if your father was strong, he would be a real man, and your mother would then be a real woman, and you would not feel the need to read this book now. Remember what I said in the previous chapter: There are no two men and no two fathers alike. Each person, as well as his behavior, is unique, and each boy is peculiar to react in his own way to the behavior of his father. Therefore, even siblings who had the same father and mother and were brought up in the same family can grow into individuals with different characters, and this is what happens in reality. Do not forget that the characteristics we are considering are potencies common to all people, and these potencies can manifest themselves at any stage of life and take a variety of forms.

Chapter Eighteen. The Hunt for Power

Now that we have a better understanding of who and what you are in terms of patterns of your behavior, we can figure out how you, a man, should build your relationships with the world around you.

Evolution has arranged everything in such a way that a man is a hunter. But what exactly is meant here by "hunting"? Simply put, it is about acquiring knowledge through personal experience, and as we have already noted, knowledge is a force - a force that can be used to fulfill its purpose and to gain even more power. For more clarity, let’s look at what this means practically.

In pursuit of strength, a man makes efforts in five areas, with a dual purpose in mind. First, he seeks to gain strength through his inner world, and secondly, to gain freedom in terms of the external world, located outside his home and personal relationships.

Pursuing strength in the inner world, a man acquires knowledge in five main areas of his efforts. It is sobriety, action, feeling, cordiality and intention.

Sobriety is the ability to evaluate any life situation according to its real significance. This ability is often called clarity of thought, and it is vital because one cannot take any action without being determined about one's circumstances and values.

Naturally, this ability implies the need to be ruthless in the sense that you need to put aside your emotions and not allow them to cloud the goal.
Sobriety does not mean heartlessness, but it implies the need to be honest and objective, even if the truth turns out to be bitter. From this point of view, sobriety can be understood as a quality of awareness, which is based mainly on solid knowledge, and it should be noted that of all the changes we make, only those are valuable in the commission of which we were characterized by sobriety.

The word action speaks for itself, but it should be borne in mind that it means the implementation of such decisions that move us forward in our search for happiness and the achievement of their goal. It is not about activities like gym training, home cleaning or dancing. It is the action that generates significant changes in our lives that is important. And, of course, the action has nothing to do with the reaction, which means that simply repeatedly committing the same stupidity is not actually an action.

Feeling, as we know, is “feeling with the gut,” that is, intuition. It is the ability to feel free in all areas of life, not to be limited by logical assumptions. By its very nature, feelings must necessarily be supported by subsequent experience. When dealing with feeling, we are dealing with the heart, and this is the only way to "feel your way in the darkness of the unknown."

Heartfulness is the quality of a person that determines his tendency to grow.

It makes him worry about what he, like any living creature, needs to grow, bear fruit, and thrive.

Intention, on the other hand, is the ability to focus on what is most important to you in life, whether it’s growing up in a garden, cultivating a dream of your own home, or cultivating the belief that you will successfully claim your rights to power as a real man.

In other words, cultivation is more about physically courting someone or something (including yourself), intention means that you focus on what you want, and therefore do everything in your power to fulfill your desire. With the help of the power acquired through hunting in his inner world, a man also hunts in the outer world, where he again finds himself involved in five areas of activity, namely education, politics, healing, religion and science. The efforts made in all these spheres give both knowledge applicable to the larger whole and knowledge of the larger whole, and it is easy to see how they lead to freedom.

But in order to avoid biases and superficial evaluations, let’s briefly consider each of them separately.
However, we should have noted before that there is one general principle at the heart of them all. Its essence is that the hunt for power in both the internal and external world can be successful only if the hunter penetrates into the vital interconnections and supports them. Life is one, and we are all its interconnected and interacting elements. Life is nothing more than a huge system of relationships.

Therefore, our well-being, happiness and success are completely dependent, firstly, on our ability to participate in these relationships, and secondly, on the world around us.

But people in their thinking and approach to life have become so individualistic that they have ceased to have any meaningful contact with themselves and other people, so that in their current impotence and the confusion that reigns in today's world, there is nothing surprising.

I can't use a computer if I don't get to it with knowledge. I will not be able to do business with you unless I have the opportunity to contact you on business matters. If you can’t make contact with your wife, your marriage will fail. But if I can't make contact with my right hand, it means that my right hand's nervous system is broken and I can't use that hand.

Life is exactly the same, and the “nervous system” that allows us to make contact with it is our knowledge of relationships. Without such knowledge, we are paralyzed, powerless, and will never find any freedom.

The fact that education leads to freedom is quite obvious, because if we had no education, we could not in any way be truly free, could not be the master of ourselves. However, education should not be understood solely as the teaching of an academic plan. The latter is part of education, but true education means the ability to manage our lives and cope with the challenges that it forces us to go through. The only way to get this kind of education is to gain confidence that we are wisely using all the “lessons” we receive in life, that is, we are constantly and respectfully studying our lives. After all, without such education, we will eventually turn into beggars, and, consequently, we will lose the opportunity to choose.

Politics is more or less understandable, because it is aimed primarily at developing strategies that allow you to manipulate force. In other words, we define what we want and then decide how best to interact with other people in order to achieve our goal. This may not be more difficult than offering several construction firms to charge a price for building a bridge around your home and letting them know that you intend to choose the best contractor from them. This may require no more subtle move than to tell the school principal that you would be happy to donate some money to the school for a new sports ground, but only on the condition that the math teacher additionally engages with your son, thereby saving you the funds necessary to pay for a private tutor. This can be as difficult as participating in a nature campaign to get the support of the people of the area, without which you will not be able to carry out the planned construction. But the background of all such tricks is a policy that gives freedom to the embodiment of their own desires.

Healing implies freedom from ailments in the broad sense of the word - from ailments caused by a kind of imbalance. That is, in this sense, healing also includes the care of a man about the relationship between people, regardless of what kind of relationship it is. So, if his child has difficulties with mathematics, the man begins to care about the relationship of his son with the teacher, as well as his own relationship with the teacher of his son and his school. Similarly, if builders ask too much, he begins to pay special attention to his relationship with the construction industry. But in both cases, these relationships will interest him in terms of the best way to overcome ailments.

Religion is not what it seems at first glance. By religion I mean religion in the true sense of the word, which has nothing to do with the male desire for separateness based on prejudice. By religion I mean the inherent desire of a person to understand himself in connection with the meaning and purpose of life. Thus, it turns out to be largely connected with building self-awareness in relation to life, since this is the true meaning of religion - the restoration of connection with your "I". In practice, this means getting rid of social conditioning and gaining freedom.

The concept of science speaks for itself, in the sense that its only purpose is to improve the quality of our lives by obtaining information that everyone can use to gain freedom with the help of various industrial and educational technologies.

Having understood the dual approach of a man to the hunt for power, we will now understand what it looks like in practice, paying special attention to the concept of hunting for power in the world in the broad sense of the word.

Suppose Sean concludes that his life lacks sobriety. Realizing this, he immediately turns inward to determine which of his decisions turned out to be wrong. He will study his behavior, trying to see what caused the confusion and lack of clarity. In this case, of course, we are dealing with the hunt for power exclusively within the framework of Sean’s inner world.
But if Sean’s wife, Mary, feels that her son has a lack of clarity about math assignments, she will share her concerns with Sean, and now they will both have to pay attention to the outside world. Their efforts will obviously be focused on education, but in order to get the sobriety needed to help their son, they will begin by asking whether the education system that their son follows is achieving his goal. If they feel that it is not so, Sean and Mary should turn inward to find out what, in their opinion, is wrong in this system and how best to help their son.

These examples show that whether a man is hunting for power inside or outside, he and his woman always have to return to their feelings, that is, to their inner world. This, of course, is the true meaning of the study of the unknown. However, after a man and a woman turn inward, their future course of action is completely different, and it is precisely the fact that people do not understand and do not take into account this difference that often causes violent disagreements between the sexes.

The approach of a real woman is to use her efforts in the external world only to come into contact with those internal aspects of herself that she would not otherwise encounter. Thus, turning to the heart, a woman always deals exclusively with her inner world, even when she interacts with the outside world. The job of a male hunter is to hunt for power in the outside world. Therefore, all his inner hunting is aimed at more successful hunting in the outside world, and this is the difference, because a woman, of course, hunts in the outside world only in order to be a more successful hunter inside.

Returning to the example of Sean and Mary, we see that Mary, finding the necessary sobriety and understanding in such a way, where the source of her son’s problems with mathematics, shares his discovery with Sean, but then shifts the worries of her solution to him. It’s not her business to deal with the school principal. Instead, she will tell her husband the conclusions she has reached and step aside, leaving him as a man to decide what actions to take.

This is how it should be, because dealing with the world in the broadest sense of the word is the care of a man. And since he is better prepared for this, Mary, if she does not intend to “put on pants” and take on the role of a hunter, must from now on leave the problem to him.

To understand this even better, consider the same example, but slightly under a different needle.

Suppose Sean expresses his concern to Mary about his son's school grades. Trying to understand the essence of the issue, Sean initiates a reasonable cooperation with Mary. To do this, he uses his feelings, combining them with the knowledge of what is happening on the home front, which she has. So Sean will start by asking Mary how she feels about the problem, and also asking her a few questions about Johnny. Are Johnny's grades worse than usual? Are all his marks equally bad? Is Johnny always doing his homework, and if so, how conscientiously? Does Johnny complain about his schoolwork? And so on and so forth. But by asking all these questions, Sean uses Mary's knowledge of what's going on at home to help both of them gain clarity about their son's school grades.

If, as a result of considering all these possibilities, Mary comes to the conclusion that the source of the problem is not Johnny himself, she will express her opinion to Sean and they will begin to look for an answer in the outside world. And if it turns out from the conversation with her son that the source of the problem is in school, Mary as a woman will again turn to her inner world to find possible solutions to the problem there. When Mary arrives at something specific, she will again share her findings with Sean. He, like a real man, will immediately go in search of answers to the school and start by talking with either Johnny's teachers or the school principal.

In this regard, we, in order to avoid false judgments, should mention 'another difference between a man and a woman. It consists in the fact that men and women express themselves in different ways, and comes down to the fact that, even if a woman is able to understand the problem, she often can not accurately define or formulate its essence - and not because she is stupid or inept, but only for the simple reason that in her desire for sobriety, a real woman relies much more on intuition than on reason.

So it wouldn’t be surprising if Mary simply told Sean that she was sure the problem was how Johnny was being taught in school, or that she felt Johnny was out of luck with the teacher, or that he wasn’t finding a common language with the teacher. A woman is usually quite sure that she has a distinct sense of the source of the problem, but in most cases she is not able to express this feeling more clearly than Mary in our example.

Accordingly, a woman most often simply tells a man about her various sensations, giving him to determine how to translate these sensations into practical language. This is especially true when the case, as in our example, concerns the outside world. So if Mary just feels like Johnny isn’t doing homework properly, she doesn’t need to think about it. In the matter of raising Johnny and solving his problems with homework, she follows her feelings, since both are quite relevant to her inner world.
But if the problem goes beyond her world, Mary only communicates her feelings to Sean and allows him to think about how best to manage his son's education in the "out there" world. It is extremely important for men to keep this point in mind, since they often think that if a woman knows that something needs to be done, she should act accordingly.

However, a real woman takes the action she needs only within her heart and her world. The outside world is the hunting ground of a man, and she will leave this area to him. This is what she should do, because otherwise she will take on the male role, which means that she will take away from a man his authority and act unfairly towards herself.

Chapter Nineteen. A man's view of relationships

In order to put into practice the concepts outlined in the previous chapter, it is important for us to understand their true meaning. In this respect, we have already said that life is nothing more than a system of relationships. But in order to understand what these relationships really are and what should be their approach, let’s look deeper into this issue.

Returning to the five areas of effort, we see that within his personal world, a man hunts for strength in terms of various aspects of strength — sobriety, action, feeling, cordiality and intention. In speaking of these five aspects, it is important to remember that power is knowledge gained through experience, and all experience arises as a result of action. Keep in mind, however, that even the renunciation of an action is an action, and therefore brings knowledge. But since the initiator of all action is man, from his point of view, the hunt for power is largely the acquisition of experience through action, or, as in the latter case, not-doing.

Accordingly, a man hunts for sobriety, or clarity, initiating the act of conversation. This, however, should not be taken too literally. The real reason for engaging the other person in a conversation is to be able to listen and learn, not to talk like an idiot, or to make a fuss just because you want to be listened to. Meaningless chatter, as well as the desire to prove your point at all costs, will not help you to gain clarity on any issue.

In addition, a real man listens to the unsaid no less carefully than to the spoken words. In other words, whenever people try to avoid talking about a certain topic or feel like they are near a silent man, they have a good reason.

Sobriety is thus closely related to the art of listening, and in this respect initiating conversation as a means of extracting information can be as obvious a move as selective speech, and as subtle as silence.
The action of a man focuses primarily on his responsibilities as a provider. Again, this should not be taken literally. Yes, a man provides food and money, but in addition, he provides initiative, direction and proper method. Here again, we see how important it is for a man to learn to act, not react, since all his action must be based on the ability to distinguish between what supports life and what does not. All his decisions and actions should be aimed at improving the quality of life and promoting the evolution of awareness.

Feeling is the art of entering the unknown. Learning to listen to his intuition, a man, like a woman, listens to his heart to use the irrational knowledge generated by his interaction with the unknown. Here it is important to remember that the unknown is exactly that - it is not known. In the case of the unknown, reason is useless. There is only one way to deal with him - feeling his way in the darkness with the help of intuition. But since a woman in one way or another follows the initiative of a man, it is extremely important for the latter to initiate the act of opening the heart. If instead he focuses on the mind, the woman, following his initiative, will listen less to his heart, trying to behave more rationally and logically.

Heartfulness is the art of nurturing and from a man’s point of view is an act of initiation, courtship and marriage. This view has been so distorted that today it is difficult to understand, if understood at all! The real implication here is that cultivation for a man is his ability to use his knowledge of intelligent cooperation for the purpose of fertilization.

To understand this, consider that it is impossible to cultivate what you do not have.

If you want to grow a garden, you must first have this garden. If you want to raise a child, you need to give birth to a child first. If you want to cultivate hope, you must first have that hope. And if you want to cultivate your goal, you need to first find out what this goal is.

But for a man to start a garden means that he must sow the necessary seeds. To give birth to a child means that he has to impregnate his wife. Getting hope for him means that he must fertilize his inner female with the seed of hope. And to know your goal is to “fertilize” the world around it through reasonable cooperation, so that this goal can be born, that is, become clear.

Since a man does not have a uterus, he can produce anything only through reasonable cooperation, that is, by fertilizing a woman, whether it is his wife, his inner female or the great female - the world around him, the soil in his garden, his business, hope, dreams, in short, his consciousness of purpose.

Thus, cultivation for a man does not end with fertilization, but represents a constant dedication to his efforts, his goal, his life and, ultimately, to the world and life as such. Accordingly, when a real man decides to raise something or someone, he devotes himself not only to the goals of fertilization, but to life. Of course, this is a huge responsibility, and since it falls entirely on his shoulders, it is the man who initiates the act of courtship and marriage.

Of course, and this should not be understood quite literally, because as you should understand, a real man takes care of his garden, his hope and his consciousness of the goal in the same way as for his future wife. And having once dedicated himself to this garden, this hope, this goal and this woman, he marries all of them for the rest of his life!

From the above, it is easy to see what intention means for a man to initiate sexual intercourse for the purpose of creation. But here it is important to bear in mind that every real action is a sexual act in the sense that it is crowned by creation, while somehow, which is just a reaction, has as its result reproduction, that is, the multiplication of the already existing.

This principle is also true for the joint activities of two men, because despite the fact that one man can not fertilize the other, they can inspire each other through reasonable cooperation. Such inspiration is essentially a "conception" or, more precisely, a mutual awakening of the male desire for creativity, in which each fertilizes his inner female. This is exactly what we can see from the Wright brothers who worked together to create the airplane.

Thus, in collaboration with a woman, the intention for a man is essentially the desire to fertilize his personal goal as a creator. When it comes to cooperation with another man, his intention is inspiration in the true sense of the word, that is, the initiation of sexual intercourse within the process of life, so that from the point of view of a larger whole, he becomes in all respects a co-creator, fertilizing the womb of the unknown.

A little deeper into this question, you can see behind him the most important truth that intention and masculinity are, in fact, identical forces. I can’t say much more in a book like this. In due time I will explain it in more detail, it just makes no sense to communicate information that an ordinary person in his life will not be able to effectively use. Humanity is still very, very far from being able to comprehend all the mysteries of gender, which means that concepts such as the hermaphrodite nature of a man, the relationship of emptiness with his edges, self-fertilization, are the keys to such a creation that an ordinary person at the moment can not even approximately understand what not to use.

And since creation and destruction are two sides of the same coin, and modern humanity is prone to aimless destruction, I should be prudent and not disclose these keys for the time being.

So I will limit myself to saying that by hunting for power within the framework of one’s inner world, one becomes the product of one’s intention. For those who understand, a male creature becomes a man, extracting power from the void. We see a faint reflection of this great mystery in the development of the physical body, for as soon as a boy acquires the ability to ejaculate, his body begins to turn into the body of an adult. This happens in three main directions.

First, his muscles begin to develop, secondly, his voice breaks, and thirdly, his testicles drop. The reason for this threefold change is:

First, at the physical level, the young man begins to build up the strength and muscles he needs to act.

Second, his voice resonates with the vibrations of the earth, that is, he can now voice his purpose in the act of creation.

Thirdly, the young man acquires the ability to create for the sole reason that the power of emptiness becomes available to him, in other words, the power of emptiness is now released and can be extracted - in the same way his testicles, falling, are "released for use" and begin to produce seminal fluid.

It is also worth noting that the height of the voice of a man who has reached full development as a result of proper breathing and training corresponds to the frequency at which a man draws strength from the void, and, therefore, this height determines the quality of his creations.

So you might not be surprised to know that the mystery of both creation and destruction lies in a man’s ability to modulate the pitch of his voice — physically, emotionally, and mentally. The frequency of vibrations of our physical planet corresponds to the note fa, which means that a man becomes a man precisely because he acquires the ability to harmonize the height of his voice with the tone of fa major and is imbued with the intention to create in the name of evolution. From that moment on, his “seed” becomes fruitful, and all his actions correspond to the tone of F major, since this is the highest form of reasonable cooperation on our planet.

This provides an extremely valuable tool for those who are able to understand, especially in the fields of education and healing. But despite the value of this information, in order to become a real man, you do not need to dwell on them. Just as a duckling instinctively enters the water and swims, a male creature “enters” into masculinity and becomes a real man, simply changing the “height of his voice”. Only his vision of the world holds him back. So, as they would say in a movie, "Just lower your voice, man. Just "poise" him!" Do you understand the idea?

Listen to your speech and to the world around you. You already know everything you need to know at the moment, and continuously receive the necessary instructions. When a real man hunts outside for the power that gives freedom, he sees education in the broadest sense of the word as the art of remembering. It includes the need not only to remember, but also to connect all our life experience into one meaningful whole, which can rightly be called knowledge, or power. In this regard, remembering is absolutely necessary for gaining sobriety, since it is the basis of male veneration, that is, the ability to pay attention to your whole world and your whole life.

Politics is closely related to what I usually call the art of stalking, whether it’s about stalking someone else or myself. By stalking, of course, I understand manipulation, but stalking should be distinguished from simple manipulation. Simple manipulation is an action performed only for your own benefit and for the sake of goals limited by your ego, while stalking is an action performed in a way that can benefit both you and your opponent.

Stalking also aims to benefit you, but not at the expense of other people, though often at the expense of their behavior. So, going back to the examples that we gave when we were talking about politics, if you threaten builders in any way to charge you a lower price, you will manipulate them for your own limited benefit, and not necessarily to their benefit. But if you stalk the headmaster to figure out why Johnny's messed up with math, with allusions to a cash donation instead of hiring a tutor, you have a good chance that the headmaster will get to the bottom of the matter. In this case, you will most likely win Johnny, and the school principal will receive his donation! In this example, the principal’s stalking was done in such a way that everyone benefited, even the math teacher, because when the principal asks why Johnny is not good at math, he will have the opportunity to improve his teaching methods. From English, stalking is "tracking." Perev

As an example of stalking itself, consider what constitutes a reaction as the opposite of an action.

If you find that, despite all your efforts, you are falling into the role of a little boy, you, of course, need to pay very close attention to your behavior. By doing so, you get a chance to soon come to the realization that the problem is that you continue to react out of habit instead of acting in such a way as to achieve the desired results.

To abandon this line of behavior, you will need to learn to be detached enough to consider a situation simply as a witness. Only in this way will you gain sufficient objectivity that will allow you to see what your patterns of behavior really are, to abandon your habitual reactions and to act every time differently.

This is what is meant by stalking oneself.

From the point of view of human relationships, healing is the art of erasing personal history. By personal history, I mean the one you think you are and are constantly trying to demonstrate to others. In other words, your personal story is your image of yourself in every possible way. But if you can’t change your self-image, you’ll never be free to be anything other than your behavior! And this in turn means that you will never come into contact with the present self, which goes beyond all the behavior that is generated by social conditioning. Therefore, healing should be understood in the sense of self-healing by changing your image of yourself.

Religion, as we have already found out, is the art of approaching one’s true self in the context of the world in a broad sense. Religion thus occupies a key place in all possible relationships and in this respect is directly related to what we can rightly call the art of dreams. The dream, as we understand it here, is undoubtedly an act of nurturing, whether it’s a dream of your life goal or a dream of success in math for Johnny. The basis of all these acts of cultivation lies in the ability to get closer to the intention, that is, the desired goal, in such a way that fertilization and creation become possible.

Science for a man is the art of intentional materialization, that is, the creation of the possibility of the appearance of the unknown in the known as a result of the processes of fertilization and creation.

To understand this, it should be taken into account that a man can apply the above four arts only by identifying with his goal.

For example, it is simply impossible to erase your personal history if you still strive to adhere to your former image of yourself. Holding on to the old image of yourself, you will not be able to create anything new in your life, but will simply repeat the same stupidity over and over again.

Similarly, it is impossible to stalk someone, and even more so your own behavior, if you can not part with the confidence that you are a victim of the circumstances of your birth and life. Adhering to this confidence, you will not achieve more than the reproduction of the very ways of thinking and behavior that keep you in a state of sacrifice.
Thus, the essence of science is intention, based on the materialization of the goal through the act of creation. This is the basis of all the qualities of personal power that a man hunts in the outside world.

In view of the above, it will be very useful for us to deviate a little from the topic and to consider the difference between personal power and freedom. Power, as we already know, is knowledge gained through experience, and therefore personal power is that knowledge which we gain through our personal experience. Freedom, on the other hand, is a highly complex concept, not one that can be explained in two words. However, from the point of view of the objectives of this book, it will be enough to say that freedom is the product of the use of personal power. But that's not all. Each newfound portion of freedom also generates a new portion of personal power, as a result of which both become something like two sides of the same coin and therefore are fully interactive and interdependent.

If we turn now to the five efforts of man in the outer world, we see that to succeed in these areas, he needs initial personal strength, for if he does not initially have knowledge of what he is hunting for, his efforts will not bring him freedom. But this initial personal power a man can obtain only through efforts in the inner, or private, world. Only by acquiring sobriety, action, feeling, cordiality, and intention will he have the personal power to deal with the outside world in his quest for freedom, for these five qualities of awareness are called personal power.

For those who choose to read my other books, it will be useful to put in mind that these five qualities of awareness are what are called the five aspects of the One Power, manifested through the masculine and the feminine, that is, their two opposites — the nagual and the tonal, the void and the uterus.

Chapter Twenty. The masculine principle: surrendering oneself

Before we begin to consider this section of the doctrine directly, we will need to become familiar with two extremely important concepts: the opening of the heart and the fixing of the unknown on the physical plane. Both of these concepts are intrinsically irrational, so the only way to “work” with them is to follow your instinctive instinct.

But the problem is, of course, that we all have an idea of how to think, but none of us know how to feel or how to listen to the voice of our heart. As a result, most people’s hearts are tightly closed, and the only thing such people can think rationally. However, life is not intellectualization, not thinking, but feeling and perception.

Thus, rational thinking cannot be applied directly to life itself. Rational thinking is applicable when we need to clarify the process of finding the right direction or to work out any practical points related to the material side of existence.

Hence, in everything that concerns the unknown, and especially in everything that concerns the feminine principle, we must follow our feelings, and since all feelings come from the heart, it becomes clear how important it is for a man to open his heart and learn to hear it. As we shall discover in the future, listening to your heart is also the first step towards true creation.

The most important thing in opening the heart and the ability to hear it is taking responsibility for yourself and for everything that happens in our lives. By responsibility, I mean the ability to respond to life intelligently and independently, whether we respond to someone else’s challenge or to ourselves. In the case of a man, the ability to respond intelligently and independently to the purpose of life, which is quite simple, is the evolution of awareness.

But it must be remembered that the masculine principle in any possible context is a representative of the spirit on the physical plane, and therefore the team of the male becomes a team of the spirit. This, of course, does not mean that the male principle commands, but the spirit fulfills. This means that a real man is a person who is in such unity with his own life that there is no separation between his small life and the big life of which he is a part.

In other words, the spirit of the man is one with the universal spirit manifested. And, like the intention of the universal spirit to create for the evolution of awareness, the male spirit also focuses its intention on creativity for the evolution of awareness.

However, because creation has only one purpose, the evolution of awareness, and because the masculine element has this desire, the magnitude of this responsibility becomes apparent.

For example, when running a private business or making a career, remember that the main motive should not be money, but the evolution of mindfulness, and not only our own, but also people around. In this sense, we can create the true intention of the spirit, or we can create monsters of vice that will destroy awareness.

The consequence is that whenever we respond to life, we respond to life’s purpose. For a man, this means that whenever he responds to that purpose, his creative power awakens.

And since it is impossible to live in peace and not to respond to life, the male principle constantly creates, respectively, with the pulsation of life - either for good or for evil. This is done, of course, only in relation to a strong, saturated male principle. If the male is weak, it can react to life rather than respond to it. As a result, such a man is able at best to reproduce others, regardless of whether these others are good or bad.

Nevertheless, it is necessary to make completely clear what it means to respond.

The word “answer” has essentially the same meaning as “respond”, in the sense of “throwing oneself into something”. Fully recognising the immense consequences means understanding that, whenever we respond to the world around us—whether positively or negatively—we bind ourselves to positivity or negativity. If we respond positively, we bind ourselves to creating life-affirming forms; if we respond negatively, the forms we create are destructive.

In our study of the consequences inherent in creation, we also need to consider the true meaning of reproduction. But, considering this concept, it is vital to remember that humanity is essentially hermaphrodite, that is, each carries both the male and female principles. With this in mind, it should be noted that reproduction is the female equivalent of creation.

In other words, the masculine creates and the feminine reproduces. However, due to the fact that every man carries within himself a female principle that complements him, manifesting itself as reproduction, it immediately becomes obvious how important it is for a man to "match" his gender.

If a man does not correspond to his gender, then he loses the male potential of the creator as a result of identification with the reproductive function of his inner female nature.

However, despite the above, it is necessary to remember that the male principle represents the spirit on the physical plane, and the female principle represents the tonal.

Thus, the evolution of awareness occurs unimpeded only in the case of true, reasonable cooperation between the male and female principles, between ourselves and our inner, complementary principles, and ultimately between the creative force of the male principle and the reproductive capacity of the female.

It must always be remembered that the feminine principle (or tonal) never creates in the true sense of the word, but provides the means by which the intention of the spirit can be conceived, endured, and ultimately reproduced. Only by keeping this in mind can we maintain awareness and accept the responsibility of being a man.

This is very much like the principle of “practice perfects” because the evolution of awareness can only take place if the male element tries again and again to create a perfect state of awareness. In the process, it is vitally important for men to have a reasonable cooperation with women. While the man is constantly trying to match the spirit's intent, the woman is trying to understand the male's intent exactly, which, in the case of a man possessing a strong masculine principle, is the spirit's intent. Thus, both principles intelligently cooperate in the process of birthing the intention of life, which is the evolution of awareness.

And the highest act in reasonable co-operation between the male and the female is what we call progeny. This phenomenon is not limited to reproduction on the physical level, it also includes the production of offspring on the emotional and mental levels, since reproduction on all three levels is a necessary condition for the evolution of awareness.

With physical reproduction, everything is extremely simple — for the evolution of awareness, the cessation of human reproduction would be like death: But reproduction on the emotional and mental levels is also vital. Thus, emotional reproduction is the result of the joint intention of the male and female began to materialize their hidden dreams, and mental reproduction is a consequence of the distribution of their knowledge in the pursuit of these dreams.

Without this necessary cooperation between man and woman in the reproduction of their species, the evolution of awareness will cease. And without hidden cooperation in the reproduction of their dreams and goals, the evolution of awareness will turn into disordered chaos of disparate fragments, devoid of any significance due to their lack of coherence.

Therefore, although reproduction is not creation, it is nevertheless as important as creation, because all creation must be preserved, and reproduction serves just this purpose.

For example, if the possibility of air travel, first embodied in reality by the Wright brothers, had not been reproduced again and again, it would never have reached the present level of perfection, and we would not have aviation now.

Our idea of the process of reproduction would be incomplete without considering the role of the male in the phenomenon of contraception. A woman is simply unable to conceive if a man uses contraception or if it is protected by itself: physically, emotionally or mentally. While we should consider contraception at all three levels, it is much easier to understand the role of male if we first consider physical contraception. If there is a need for contraception, and this is the case in any normal marriage, then a man is always protected. A woman should never be responsible for contraception, no matter what method of contraception is used. The reason for this is that the need for protection is too much confusion for a woman.

In saying this, I do not mean at all that women are stupid or that they are unable to put two and two together. On the contrary, I turn to the deep inner drives of women, which have nothing to do with rational thinking and are connected with feeling and the need to manifest the true feminine principle.

This is the most, just to see by the example of the use of pills. Their use causes not only excessive changes in the functioning of the female body, but also a constant stress state due to false symptoms of pregnancy. As a result, it all comes down to the fact that a woman is constantly ready to take male sperm, but is unable to conceive. In addition, she is constantly "pregnant", but this "pregnancy" never develops, and, therefore, a woman can not give birth.

In addition, it is important to understand that a man who forces or persuades women to protect themselves in this way, causes them no less harm emotionally and mentally than physically. Such a man wants to use, or rather, to master a woman, without having the slightest intention of taking on the responsibility assigned to him by this connection as a male principle. As a result, such men are as harmful to women as pills, and are always so inaccurate in communicating with women that they are extremely confused.

For example, such a man at the moment of intimacy with his wife, not wanting that she conceived, begins to enthusiastically develop the idea of building a new house, and the next day declares that he changed his mind. Such men "press" women physically, emotionally and mentally, until eventually they come to such confusion that they feel "fucked".

However, it should be understood that exactly the same harm that such men cause to the outer feminine, their inner woman gets, and as a result they find themselves confused and feel “braced off”, but not by anyone else, but by themselves!

Obviously, the easiest and most effective method of contraception for men is a condom. If a man uses a condom, his message to the woman becomes clear, namely, "Nothing serious, we're just playing." In addition, a man should make sure that if he uses a condom, he should not use a condom emotionally and mentally, which, unfortunately, often happens. Most men today only know how to share their physical bodies. Even if such men are great lovers in bed, they are completely isolated when you need to share your emotions, feelings, ideas, thoughts, fears, doubts, worries, hopes, desires, dreams, etc. As a result, such men do not saturate their women either physically, emotionally, or mentally. But, moving away from the true understanding of the problem, these men wonder why women do not support them and can not realize the desires and dreams that they (men) have never shared with women.

Thus, the responsibility for the use of contraception, as well as the responsibility for how and where it should be used, mainly lies with the man. For it is the man who produces the life-giving sperm or protects it from fertilization, and also saturates the woman on the emotional and mental levels - or deprives her of the opportunity to conceive his emotional stimuli and mental urges.

If a man takes full responsibility for sexual intercourse as well as for contraception, he is always ready to completely share it with a woman. Knowing that it is his responsibility to show the way and lead on it, a true man will always show a woman with utmost clarity, where it is only a “test of potential”, and where what requires conception and birth. If a man does so, the woman always obediently examines all that he meets in their mutual desire to embody his intention, since deep inside she knows and believes that if a man has found his direction and indicated a goal, he must lead her (the woman) and saturate at all three levels so that she is able to conceive this goal, give her birth and nurture her to complete materialization. And before that, the woman is quite willing to discard all the old and, preferring the new, begins to manage her menstrual cycle in this way. In this regard, it is interesting to note how a true woman, led by a strong man, can suddenly begin menstruation at any time of the month simply because the man showed a change of direction.

Another, final piece of advice is needed before the end of this section. The use of contraception by a man should not be considered as the right to have premarital sex. The reason for this is that sex is the highest act of creation and therefore should only take place between husband and wife.

If we take into account everything that we have learned up to the present moment, we will find deep meaning in the long-known tradition of courtship, during which a man “looks at the product”, looking for the female reflection he needs. If the courtship of a man is correct, then both he and the woman get great pleasure from the time spent together. And they know a lot about each other. But since a man must be completely devoted to life in order to become a real man, he cannot take a woman for a “trial period”.

By involving a woman in premarital sexual relations, a man expects a woman to allow him to indulge in the pleasures of marriage, which is not marriage, and in obligations, which are not obligations. But you need to understand that by tempting a woman to such cooperation, a man forces her to sell herself while waiting for the end without a mandatory relationship. Although many of these women manage to establish good marital relations in later periods of life, the fact that they were "in use" was another man's toy remains a fact, and there is no difference between the feelings of the woman who was exploited and the woman who was raped.
From the point of view of a true man, there is no difference between whether a woman voluntarily goes to such manipulation of herself or not. As a man, he is responsible for exercising the right guidance, and therefore it seems unacceptable for a true man to simply take a woman for his sexual satisfaction, without the intention of treating this act with respect, even if the woman herself asks him to lie down with her in bed! Although there are many sexually active men on this planet (including me, who has never engaged in seduction in my life), none of us can really be satisfied with such exploitation of a woman. The beginning of sexual intercourse means the taking of a woman, but at the moment of committing this aspiration, men must be life-affirming. If this is not the case, the man leads the woman along the garden path to his own self-centered goals.

Chapter twenty-one. Competition

Competition plays a very important role in the life of a true man, since to compete is to make joint efforts. It should be remembered that the male principle is essentially very similar to the spirit of a man. That is why the principle of unity is very important to him, whether he is aware of it or not. Thus, a man is a creature seeking company and companionship among other men. That is why, although he was brought up in a spirit of respect for a woman, he often puts his male friends first, neglecting even his own wife.

It follows from the above that true competition is not what people mean today. In reality, true competition is a partnership between men struggling to discover their own potential. Thus, competition is not an attempt to be better than, but a position: If you can, then I can, or vice versa: Come on! If I can, you can too.

In other words, the competition is characterized by mutual support, encouragement and mutual participation. Remember that the world is not what it seems, so we should not accept this concept according to its “nominal value”.

For example, you learned that your best friend, Tim, has family problems: his wife, Julia, flirts with another man. What can you do for your friend? Answer, nothing! Why not? Because you are not Tim, his family is not your family, and his life is not your life. Moreover, since Tim, like all men, is a representative of the spirit, he must fight his battles himself if he wants to believe in himself. So you essentially can’t help Tim, as any of your help will be a hint of his weakness, ineptness, and inability to fight his own battles.

This is true of helping any man — if you do, you will only succeed in helping the one you are trying to help.

So the only help you can give Tim is your support. There are many different ways in which we can support someone. You can support Tim by constantly but unobtrusively passing Julia his praise. You can support Tim by offering him your sympathy, but not in the form of condolences. If you sympathize with him, you will only provoke him to indulge in self-pity, in which case he will be even less inclined to fight for his marriage.

By sympathy, I mean you'll be where he needs you, even if it's a deca guitar. But by far the best support we can give someone, and especially another man, is a simple expression of sincere cordiality. A calm but warm greeting, an offer of something to drink, a calm joint pastime, a willingness to listen, a good sense of humor (i.e. the ability to laugh at the stupidities of life) and a warm smile are all really precious gifts to a man, alone leading a battle in which no one can help him.

And while none of us can fight battles instead of other men, we can always be there for them for support and encouragement. By believing in your friend and expressing your faith to him, you can inspire Tim to find his own dignity and thus fight for his rights.

Sometimes the challenges life presents make it difficult for us to recognise our dignity and, therefore, our right. Yet until we recognise our own dignity and understand that it gives us the right to fight, we remain trapped in the desire to retreat and accept defeat. At such times, encouragement such as “Fight! You are worth it!” is invaluable.

Sometimes a person can not find anything valuable in himself. However, simply because someone near him wants him to fight, this person fights like a lion, and not necessarily because he believes in himself, but because he does not want to disappoint someone who believes in him. This is exactly in the spirit of the position: “Even if I am worth nothing, I have nothing to lose if I give myself to this battle, but maybe you will benefit from the nobility of my actions. So I can be worthy of your faith in me.” Such is the piercing beauty of the human spirit.

The third thing you can do for your friend Tim is to share your experience and knowledge. Although Tim must find his own path and have his own experience in order to discover his own knowledge, it is very helpful for each man to know that he is not alone in his battle for the right to be a man. Sometimes our challenges may seem excessive, but by being able to compare our challenges to those of others, we invariably gain a more balanced perspective, a sense of confidence, and a tremendous belief in ourselves and our abilities.

It’s often said that sharing a joke with someone is twice as fun, and sharing a burden is twice as easy — and it really is! There is nothing more beautiful than two men sharing their joys and sorrows with each other, for although each of them knows that he must be and will be alone in his knowledge, in his heart each of them also knows that in this communion with the other he is not really alone, but one with his friend due to the unity of all living things.

Standing side by side, each fights his own battles; two such men are not really alone anymore. The feeling of oneness with life means oneness with all living and non-living things.
But mutual support, mutual encouragement, and the ability to share one’s joys and sorrows are not — or at least should not be — something that only happens between two friends. Being a representative of the spirit on the physical plane, a true man manifests this in all situations of his life.

Therefore, if Tim is your neighbor, whom you know well, and you are the man that Julia dreams of, then you should not show any activity in this situation. On the contrary, you should use this challenge to win Tim’s friendship and trust. Similarly, a true man will perceive his competitors in business: not as people who must be suppressed or destroyed, but as potential allies or even friends competing to reach their full potential and thus claim the right to own the power of their male nature.

From the above, it becomes clear that a true man is not a person who feels threatened by other men. On the contrary, he is inspired by their perfections and constantly tries to compete on an equal footing with other men. Thus, a true man does not feel the need to “press” other men, he tries to inspire them to a kind of competition, so that he and they push each other to new heights of knowledge that would be impossible without competition.

This is what I think attracts men to compete with each other. The reason why they do this is that a true man awakens in himself and others a strong need to develop and take advantage of a potential that has not yet been manifested, and this potential, of course, is masculinity.
But how much the original meaning of the competition has been distorted! Because of his ignorance, man has turned competition into something vile and destructive, and instead of inviting other men to compete together for the common good, most of today's men are not too busy competing against each other with an emphasis on destruction, especially on the destruction of the sense of unity, comradeship, brotherhood.

So disharmony, chaos, fear, hatred, doubt, prejudice, suspicion, rule the world unchallenged, which is becoming more and more divided and fragmented as people become more and more frightened and closed in their thinking.

Chapter twenty-two. The upcoming trip

You and I have already overcome most of this little book, and I have to point you in the right direction. Now you are quite capable of assessing the knowledge gained here and using it to find your own path in life as a man. And if you follow this advice, you will find that the information that was given to you begins to open up new spaces and new sensations before you and these new sensations carry new knowledge, that is, power.

Take this step one day, and I assure you that the time when you will begin to live according to the new knowledge will not take long. This is what is meant by “claiming your rights to force.” No one can do it for you. Only you can claim your rights to power. When you learn this, you will begin to learn what it means to be a real man: how much you learn depends on how much power you can claim. By claiming rights to a small amount of power, you will gain only a small knowledge of what it means to be a man, but by claiming rights to a huge power, you will learn a lot about being a man.

I cannot say how long this process will take, how much you will be able to know and what to achieve, since it is entirely up to you. As a representative of the spirit on the physical plane, you should always remember that there are no instructions for the evolution of awareness. As the spirit writes his own "instruction" right in the course of action, as life is one and the spirit is one, so every man must learn to be alone in his knowledge and write his own "instruction".

But the greatest responsibility of every man is that, being a representative of the spirit, he cannot refer to ignorance, he cannot say, "I did not know." We all come into this life unknown how. And then slowly but surely this ignorance begins to destroy us, so if we don't find ourselves, who will tell us?

HOW?

Whenever we need higher guidance, all we can do is open ourselves to the world around us. Remember that the world is feminine, and the Great Mother of all that exists always seeks to teach us and show us the way, helping us in our effort to open our hearts to her and accept her guidance. Let your vision of the intent of the spirit be based on what our Great Mother teaches us all. In other words, as a man, you must develop your ability to respond to life sufficiently to draw from it whatever you may need in your quest for masculinity.

I have sketched out for you a map of the area that many of us have already crossed, and if you use this map wisely, it will help you a lot. But you should know that as a man, you should now plan your own search and choose your direction. You have to give yourself to your sense of purpose. How you do it and what you understand by your own destiny depends entirely on your individuality and allows you to constantly remember that, as a representative of the spirit, you are primarily a creator playing your part in the great theme of one life.

Believe in this command, believe in yourself, for in the end, that’s all you have. Along the way, you will meet other men with the same search, and when you meet them, go with them until your paths coincide, as in this fellowship you will learn a lot from each other through mutual support, mutual inspiration and sympathy. Always remember these men, and in this memory of your mutual search and brotherhood, do not forget that in moments of loneliness or in moments of despair you will draw strength and inspiration from the memory that, to compete means to fight together and if you can, then so can I!